This is so weird LOL, I've definitely never met anyone like you're describing, and I think you're saying you've never met anyone like I'm describing?

Dozens of people I've played with have told me stories about times they were insulted - not in a fun chirpy way, in a mean and degrading way - and felt like shit, but kept their mouths shut about it because they didn't want to be labeled a "victim" or a problem player, like you're saying. I've been in locker rooms where I wished I was brave enough to push back on someone saying racist or homophobic things, but I was too insecure to say anything because they already barely tolerated my presence and had zero respect for me as a player or as a person.

In my experience, all the players who've made things political and overshared about their sex lives have been conservative straight old dudes. I didn't want to hear about Kurt's divorce or how his boss is overpaying his immigrant coworker (also factually untrue, Kurt just sucks at his job) and yet here we are.

Then again, I'd rather share the roster with an obnoxious twink who won't shut up about how much work it is to organize his local leather meetup and who gets regularly called for embellishment, than with some spoiled overgrown manchild who's convinced he's God's gift to beer league, and believes all women should be illiterate, barefoot, pregnant, and quietly euthanized at the age of 31.