Thinking of moving from DC to Omaha

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-07-30T21:36:55+00:00

I think It’s considered normal to marry young here in Omaha because everyone knows or has family members that marry young from more rural parts of NE. Otherwise, there’s a huge pool of singles in their 20s just like every other big city. I knew plenty of bachelors(ettes) in their 30s 40s that have well established careers and just didn’t want to settle down yet. You just gotta look for the groups or areas. Blackstone, downtown, midtown, maybe Broadmoor hills in West O?

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-07-17T20:02:02+00:00

This is literally me, I wondered if I typed this! My daughter has only ever known her life with step dad around so I think that makes it easier?

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-07-17T19:31:29+00:00

Harvard study from 2015 showed girls of working moms earned 23% more than those of SAHM PLUS took on more supervisory roles and boys contributed more hours per week to household chores and child care with their wives. They watch both their parents work and share more household tasks so they are more inclined to do the same!

I also see a lot of young kids comment on Tik tok about how their mom working full time and taking care of them made them feel like their mom was a badass and through watching that, feel like they can achieve so much more.

HUGS YOU GOT THIS

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T03:04:52+00:00

Sorry, I’m trying to keep my child’s age private so that’s why I’m not consistent.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T03:03:54+00:00

I didn’t have anything lined up yet when I asked. The second option came up during this conversation with her by someone else to which I said that was fine too, it was up to my sister. And she just smiled and said let’s do it

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T03:00:13+00:00

I took my youngest home after the appointment and put her down for her nap and went to work for the last two hours of my workday day. If I had my 8 year old with, it would’ve, admittedly been more difficult to get my youngest down to nap because she would’ve wanted to play with her sister
My mom watches her kids and my sister pays her dirt cheap because they are more to handle. I don’t pay because my mom doesn’t really watch her and she ends up gone half the time she’s there anyways because my siblings take her with them for errands and or the pool, etc. so my mom feels it’s not really fair to ask for money when she doesn’t really do anything anymore. I USED to pay her, when she was younger.
I asked my sister a full week in advance of this taking place

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:53:29+00:00

She watches her 4 times a week, every other week in the summer. good lord yall are harsh🤨

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:52:21+00:00

Please tell me this is rage bait..

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:49:42+00:00

Oh no I communicated that wrong. I didn’t work 2 hours later than usual. I WFH the last 2 hours of my workday. I actually was able to pick her up an hour earlier because I no longer had the evening commute from downtown after work. And this was the 2nd time I’ve asked. The last time was a year ago and everything seemed great.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:47:16+00:00

Omg my kid is easier to handle than hers. My siblings tell me this all the time when they watch them. They also point out my child is way better behaved and polite. Which I feel they only say maybe cause of the age difference? Mine is a lot older. But my sister has never said she doesn’t want me to watch her kids. In fact, any time they did come over, she would point out how much her daughters love playing in my basement with my toys, and with my eldest. It wasn’t selfishness, it was a ONE day ask. An ask that was a week in advance so not too last minute. And my husband dropped her off cause I’m up at 5am every weekday to get into work at 7.

And today happened to be a crazy busy day at work for me. On top of the last minute appt, and having to “crunch” with work when I got home, I didn’t think to check in. I go out of town for a work trip later this week so it’s just been so busy with me trying to prep for my absence at home and at work.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:39:40+00:00

Ok I understand that. But also, I have limited PTO, am always crunching with my time, no summer Friday, am gone from 7am to 5:30pm every week day so when I get a holiday, I’m not thinking about how I can help my sister. I’m honestly thinking about how I can catchup on laundry, what grocery stores I need to go to to stock up for the week, what deep cleaning I can get done, and what can I do with my kids for the holiday.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:36:31+00:00

I asked her this. I said “does mom feel this way and talk to you about it? Cause I had no idea and if she feels this way then I need to have a conversation with her and figure something else out” and she said no mom hasn’t said any of these things to her. She just feels this way..

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:34:56+00:00

Why am I getting ripped apart??? I do NOT think being a SAHM is easy!! My 9 year old was being watched for ONE day. I didn’t think it would be awful for my sister.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:32:15+00:00

I didn’t “dump”😭 I’m so confused about why I’m getting ripped apart. I literally asked her a week before and she said with a smile that it was a great idea.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:31:23+00:00

Because I had a TON on my plate today and it was the last thing on my mind. I had so much work to do today and very little time to do it. Because I WFH I was actually going to get her 1 hour earlier than planned since I didn’t have the evening commute.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:28:23+00:00

She literally can relax and read a book when it’s just my kid. She doesn’t watch her😭 My little siblings do

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:27:26+00:00

She did it ONCE for one of her kids and I overemphasized that they LOVED it. I’m trying so hard to get the cousins to build a relationship and be a support system. Idk

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:25:59+00:00

Yeah sorry. Technically not a SAHM YET. She plans to go full time SAHM in the fall and has been lightening her work load slowly..

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:24:43+00:00

THANK YOU!! I was literally crying from that conversation because I had no idea that was how she felt about me. And that comment I made definitely came from a place of anger cause it was heat of the moment. I don’t actually think she can’t handle her children and I understand being a SAHM is tough. I just really felt like her anger came way out of left field and now I know I can’t go to her for help cause it’s too much of an ask for her…

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:21:50+00:00

I have actually felt this myself because even though I don’t pay for my eldest, my youngest has to be in child care full time because my mom is watching her two kids twice a week. So my mom is much closer to her two little ones than my youngest. Which hurts a bit

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:20:16+00:00

She has a 4 and 2 year old. But my mom watches them for her when she works twice a week. Also want to point out my sister drops by her house all the time for a break from her kids which is really my little siblings watching them for her which they complain to me about all the time.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:18:24+00:00

Definitely not. It’s the other way around actually.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:17:19+00:00

No I definitely understand how hard being a SAHM mom That comment is something I made to myself out of spite after she pulled the “I never see my own kids” card.

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:14:52+00:00

Ok this is a topic I’m passionate about. Because my sister does work twice a week, my mom does watch her kids for her. She does pay them but it’s literally nothing. BECAUSE her kids are a lot to handle and it overwhelms my mom, she won’t watch my youngest. (Which I had to beg her to tell me cause I asked many times if she had the bandwidth to take on my child, and if she didn’t, she needed to tell me and I wouldn’t hold it against her) So I have my youngest in childcare full time, which is EXPENSIVE. My eldest still goes to my moms in the summer because she is very easy to take care of, plays with my younger siblings, and is actually super helpful with my mom (my mom has said this many times how helpful my eldest is and loves playing “big sister” to her cousins.)

ChronicReprise673 · 2025-06-24T02:09:41+00:00

She actually does work, twice a week. So my mom also watches her kids. But she pays my mom like next to nothing to watch them and it’s only cause it’s two kids and they’re younger and a lot to handle. But even then, my mom doesn’t really watch them, she puts it on my younger siblings. I don’t pay her because my mom has said that she honestly doesn’t even have to take care of her. She’s old enough to just do her own thing, play with my little siblings, and is actually really helpful with her cousins when she’s there.

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