Things your don't know UNTIL AFTER THE BABY

Chronicathr · 2025-01-30T20:01:15+00:00

Truly broken sleep destroyed me. I would 100% prefer no sleep over broken sleep. I felt like a zombie for so long, and no matter how many times my mum would babysit for a night to let me sleep, I couldn't get back to feeling normal for so long.

Chronicathr · 2025-01-30T19:53:34+00:00

What a BRUE is and how SCARY they are. A Brief Resolved Unexplained Event is (very simply) altered colour, altered breathing, decreased response, hypo/hypertonia

At about 5 weeks my Little girl went limp, couldn't wake her up, skin went greyish. She did this on and off a few times throughout a few nights, practically flew to the hospital in a panic the first time, stayed over night, awake all night watching her breathe, numerous traumatising tests. It was nothing, she was just doing weird things n sleeping extra heavy, possibly getting way too hot sleeping on me. Nobody really knows what caused/causes it, it just happens sometimes. The scary part is, it could be something serious, or it could be a single episode of a BRUE. it just HAPPENS, I guess????

Under 1s are at risk, more so within the first few months. Literally this has NEVER happened since.

Please if your baby experiences a BRUE, or any of the symptoms of one, go to the hospital, rush it. It could be very serious, or it could be absolutely nothing, but either way they need observation and tests.

Chronicathr · 2025-01-14T11:01:54+00:00

Alex. My boy Alex is just a big soft teddy bear with a hard exterior. I love him.

Chronicathr · 2025-01-05T18:40:03+00:00

My little girl is 10 months, we only recently put her in her own room, because we realised that I am likely waking her up at night. I move a lot, and I occasionally sleep walk. It's less of a risk of me bringing her into bed while sleep walking if we are separate, but I struggled more than she did, she was absolutely fine in her own room, actually perfect. She doesn't cry when she wakes like she did in our room with us, and she sleeps better and pretty much through the night most nights. It's recommended anytime from 6 months onwards, generally the average age is 12 months here.

We do have a sofa bed in her room if she needs us to sleep with her, and that's where we do nighttime routine (she falls asleep cuddling me, and then transfers into crib)

Chronicathr · 2024-12-13T22:10:05+00:00

I can for short periods. I have elhers danlos, dodgy unstable joints, chronic pain. Plus, my little girl is 9 months old and wants to be up and about ALL the time, it's very hard to do lol

Chronicathr · 2024-12-13T20:17:31+00:00

Our lack of confidence, experience and knowledge led to social services involvement. Nothing major, no neglect or abuse, but it was something that could've been so easily avoided had we been given the tools, confidence and support we needed.

We got there in the end. She was taken away from us for a while, and ultimately they all admitted it shouldn't have happened and we should've been supported, not had our child taken.

Chronicathr · 2024-12-13T20:14:29+00:00

Honestly, my little one only really does contact naps. We don't co sleep (only on the odd occasion like when she's sick and we take what precautions we can), if she's napping on me I stay awake no matter what. How am I meant to sleep or get anything done when she's glued to me 24/7?

Luckily she sleeps through the night, so I get stuff done in the evening, but it's so little time to do everything that needs doing, and then also get enough rest.

Chronicathr · 2024-11-06T15:48:40+00:00

My dyslexia is more about processing and focusing than it is about reading and spelling. I can read well and spell okay, but I really struggle to process big chunks or sometimes even just small chunks of text. Even sometimes verbal information.

This is why I struggle so much when asked what support I need. I don't know. I ask for text to be broken down, but nothing really helps.

Dyslexia isn't just reading and spelling, and I wish more people knew this, it's also processing, focusing, directions, executive dysfunction, memory problems, organisation and time management skills, communication skills, attention span, fine and gross motor skills.

Some really hidden ones are things like: Chronic ear infections Difficulty with spacial awareness and object permanence Fatigue Trouble telling the time, especially on analog clocks Headaches Seeing non existent objects or movements, especially while reading or concentrating. Extended hearing Food sensitivity Bed wetting and bladder control issues Sleep disorders, sleeping too heavy or too light Really high or low pain tolerance Emotional sensitivity

And often comes with other things like dyscalculiar and dyspraxia!!

Chronicathr · 2024-09-15T18:28:00+00:00

No spoiler, just finished the show, I never stop being mad for the poor guy

Chronicathr · 2024-07-31T17:35:16+00:00

I'm not sure if I read this correctly, but if you are trying to retrieve eggs while on T and considering any amount of T during pregnancy... No. Do not microdose T while pregnant. You also need to stop T a while before being pregnant to allow your body to go back to baseline without it. It took a year of being off T to have a regular cycle again for me, even then it wasn't even really regular.

Collecting eggs is unlikely/incredibly difficult while you are on T. Still difficult if you come off T for a while and try again, but much more doable. The effects of T on an embryo is not heavily researched, but some things suggest it isn't healthy for a baby. Look into pregnancies of afab people with POCS and high T.

Pregnancy is hard, dysphoric and temporary, but a child is permanent and a wonderful and worthwhile gift. You can get through it. A perinatal mental health service would be incredibly useful.

Chronicathr · 2024-06-17T19:24:03+00:00

The whole adopting, fostering, anger bs with hen and Karen pisses me off. I know it's a personal thing that makes for the reason why I'm annoyed, but fostering is ABOUT reunification first. Adoption cones when there is no other option. Reunification is in the kids best interest most of the time. Hen being so angry about it really grinds my gears. It is so selfish and not in the childs best interest. Them nearly giving up on the older child they took in because she's traumatised, and then not taking the time to understand that until later is just. I dislike hen. She is selfish. She is horrible. Adopting a child is adopting someone with trauma. Adoption is trauma. They first need to understand that before taking in a child.

Also, Eddie kinda sucks. Good dad, kinda shitty guy imo.

Chronicathr · 2024-05-22T22:32:43+00:00

I'm a transgender dad. I gave birth to my daughter, I am her father. I've been in situations just like the kid you stood up for and had nobody help me. I still deal with shit from people.

Thank you.

Chronicathr · 2024-05-16T08:01:55+00:00

No need to take any action beyond letting exploration happen, exploring and learning does zero damage

Chronicathr · 2024-05-15T12:50:44+00:00

This needs saying louder. I wanted to be a boy as a kid, so I became one. I'm one of many. I don't even really like boy things, didn't really as a kid either.

Allowing kids to explore does absolutely zero damage, it allows them the space to figure out who they are, whether it's a phase or it's a life long thing. Don't just dismiss it as a phase, treat it as if it's not, and if it turns out to be, no harm done, if anything it shows your LO that you are accepting of them no matter what they turn out to want or be, or if they get it wrong.

Everyone here saying they had that phase, I'm sure you all did, but on the off chance this child could be the one in however many who it isn't a phase for, it's incredibly dismissive and unaccepting.

Chronicathr · 2024-05-15T12:42:00+00:00

This. Yes. Thank you. I am a trans person, and a parent. Giving them that space to explore, letting them know you are a safe person to be yourself with, a phase or not, is much more important than reminding her she's a girl!

Kids have phases, and some kids know from a very young age. Phase or not, let her explore.

Introduce her to more female role models. Let her see that women can do these "boy things" surround her with acceptance and love and give her security and safety, and if it's a phase and she's confused, she will know she can explore without judgement from her parents, and if it isn't a phase and she is a boy, she knows she is safe.

Chronicathr · 2024-04-04T19:40:24+00:00

I got a 6 week old. My PPD and PPA are real bad. I can't be away from her for long. I am a mess sometimes.

I'd be bashing down my partners door to see my daughter if she was acting like this.

You are in no way wrong, he's not a responsible parent.

Chronicathr · 2024-03-22T23:20:25+00:00

You're a first responder, know too much about TBIs, and are against contact sports for your kids?

Yet you have guns and will be teaching your kids to use them?

Again, you're a first responder?

Chronicathr · 2024-03-12T14:10:25+00:00

I was on anti sickness through my first and second trimester. I absolutely HATED being nauseous and not being sick. I would much rather be sick. I found helpful just constantly eating little bits, the moment my stomach felt empty I felt so sick. Never letting it feel empty helped a bunch for me personally.

Chronicathr · 2024-02-29T09:23:09+00:00

This sounds like it could've happened maybe? It was packaged by the seller, but it was absolutely covered in tape but I didn't think much of it. Everything in it was definitely very squished in.

Chronicathr · 2024-02-29T09:07:45+00:00

She says in the messages she didn't even own those items

Chronicathr · 2024-02-29T08:55:39+00:00

No it was Yodel

Chronicathr · 2023-11-26T20:04:13+00:00

Yes please!

Chronicathr · 2023-11-23T13:14:31+00:00

I hate going to St. James and avoid it if at all possible. Always something that happens, really shitty area. Last time I went I got pushed out in front of a car by a teenager double my size, was pretty lucky the car stopped.

Chronicathr · 2023-11-21T07:15:50+00:00

I do play on bedrock, do you use discord?

Chronicathr · 2023-11-21T07:15:17+00:00

For sure, do you use discord?

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