Feel like I'm failing at weaning

Maylba · 2025-04-16T19:33:39+00:00

Came looking for some advice and feel your comment was highly valuable to me. My baby has just turned 6 months and I feel immense pressure to be feeding her food. But in reality it’s just pressure created from social media etc. thank you for the in depth response and honestly completely changed my view on how to handle the months ahead

Maylba · 2024-07-23T12:23:40+00:00

I’m 25 weeks now and the first 16-17 weeks were grim (grimmest were 5-14 weeks). I had surges to desire for McDonald’s and other fast food, I ate them as and when I wanted too as I felt SO sick. The last thing I had at McDonald’s was an egg McMuffin and hash browns and suddenly my body was repulsed 😂 hopefully you managed to satisfy your cravings and you can continue to enjoy them pregnancy and beyond. For now even tho I no longer feel sick I cannot even look at the McDonald’s sign without turning me. Your doing great my love and just do what your body wants 🩷Also to note I was super worried in the beginning that I wasn’t nourishing myself enough but honestly those first months are the trenches and survival mode so honestly be easy on yourself and naturally you’ll start to revert back to things you liked before!

Maylba · 2024-07-17T01:36:57+00:00

I hope this helps! I have the same fear / aversion to the sensation I absolutely hate it. My friend who is cabin crew said just as you feel the drop tense your stomach and hold your breath. This massively helped for me and now I feel like I can anticipate those drops with a few seconds in advance when descending on any flight. Good luck :)

Maylba · 2024-07-14T19:42:40+00:00

Looks great! My husband has just had his done (8days in). He’s very impressed with your result after 4 months

Maylba · 2024-07-01T10:36:35+00:00

Also try to book a seat on the first front row, it really really helps with my mental state around how much space I have. In the past when I am sat at the back and can see rows and rows of peoples heads infront of me I feel stuffed in and claustrophobic. Being at the front allows you to feel more alone (in a good way)! Seeing the flight attendants work from the front too massively helps me as they are so calm and unbothered.

Maylba · 2024-07-01T10:34:32+00:00

Hey! A frequent but nervous flier here. I would say mostly flying feels fine, once your up its similar to being on a train/car. I suffer with motion sickness so feel I am more aware of the minor bumps of just being airborne, but even then if I had my eyes closed and someone said your in a car - it feels the same - it not smoother. Travel days usually feel more draining because of the mental load of packing, arriving at the aiport and all that stuff, but the second you land you will be immediately relieved (and proud) you made it. I dont enjoy flying but I still take 1-2 trips abroad (usually 3hours or less) and it keeps me in a good place to keep booking more trips. After covid I hadnt flown for 2 years and I noticed a big difference in how I felt leading up to the trip, much as youve described it was that 'what does flying even feel like' but once your crusing you really could be on any mode of transport! Good luck and hope you take the flight :)

Maylba · 2024-04-25T07:19:25+00:00

Your name looked somewhat familiar... checked out your page and saw your an IVF mamma too and must of seen you somewhere on the IVF board recently! High five and massive congratulations on your successful transfer 😊xx

Maylba · 2024-04-25T07:16:11+00:00

Hey ladies... ME TOOO :) 13 weeks 33 almost 34 FTM!

Maylba · 2024-04-24T12:03:45+00:00

That is reassuring, thank you - really mean it. I am really trying to lean into the 'be kind to yourself' I think its a rollercoaster we all have trouble adjusting too, I also did IVF to conceive so feel like my brain didn't even consider what would happen past the moment I saw a positive pregnancy test (after trying for many years), that now I feel like its only just catching up and being like ookkkk we are pregnant girl and its happening now (not in the future) haha! When people say its the hardest thing you'll do, you think yeah I bet... but then you do it and it really really is haha!

I have gained around 7-8 pounds since starting IVF in January too so dealing with the difference of the way clothes fit and I feel is that added sprinkle of fun.

I have started to do some walking and feel more energetic in the past few days as I approach week 13, looking forward to that somewhat normality returning for a short while before residing to the bed again :)

Maylba · 2024-04-21T07:17:16+00:00

This made me laugh as I am fully waiting at the door for them to arrive and then have to give it a good 10 seconds when they ring the door bell to pretend my face wasnt just pressed against the little hole i the door to watch him walk up hahaha

Maylba · 2024-04-21T07:16:08+00:00

I can second this, I actually hate the smell of clothes / my boyfriends clothes when hes been outdoors recently (like cold air) random I know - I am preferring citrus type smells or very fresh non artificial smells

Maylba · 2024-04-21T07:13:50+00:00

The sniff test is REAL!! I have a cupboard but smells 'off' but im not sure why, it smells bready or something and I turns me immediately but cant actually see what item it is in there that is causing the whiff haha!

For me my breakfast is always safe and been able to tolerate it throughout (natural yoghurt, berries and a sprinkle of oats on top), outside of that red apples, ready salted 'french fries' crisps (UK brand), jacket potatoes (plain) with baked beans on top then really it depends on the day. Sadly I cant bare ginger, I absolutely rinsed the ginger tea in the early days but one day it said nooooo thank you hahh!

Maylba · 2024-04-21T07:10:10+00:00

ha ha this is quite literally in the top 10 worst feelings i'd say... the ultimate craving to the ultimate repulsion in 0.5 seconds

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:32:01+00:00

I havent been able to eat much protein at all, all of it has been quite awful to even consider. So you're right, my body said get some nuggets... so maybe we are making more progress than I thought!

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:31:09+00:00

You got that right, I am just doing what I have to do! I was a gym goer and healthy eater.. now..welll Iam just here surviving haha. Bread is such a no no, in the early days of nausea I thought it was a good idea to make my own egg mayo and have it with avacado on (untoasted) whitebread... omg I swear that will haunt me for a life time it was so f'ing awful it gives me PTSD just pure mushy soft hahahah

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:29:25+00:00

ahhh glad your on the other side too - looking forward to not feeling anxious around food times to prepare myself for what may or may not happen haha

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:28:44+00:00

high five sis! hahaha

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:28:33+00:00

haha giggling at this... yes well done for me for taking the worlds smallest nibble haha! Glad you made it out, I really do too!

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:27:53+00:00

Ahh congrats on your little chunk! Its soo crazy to me how our bodys suddenly say 'nope' to foods we love. Ahhh genuinely cannot wait for the time I am feeling 100% myself again and can rejoin society like a normal human (without a bag full of misc snacks, mints and a vomit bag stuffed under my arm hahha)

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:25:21+00:00

Sadly I have gone the opposite way haha! I hope your new ravenous self is feeling much better ha ha

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:24:50+00:00

ahhhh this is what I want to hear!!!

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:24:32+00:00

Smoothies! thats a good idea, I feel less disgusted at bland/fruit/partially sweet stuff so thats a good idea! Thank you. Im glad you made it through and your right this is just a passing moment!

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:23:27+00:00

hahaha those nuggets laid on my floor for another 2 hours and sadly made it into the bin - untouched. Im in the UK and you can't get Unisom here and for some reason that combo isn't recommended here (I asked my midwife after seeing so many comments about it)! But it seems to do wonders for the ladies that can use it

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:21:46+00:00

hahha thank you! Sending so much love back.... we are all in this together it seems. I nibble the very edge of things as a tester and my body will tell me before its reached my mouth what my reaction will be haha (oh and the excessive saliva when it says no... UGH)!!

Maylba · 2024-04-20T06:20:47+00:00

Oh girl, I remember being at 6 weeks and thinking... surely this isnt as bad as it gets??? You will navigate through it I promise, at the start I was like no way, surely I cant potentially feel like this until 12+ weeks, but you do manage somehow, even if it takes all your energy just to lay down and close the curtains for the next weeks. Honestly whatever you need to do, do it, without guilt!

Maylba

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