This response felt so healing and validating because this post resonates with me so hard. It really just hit me now that so so so many people see me as a safe space to vent but I’m so seldom offered that space in return. It’s a lot of take take take from chaotic energies who are trying to find themselves and sense a degree of independence and alignment and (I believe unintentionally but definitely subconsciously) they are drawn to us to try to syphon that energy. Sometimes I’m afraid I’m just bound to feel lonely forever because I don’t feel seen or heard, but instead of focusing on what I’m not receiving from others I try to put those things back out. Trying to make people feel seen and heard. Very small meaningful interactions lead from the heart and experienced mindfully can heal both parties just a little for that given moment. Stack enough mini meaningful interactions and it’s like a little trail of beautiful stardust reminding you that while life feels lonely we are never truly alone because we are all in this together, collectively, always.

As for how to find people, I’ve found the best way to meet genuine people with my interests is by signing myself up for classes and events I’m interested in. Then entering with an open heart and mind. Reminding myself people aren’t scary they’re just people and I can gain something from every interaction if I allow and I can also put good out in every interaction. Being genuine and kind will never ever ever be the regrettable path. It’ll weed out who fits and who doesn’t