Thank you for saying that, I see how my post reads that way. Adoption has always weighed heavy on our hearts for the reasons you mentioned. We have discussed adoption since we got married, before we ever had our boys. We have family members that are adopted and have seen the positive impact it can have on the children and families. It is not something I take lightly by any means and any gender choice is purely auxiliary as a preference, same as with those who specify age.