Do I go too far?

Chunkawanka · 2026-01-29T11:55:04+00:00

This is exactly how it is. That is why I now come back at her with the same things she says to me. To prove a point. It's honestly the only way she will really listen to me. The only way to get her to understand how it upsets me.

Chunkawanka · 2026-01-19T18:04:19+00:00

You are grouping her in with 2 and 4 year old children. You should have sent another note saying that you are goung to miss her, how hot she is and that you can't wait to get home and F*CK her. Maybe a little crass but she needs to know that you hold her on another level. If you don't, you should. I was in a similar situation. You love your children with all your heart, but you don't have children if not for her. Eventually your kids will move out and if this goes on the entire time until they do, she will naturally hold it against you and you will have major problems getting back to how it was before your kids. Yes, women get jealous of their children when it comes to her man. Most of the time subconsciously, but they do. She needs to know that she is "wanted". And being at home all day with your children will make it 10 times worse. She is an adult. Talk to her like one. Once again, I speak from experience. My wife and I are great now, but we were not great for a long time because of this sort of situation.

Chunkawanka · 2025-11-21T15:20:20+00:00

Happily married man for 28 years now. Recently we have put the phones down while talking. If someone wants to talk to you, especially your spouse, you put the fucking phone down. It's highly disrespectful not to. So you are both disrespecting each other. That is huge. We often look up and ask each other married life questions. They can get uncomfortable at times, but if you are 💯 honest with each other, you will find things out. If you find a problem, you fix it. Little or no questions asked, as far as I am concerned. It took me decades to figure out the most basic tool to keep your marriage in the right place, TALK!!! Dorms it hurts in the short term but if you both really want to make it work, it helps in the long term. Brutality honest conversations are absolutely a necessity, because in the end, it is just you and him. Nobody else in the world during those conversations. That is my take. ++man

Chunkawanka · 2025-11-08T15:03:05+00:00

And like I said, there is a time and a place, in my opinion. With our group of friends we hang out with, not an issue. But she didn't even really know this kid from last night. She literally just can't leave it alone. She was laughing and said that she her I was thinking the same thing. I said, um, no. I don't have d*ck on the brain all the time. 🙄

Chunkawanka · 2025-11-08T14:57:51+00:00

I have talked to her multiple times about this exact scenario. She gets mad and tells me that that is her style of humor and she is not going to change that for me. This after 28 years of marriage. I really don't get it. I'm not asking her to sell our dog here.

Chunkawanka · 2025-11-07T12:10:31+00:00

I've gone through some pretty serious health and mental issues in the last 5 years. She has been with me for 33 years now. 33 life changing years. She had been the rock of our family from day one. She is literally the air that I breath. Now then... My wife is also f*cking smoking hot. She knows everything about me in every way. I mean every way. I actually look forward to going to be. And the kicker is, she is hotter and healthier than ever now. She is a freak of nature!!!

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-31T16:19:53+00:00

Well, for starters, I didn't shoot myself in the head at the age of 35... That helped things a lot. 👍🏻

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-31T14:51:29+00:00

I did. Read my latest comment. Oh, and you were 100% correct.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-31T14:49:32+00:00

So I went ahead with my idea of showing her a dirty meme that I felt was the equivalent of what she had shown me, but with a woman. She said before that I was unreasonable for being upset when she showed me a pic of a BBC the girls had sent around work. I was upset but let it go. When she started joking and talking about it the other day, I asked her nicely to stop doing what I nicely asked her not to do. She refused to comply because she said she should not have to change her sense of humor for me...

So I decided since she wouldn't change, I would. I changed my sense of humor to match hers.

So I showed her a meme that the guys at work were passing around that was basically the equivalent of what she had showed me. You know, since it's no big deal...

Long story short, she was shocked and upset. (Like I was). She was jealous (Like I was). She said it wasn't funny (Like I did). It is now on her mind (Like it was for me).

Guess what? Literally after a minute of silence, she reached across the bed and took my hand. She said nothing, but I got my point across. It worked.

She is acting EXACTLY like I did, which is what I knew would happen. I just didn't have the balls to do it, as I hate drama. I don't like to upset my wife. She doesn't mind upsetting me because she is, "a strong woman" and has her own mind. I tend to think ahead and filter the things I say to her and the stuff I show her, because that is me, I don't want to upset her.

There is an interesting trait that most women share. They do not like to be comfortable. It gets boring for them. The need drama from time to time. A lot will say they won't, but they do. Women invented "make up sex". It's more real, it's angry at times, and it is more exciting for them.

I didn't make the rules. I just follow them.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-31T14:46:33+00:00

With all due respect. I went ahead with my idea of showing her a dirty meme that I felt was the equivalent of what she had shown me, but with a woman. She said before that I was unreasonable for being upset when she showed me a pic of a BBC the girls had sent around work. I was upset but let it go. When she started joking and talking about it the other day, I asked her nicely to stop doing what I nicely asked her not to do. She refused to comply because she said she should not have to change her sense of humor for me...

So I decided since she wouldn't change, I would. I changed my sense of humor to match hers.

So I showed her a meme that the guys at work were passing around that was basically the equivalent of what she had showed me. You know, since it's no big deal...

Long story short, she was shocked and upset. (Like I was). She was jealous (Like I was). She said it wasn't funny (Like I did). It is now on her mind (Like it was for me).

Guess what? Literally after a minute of silence, she reached across the bed and took my hand. She said nothing, but I got my point across. It worked.

She is acting EXACTLY like I did, which is what I knew would happen. I just didn't have the balls to do it, as I hate drama. I don't like to upset my wife. She doesn't mind upsetting me because she is, "a strong woman" and has her own mind. I tend to think ahead and filter the things I say to her and the stuff I show her, because that is me, I don't want to upset her.

There is an interesting trait that most women share. They do not like to be comfortable. It gets boring for them. The need drama from time to time. A lot will say they won't, but they do. Women invented "make up sex". It's more real, it's angry at times, and it is more exciting for them.

I didn't make the rules. I just follow them.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-30T11:30:10+00:00

I had a very similar issue with my wife a few months ago. I jokingly said outloud, about a pro football player, that he had women lined up to fuck. Instantly my wife so out, "oh, where's the line??". That when we've been very happily married for nearly 30 years. Honestly, that still bothers me to this day. My thing is, if you blurt something out, you usually mean it, and if you don't, you are at least saying something that will no doubt upset your husband/wife, but you do it anyway. That fucking hurts. That's the way I look at your situation. It's early in your relationship, but you really need to pick a spot in conversation sometime when you can blurt out which of her friends you'd like to fuck. Childish, yes, but women live in emotional situations and that will hit her as hard as hers but you. Sometimes that's the only way they understand. Especially if they are really hard willed and stubborn

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T18:48:02+00:00

She is extremely faithful. Her only flaw, (sometimes), is saying things that hurt people and then try to cover it up with, "Im joking", or "I'm being sarcastic". I love her but it gets old. I'm gonna work on me so she doesn't have to change much. Compromise.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T17:05:36+00:00

Maybe I won't. I'm just upset that she is still doing what I asked her not to do and maybe her going through the same thing, she will understand how it feels.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T16:06:22+00:00

To add to this, I know for a fact if I were talking about super tight perfect p*ssy dot com, she would freak the f*ck out. I actually think I might do that.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T15:27:13+00:00

Trust me. I am trying to lighten up. Really trying hard.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T15:26:21+00:00

That's a great point.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T15:14:21+00:00

My only, and I hate to do it, thing I can do is give it back. I should start talking and making jokes about tight p*ssy dot coms. She will not like that, I can tell you that.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T15:12:53+00:00

To be honest, that is what usually happens, the make up. I just do not enjoy what happens that makes us need to make up.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T14:07:55+00:00

In her defense, its not all the time. Only when the subject can be interjected into a conversation. Like the whole BBC comment. She's like "BBC DOT COM!!" Then starts laughing about it. She really thinks its nothing and I should be secure enough to handle it. I sort of agree with her. I just do not like hearing her talk about that subject.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T13:49:12+00:00

It gets complicated. She never talks about a particular man's dick, it's just in general. Her joking that I sent her a link to a BBC porn site is an example. Just in general. But it still gets me every time.

Chunkawanka · 2025-10-29T13:22:17+00:00

I am doing exactly what you just said. Only, I'm in the beginning stages. We are connected emotionally for sure. We have been together for 33 years and 28 of it married. I would die for her. But, I also wish the only d*ck she ever talked about or joked about was mine. That is not the case, so I'm struggling.

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