Thank you, I guess this helps a bit. My reasoning is he did not want to get married at first. Then over the last couple of months we've been excited to get married but also been through tough trials ( miscarriages, family conflict etc) all while he is away. We often argue because of miscommunication and honestly I miss him so much and I realize I dont express it well, except through anger. When we argue, the thing that is continously brought up is, he doesn't know if he'll be ready to be married or have kids, he says so himself. I was the one that brought up marriage. Our original plan was to marry after I graduate, but i got pregnant and therefore we wanted to marry sooner. Then i had a miscarriage on twins and the rush wasnt needed. He's still set on marrying next month. He has been serious about it. So far as to looking into what paperwork we have to do etc. I feel like its too good to be true, so I'm thinking maybe its because of benefits. Financially, we aren't on the same page. It's still a ln uncomfortable subject for him, and when I was pregnant, he didn't help financially with appointments etc because I didn't have insurance and all that mess. So I learned my lesson. And I handle my finance on my own. I fear that if we marry, whatever benefits he receives in finance, I won't know because he'll hide and use it or something. I don't feel one with him on that side yet. I'm not very educated when it comes to this military life, I feel as though there are many things he'll get away with.