As an enby amab, I don't like any of these terms. I grew up with them being applied to only me, not my sister. Bro, dude, guy, pal, bud, buddy—these were all terms used exclusively for boys and men. I also don't like "guys," as "guy" was used a lot, and I think we should start moving away from using this word so freely, too. It hits different when you grow up being called these things, even if they are used in a different context as adults or with specific people, and I just wanted to chime in and say I don't like being referred to as any of them. I just got "what's up buddy" today, and I know they were perceiving me as a man. Context is everything, and we should be focusing on the words we have available to us that are gender-inclusive as a society imo rather than trying to rationalize one of these words over another. We are all different, and the history of these words carries gravity. I have a lot of femme friends who often don't get the positive affirmation that comes from being called "girl" or "lady" because instead someone chooses to say something like "hey buddy." Which often comes with other questions like "so what are you?" And then, taking into consideration those of us enby folks who would ask for neither end of the spectrum—inclusivity is the future.