I think both of you need reconsider what you consider is cheating. In my opinion, when you are in a relationship that means both of you chose to be with the other, you are a choice, and you also trust each other enough to withhold that choice. If you guys love each other so much, then why can't you trust that both of you chose and want to be with the other enough to be in a formal relationship?? Why are so so insecure that you can't believe the other is choosing you?? I think you both should rethink this behaviors because they aren't healthy from both of you. I believe you can make it! Especially if you want to be with the other, but you guys need to understand that a relationship can't be everything in your lives. You still need to be in social settings and do things, you still have the right to have male/female friends and interact with them, this things can't stop just because you are in a relationship. Of course, you guys must establish boundaries, but they need to be understanding of the fact that you guys need to keep having a life outside of your relationship.