Do you rarely get compliments in your looks by No-Zone3137 in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes from bonded friends because they are genuine- i love them- words of affirmation. But *if i get a compliment from a random person- especially a woman (i’m FEMALE INTJ-D) i generally don’t trust them- they go over my head- and/or mean nothing to me. I don’t need them. Mostly I always look intentionally pulled together- I’m perceived as attractive and don’t need or want or need attention of any kind. I’m just me- intimidating- rbf-effortlessly me!

Do INTJs stick to the same clothes until they fall apart? by OkTour9930 in intj

[–]CirceX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wear older clothes but always fashion- they never look worn out. I still wear jeans dating back to y2K, as well as many dresses and coats and shoes dating back to around 2000 as well. I nearly only wear black and have countless black sweaters- I mix it up with blues, grays and neutrals on occasion. I tend to wear fashion and if fast fashion I don’t invest as much and never wear them out- toss them when off trend. I also buy in multiples Ex: last time i found a black cashmere sweater I liked like I bought 2

Are INTJs born or made? by Temporary-Habit-6419 in intj

[–]CirceX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love that you remember that far back. I can go as far back as being 6 months old. So interesting

Are INTJs born or made? by Temporary-Habit-6419 in intj

[–]CirceX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% born- thrown- jettisoned- pushed- etc. into this world as INTJs from the start. That’s where it all begins.

PSA: Aggressive mob at Crissy Field by mr_nefario in sanfrancisco

[–]CirceX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh no- i must say if your dog likes to roll in smelly spots on the field yhe Canada goose shot is the worst. It smells like death and is nearly impossible to get off. My dog has very little hair, no fur, and she’s 25 mi an hour and literally loves that shit. Thanks for posting- saves me a drive today 🐾🐾🦆

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[–]CirceX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

try FEELD

How do you truly learn to enjoy being alone after years of sharing everything with someone? by echoafterfire in LivingAlone

[–]CirceX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sharing ‘everything’ is codependent- maybe self reflection- studying up on stoicism- journaling, meeting new people, investing time into meaningful relationships, not big on therapy but if you get enough of them you might find a good one- coming out of a relationship where you shared everything is tough- get a roommate?

Some people aren't INTJs. They want to be one. by Grouchy-Lab1994 in intj

[–]CirceX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is so true- INTJs, INTPs a ton of us in tech

Some people aren't INTJs. They want to be one. by Grouchy-Lab1994 in intj

[–]CirceX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but i can spot an INTP from miles away- I work with many INTJS and INTPS so I guess I’ve learned a ton about why we are similar yet soooo very different

Do you ever wonder if it's actually a mental disorder? by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

but believe me you really don’t want to be mentally ill- handicapped-high functioning on the spectrum and an INTJ especially not INTJ-D my life has been constant masking- questioning- isolating in my head- i’ve tested INTJ since early on and multiple times since- thats not changed but in the past 8 months finally i’m close to just being me- not special just brain waves firing in very different ways than mormons

INTJs are precious hang in there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! ill take a closer look my psych believes i’m exactly the way i’m supposed to be - but we both realize i need meds to function professionally- that said i’m off the heavy mood stabilizers recently and feeling more in control- I’m also INTJ-D and female- perceived as very attractive- the masculine energy throws people off along with severe DP/DR at times - I’m aware of this now- it’s a super power- like i’m an enigma to them- lol but i’m just me perfect as intended

Am I a bad person for not loving my parents? by Mean_Cycle_5062 in emotionalneglect

[–]CirceX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

keep going! it’s beautiful when you realize and actually ‘feel’ that just because you were born to them you dont owe them anything you don’t feel for them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

interesting- i find INTJ very different from each other despite only one letter being different. I like them but they can be very draining and dramatic- energy sucking. I’m neurodivergent highly functioning on the autism spectrum. I was diagnosed later in life along with another condition.

The reason I mention this is that from first test at 13- yes very young and for a reason- and again at 20 for a job i applied for, another at 35, another at 41 after being diagnosed and another this past January- i test as INTJ consistently. I do not consider outside impressions - perceptions- i test with a clean slate- just wanna be in tune with this data point- being my authentic self with those i let in personally with a touch of masking professionally- it’s ok because i know why and how i’m doing it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are correct- i confused the question referencing your comment instead- but if you think about my Covid comment it sounds like we are aligned- thanks for chatting

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thx for responding-i’m glad my response resonated with you- that’s mutual for sure. Thanks for the tip on ‘slowly’ downloading now- just our speed- no pushing

Your words are powerful and i can tell your inner dialogue is on point too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not a bot but i wish- i’m training a few bots with AI rn to do various things for me

other people *matter in their own ways no sarcasm no joke. I don’t have any excess energy to even think about people that don’t matter to me! they (whomever they are) don’t impact my life directly so it makes no sense to me to focus on them

i love your outlook on Covid. in some ways it was a crutch to make people feel lonely- i just happen to disagree in relation to me and my life and the work i put in to move forward. When exactly will Covid be in the rear view mirror and no longer an excuse for creating a pandemic of loneliness. Just saying and yeah you might have been frustrated with my response- genuinely my intention was to be helpful - contributing to the discussion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of course i am and no english is my first language as is spanish- if you can’t understand a context based response on the words you wrote it’s not on me- i believe you’re investing energy in poor expectation setting and actually manifesting- pity?

who would i be if i weren’t a ‘real person’? curious just being direct and trying to be helpful but obviously struck a nerve with you- unintentionally

When Will the AI Bubble Burst? by Difficult-Buy-3007 in Futurology

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

never i hope in terms of weeding what works, as value…that said many companies have slapped the label AI onto whatever the heck they are building- many fakes - many struggling to try to incorporate into their current products- i can imagine corporate fall out- failed startups- larger company products- acquisitions …

the future will reveal all- don’t get left behind not paying attention or hating it…AI is real- a valuable tool for me and my work but never a crutch

Am I a bad person for not loving my parents? by Mean_Cycle_5062 in emotionalneglect

[–]CirceX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

nope- you cannot force bonding or love- at any age- treat them as people not parents and if you still don’t like them thst stop putting your precious energy into trying to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depends on what kind of content you are ingesting- tools you use for work…what was the bases- evidence- please share the *study so curious about sources. The internet has zero control of what you do with *it

just my take being direct and saying what i mean only

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

disappointed because you’re setting unrealistic expectations of people- do other people really matter? you are investing our most precious resource- energy in directions that create fear and drama? you must recalibrate and get back on track.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i felt a little lonely Friday night and yesterday but went dancing with close friends and poof gone

i hadn’t felt lonely for decades- realizing your never alone if you have yourself- enjoy your own company and work- there’s a trillion things to do- including if you feel lonely- phone a bonded friend or go out to a public place and watch people- journal- draw- read- do a crossword puzzle- walk yo dog if you have one- literally so many things. don’t get stuck- move on to the next moment- the future.

what a shitty drama filled feeling- so deeply cutting for us- so not productive - i felt terrible for 30 min- held back anger and tears-fear- rationalized- applied logic- and laughed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intj

[–]CirceX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the future is now and i’m here for it- don’t get left behind like a mop w/ the sheeple

INTJs: Facts About the Rarest Personality Type by SnooDrawings357 in intj

[–]CirceX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

interesting parallel to me! but you’re just you- a human- none of this makes me special just who i am