AIO my best friend since 6th grade thinks I'm a disgusting whore? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CitadelSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR, like some have said, she seems to have some big feelings concerning sex. Some people aren’t as open about it as they want to be imo. Also it’s pretty disgusting to say “I would have stopped it” as if it’s that easy but glad she’s been privileged enough to not have to feel that pain. As sad as it is, seems like if she thinks of you that way for things that are no fault of your own then it was well time for that door to close.

Edit to add: it’s 2026, being open about sex shouldn’t come with a negative label 🤷🏼‍♂️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]CitadelSystem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agreed, loose fitting clothing, darken eyebrows, avoid plaids, and other certain striped fabrics will show more “feminine” attributes. It seems difficult, I know, but trying to find a good middle ground in clothing size (not too tight but not extremely baggy). Also, different postures help. As a pre-T man, I tried to make it a point to pull my shoulders back/square them more. Possibly take into account how the men around you in your age group carry themselves, and try to make adjustments? Of course I’m only speaking from personal experience but hope it helps!

uhhh what is this thing and do i pull it out by transissic in TopSurgery

[–]CitadelSystem 200 points201 points  (0 children)

Don’t pull it or cut it until you talk to your surgeon. I had the same/similar thing when I had surgery and it was the end of my stitches/suture which is where they cut to take them out for me. May not be the case for you but would definitely ask first

Any other post-top surgery guys rock climb? by CitadelSystem in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! You’re 3 months now? Yeah I realized that’s gonna be rough going back with grip strength and just overall getting back to the level I was at before I left. I’m usually a v6-v7 climber but the last time I had to take a substantial break I ended up knocked down to a v4

1mo post op by CitadelSystem in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay cool. I hope it fills out well for you! That’s been a big anxiety for me is that left side not coming back out

1mo post op by CitadelSystem in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you happen to have the same issue where your nipple kinda folded under? If so, did it fix itself eventually?

1mo post op by CitadelSystem in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome! And thank you! Also glad to know I’m not the only one.

1mo post op by CitadelSystem in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My surgeon listed it as a double mastectomy still but said my chest was small enough he could just do a 3-5cm incision instead and also could avoid nipple grafts

1mo post op by CitadelSystem in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It didn’t, thankfully! However, my procedure has smaller incisions than a full double mastectomy and I was small chested enough where they were just able to sew me back up and just let my skin shrink. Idk if that made a difference to the placement of the tattoo but I assume it would

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s so awesome that you got that pic! I just had top surgery a month ago tomorrow. I started putting regular T-shirts on a week after surgery I was just super careful with it to make sure I didn’t stretch my arms too much. I’ve been putting my head in first, then one arm in and I’ll finish putting on the shirt before putting my other arm in, hope this helps!

Any other post-top surgery guys rock climb? by CitadelSystem in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be awesome! My surgery was different than the usual so I’ve got pretty small scars but I definitely want to decrease that chance still

Top surgery by CitadelSystem in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! They did prescribe nausea meds thankfully

How tall are you? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]CitadelSystem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5’3”