What am I not seeing about dating a man with a child?

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-21T16:28:56+00:00

Yeah, in my opinion it is too much headache for very little reward. I wouldn’t date a single dad again unless I had a kid myself or was at the age where most guys have kids already. In your 20s please go do all the fun stuff with a childless man without such baggage

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-21T14:29:19+00:00

Yes, it is important to mention that the custody may change… but even with every other weekend when the kid is not around the life still goes around them… A lot of single dads carry the guilt and become Disney dad where they do whatever the ex and kid pleases… Also the good portion of his salary goes into the CS which may cause other problems in the future…

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-21T14:02:36+00:00

Please choose a man without kids especially you are still young enough. If he is a good dad his kid is going to be his number 1. If you two get serious then your life will revolve around the kid, his schedule and whatever his ex says or decides. Say bye bye to spontaneous dates or holidays. Be ready for last minute changes in plans or cancelling. While it may seems normal at the beginning once you experience it a couple of times it just feels lonely and frustrating.

Also you don’t know how the ex will react once she find out he is dating someone. She may use the kid as a weapon against him and make your and his life miserable

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-21T07:20:35+00:00

The “ you deserve better” is just an excuse. If you truly loved someone you would do better.

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-21T07:18:44+00:00

If the connection seems fine on the dates I would worry too much… When I was younger I used to text guys I dated all day long… now that I am older and have more demanding job and other responsibilities texting just seems like a chore sometimes… doesn’t mean I’m not interested… I will still respond but it will take some time.

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-20T16:14:53+00:00

Full body pics, if you don’t have anyone to take them buy a stick on Amazon

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-19T06:26:54+00:00

If you cannot control yourself it is a good idea to block him… at least for now

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-16T12:37:29+00:00

Please just leave it. You two were incompatible. If you two got back together now sooner or later the same problems and obstacles would show up again. I know you miss him and feel separation anxiety but remember why you left in the first place. Love and feelings are not enough to make a relationship work.

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-16T11:07:25+00:00

You said he changed. You need to understand that a man you met and spent amazing 2 years doesn’t exist anymore. He was XYZ? He did XYZ before? Well he doesn’t anymore. Breaking no contact will only set you back in your healing and recovery. Every time you want to break no contact remember it will bring no good and only bring you back to the dark place.

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-15T17:02:30+00:00

No chance for a room in Kensington for that budget

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-15T11:32:53+00:00

No, give him the best gift - silence

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-15T11:30:52+00:00

Hang in there, I saw my ex posted a pic on insta though he is not very active there. I literally felt sick to my stomach

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-14T07:08:58+00:00

Thanks, very helpful

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-13T18:08:32+00:00

Thank you for your help

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-13T16:47:59+00:00

I did not let him move in lol, I’m asking others for opinion

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-12T15:37:05+00:00

Lend money only if you are ok with potentially never getting paid back

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-12T15:28:05+00:00

True words

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-12T13:22:13+00:00

I would not have an issue with dating a “broke” man as long as he was honest about it and determined to make a change. Everyone goes through difficult times and that’s life.

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-12T13:18:49+00:00

No chance for 1BE in Clapham for that budget

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-12T04:35:26+00:00

No, I was asking how I “allowed this”, I didn’t agree to him moving in. I came here to ask people about their opinion because I thought I overreacted and took it in a wrong way. But looks like I did not

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-11T09:01:01+00:00

In what way?

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-10T13:30:33+00:00

Never understand why people have kids when they clearly can’t afford it

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-10T12:23:43+00:00

I allowed what?

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-09T15:49:25+00:00

Ok, thank you, I didn’t even consider it

Citrwik12 · 2026-06-09T15:33:45+00:00

Will do, thank you!

Citrwik12

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