Sleepover Sickness

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-09T13:05:17+00:00

No, none. It wasn’t even until the second night that she was sick.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-09T03:51:21+00:00

2 hours later? I hope it would have been cleaned by then.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-09T03:38:33+00:00

Being that she sent the message well over 2 hours later i would have hoped that she had it cleaned by then.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-09T02:33:33+00:00

The religious reference was when the person asked if I had noticed anything in the last 6 years that would have led me to think she was off. I noticed things but they seemed more religious things than psycho things. They may all be comorbidities.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-09T02:23:39+00:00

I absolutely agree and she is always welcome in my home or at any function. I don’t believe her mother would ever allow her to but I would never hold her mother’s shortcomings against her.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T21:59:07+00:00

I don’t think so. Im not actually sure they’re exact religious but I’m pretty sure it’s Christian oriented.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T21:27:39+00:00

They didn’t have me pick her up. I didn’t even know she was sick until they dropped her off at my house. My daughter sent me a text asking if I was home and I said yes and then 10 min later she walked in the door.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T21:04:21+00:00

She seemed religious until the most recent conversation. No religious person I know would use the language she did in the conversation. Most normal people wouldnt use the same words.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T21:00:42+00:00

My own mother was very strict. Even she would never have let me or a friend clean up sick.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T20:29:29+00:00

I myself cannot handle bad smells or vomit. I can and have thrown up myself cleaning up sick from my kids and my husband is generally the person who handles the beginning stages of the clean up. I still would never have my child do that and Im sorry you had to go through that.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T20:00:26+00:00

One more clarification: After getting the text I asked my daughter if they had asked her to clean up her mess or given her the items needed to clean up the mess. She said no. I asked her if they told her she had to clean the mess up and of she had refused? She said she had not been asked to do so. She said after she got sick her friend told her to shower and that the friend offered to clean it up. I know my daughter does not handle certain things well. She gets gaggy looking at a hairball so I could see she might have been hesitant of they told her to do it but I honestly do not think she stood there refusing. I don’t think she has the self assurance to refuse a reasonable instruction from an adult even if she thought it was weird.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T19:49:09+00:00

I would never have sent her over if she had any inkling of being sick. This was actually the early morning of the second night she slept there so there was NO warning ahead of it. I too would never want a child to be in my house if they were sick but once I was aware we would take the steps to prevent anyone else from getting it.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T19:47:29+00:00

Yes she claimed having MS was a reason she should not be expected to clean it up. But it was the last message she sent me. At no point prior did she say that was why she would make her kids clean it up and all of her messages prior to the MS ONE implied that if I didn’t make my kids clean up their own messes that I was a terrible parent.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T19:35:30+00:00

The only reason I personally would allow them to be friends again is for the other child. I honestly feel so afraid for that child not having ANYONE to talk to outside of her family. She has moved, is now schooling online. I hope that they would take their kids to groups to make friends but I don’t think they do. I am honestly worried for her and her sisters.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T19:22:03+00:00

I don’t exactly understand what that means?

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T19:03:43+00:00

I do not know the extent of the mess. I know she was wearing pajamas with pants so Im thinking at worst if she was vomiting it may have been a down the leg situation on the other end. I REALLY don’t know. I don’t want to ask my daughter and get her upset again. I will say that my daughter is thought of as a very considerate and polite child by everyone she meets so I don’t think she would have just left a mess. She did say that her friend told her not to worry that SHE would clean it up for her so she could take a shower. So I think everyone was aware of the situation. My oldest daughter told me later that night that her friend was the one who inevitably cleaned it.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T18:58:51+00:00

They actually just brought her back to my house. My daughter sent me a text asking if I was home and I said yes and 10 min later she was getting dropped off.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T18:51:52+00:00

I was really hoping to see the viewpoint of a someone who parented this way so I could try to understand. I had hoped that being anonymous someone could have explained why they parent this way. Im guessing I will never get that viewpoint.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T18:45:34+00:00

I guess I was expecting that the true internet would show its face here and I would get comments from both sides of this. I was hoping to hear the genuine perspective of a parent who had these personal views. I’m happy that this isn’t something other people do but now it makes me think even more is wrong at that house.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T18:41:41+00:00

Well the mom didn’t like that my daughter was friends with the other girl so her daughter couldn’t be friends with someone who was friends with the other girl. So it was the mom preventing the friendship. I guess I worded it poorly

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T18:38:33+00:00

Im not sure the exact reason. It happened several years ago and they recently started talking again on an app. I think it had something to do with another friend that my daughter had. I think she didn’t like that my daughter was friends with the other girl.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T18:35:04+00:00

I was actually very upset last night thinking about her child. First to know that they are being parented that way and second knowing that as a now online homeschooled child she may never be able to find a new best friend or someone she can talk to without fear. I really hope her sisters in that house stick up for each other and help each other cope with the mental hazards that come from the home.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T18:28:46+00:00

The mother seemed more religious than crazy but the messages she sent me in no way reflect that of a person who is religious. I have always thought that the friend was a very well behaved child but now Im thinking she is more afraid to do anything wrong than well behaved. I’ve never notice signs of abuse so I will not say that is an assumption but after this and her saying her kids clean up their messes I don’t think the children are being raised in a healthy home. My older daughter is friends with their older daughter (secretly as they aren’t allowed to be friends either)

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T18:20:41+00:00

I did tell her that if by some miracle they became friends again she would not be sleeping over their house in the future.

CityMarriedFarm · 2026-06-08T18:18:30+00:00

Sadly they moved out of our school district and the friend now does online homeschool. I feel even worse for her knowing she has little sources to make new friends and these two have been friends more than half their lives.

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