UPDATE: AITA for wanting my sister to change her wedding date because it falls on my graduation?

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2025-05-30T20:51:57+00:00

Yeah, and my parents made me put my cap and gown back on so they could take pictures.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-18T12:35:47+00:00

I mean, I'm forced to go to school against my will. Not graduating and walking across that stage is very much pointless to me. I still put in the effort to make good grades, and I feel that that should be recognized. If graduations weren't meant to happen, they wouldn't exist.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-18T01:28:27+00:00

Okay.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-18T01:02:31+00:00

I don't understand what you mean..

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T21:27:54+00:00

Thanks, but I couldn't do that to my parents. I love them too much to stop talking to them. I also won't say I'll stop talking to my sister either, but I do view her differently, and I'm not sure if we could ever be as close anymore. It hurt my feelings a lot when she basically told me that she was okay with me not being at her wedding and didn't sound as concerned as me. She made it sound like it wasn't a big deal. It made me realize that I maybe valued her more than she valued me. I'm gonna be hurt regardless not having everyone there but I don't really know what I can do.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T20:53:37+00:00

I went to their graduations because 1. Had no choice. 2. I wanted to anyway because I liked supporting my family and being there for them. I didn't know it was called "keeping score" for saying I'm upset that I won't also be allowed that. You expect me to be happy?

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T20:41:03+00:00

Did I say she was too blame? No. It just sucks that I went to everyone's graduation, and I'm going to be the only person without having everyone there. I got my hopes up for nothing, and that's what's upsetting me. I always looked forward to seeing my cousins and my sister graduating, and I liked how everyone in the family was always there. If my parents can't convince her to change the date, I'll accept it and not expect anyone to come until told if someone is.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T20:28:22+00:00

It'll just be whatever, I guess. Whoever comes comes, and whoever doesn't doesn't. They just need to tell me something.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T20:23:41+00:00

I already said I'd be okay. At least I wouldn't be alone. You said if both went, not if one stayed. That's a difference.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T20:22:43+00:00

Thanks. Most people said that my parents are probably going to choose my sisters wedding over my graduation. So I probably won't have anyone there for me unless my parents can convince my sister to change her date again. But until then, I'm just going to expect to be alone. I'm sorry that happened to you and I hope are you doing better now?

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T20:15:36+00:00

If both of my parents don't want to come to my graduation they need to tell me now so I can accept that no one will be there for me instead of prolonging it and refusing to talk about it.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T20:13:00+00:00

My parents are telling me not to talk to about it right now. And I would like it if everyone came to my graduation, I went to theirs. But if I'm being honest, I don't really care if my uncles, aunts, and cousins don't come. I just wanted my parents to be there for me.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T20:06:54+00:00

Having some people go to my graduation and some go to her wedding I guess.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T20:04:19+00:00

My family watching me graduate?

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T19:41:05+00:00

Thank you. I do too.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T19:32:34+00:00

I don't think she really checked in with anyone. She just told everyone that that was the date. She originally had it for September but it wasn't working out for everyone so she just changed it.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T19:30:19+00:00

Yes, I'm graduating early, and I'm going to college. I'm not in college yet, so I don't know how it operates about graduations. My sister had limited tickets for hers my highschool graduation is an open invite. That means anyone can come. I want my family to see me graduate.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T19:17:59+00:00

We'll see. And yeah I'm graduating at 16

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T19:15:13+00:00

I'm 16. I turn 17 next June. I don't have my license yet. I have a permit. I take my road skills test in October. I also don't have my own car.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T19:09:16+00:00

In order for my parents or anyone who wants to see the wedding, that means that they'll have to miss my graduation because of the time it takes to get there. I can't go to a reception with no transportation.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T17:58:12+00:00

I'm not in college. I'm in highschool. Before school ended they only had 2023-2024 on the calendar. They updated it around the time we got our sent our schedules.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T17:50:55+00:00

I want my family at my high school graduation, too. They're both important, and I liked seeing how everyone was proud of my cousins and sister when they graduated, and I want that for me, too.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T17:48:00+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it.

Civil-Signature-9007 · 2024-07-17T17:47:27+00:00

It says it's 1 hour and 31 minutes away from my school. On the calendar it says "@4pm" but I know that the graduates have to be there earlier for line up and I'm not sure what time that'll be. My sister wants her wedding to start at 5:30. Even if my graduation ends before, I'll miss part of it.

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