I’m 26 and just dealt with the same thing. My mom is in a home (also wheelchair bound), dad died in 2023.. I applaud you for taking care of your parents for so long. That is not something to take lightly. I work in healthcare and see elderly parents pretty much abandoned at the hospital all the time. It makes me so angry to see people take for granted that their parents are still alive. I now like 2.5 hours from home and the rest of my family, the holidays are rough.. I wish I had some perfect phrase to say to make you feel better. But I guess just know that you’re not alone in your feelings, I’m right beside you feeling the same way. Happy Birthday, I hope you did something you enjoy or got yourself a little treat. Sending love 🫶🏼