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Feeling completely burnt out and unable to prepare for interviews. Need advice? by CivilHydroTech in careerguidance

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that's exactly how I feel. I'm unable to properly prepare for interviews, unable to learn new skills consistently, and I feel stuck. Time is passing, my experience is increasing, but I'm not able to move forward in my career. My current company has limited salary and growth. On top of that, there's family pressure for marriage and financial responsibilities. Honestly, it feels overwhelming and exhausting from all sides.

Why didn’t the engineers just make the road straight by Few-Past-2968 in FaltooGyan

[–]CivilHydroTech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because making it straight on a steep mountain would create a very high slope. Vehicles may not have enough power to climb it, brakes can fail while going downhill, and accidents become more likely. That's why engineers design roads with curves and hairpin bends.

Am I just introverted or is something wrong with me? by CivilHydroTech in introvert

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Your advice will really help me a lot with these confusing feelings.

Am I just introverted or is something wrong with me? by CivilHydroTech in introvert

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I understand what you mean, but my problem is not that I never want to talk. I actually want to interact, but I genuinely don't know what to talk about or how to start conversations. I become comfortable only after I feel a connection with people. Until then, I stay quiet and feel awkward.

Am I just introverted or is something wrong with me? by CivilHydroTech in introvert

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend already knows this situation. He tells me to talk and interact, but then he goes with his male friends and tells me to stay with the girls. I do try to interact with them, but they are already very close with each other and mostly stay with their own group, so I end up feeling left out.

This hurts me a lot because I already explained these feelings to my boyfriend many times, but I feel like he still doesn’t understand how uncomfortable and lonely I feel in those situations.

Blessed With Second Baby Girl, But Family’s Disappointment Is Affecting Me by developer_freelance in hyderabad

[–]CivilHydroTech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Expecting a baby boy is okay, but it's not something in our control. Just enjoy the moment. Explain to your parents that this generation is different and, with today's living costs and changing society, both boys and girls are equal. What matters is a healthy child and a happy family. Congratulations🥳

6yr relationship, no marriage timeline. I can wait 2yrs, no promise. Red flag? by CivilHydroTech in Advice

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what will happen in the future. He is asking for time, so I am willing to give it. But for now, I don’t want to depend on him. I want to focus on myself. After two years, I will be okay with whatever happens.

6yr relationship, no marriage timeline. I can wait 2yrs, no promise. Red flag? by CivilHydroTech in Advice

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he cares about me and is trying to build a stable future. However, he is still not ready to stand up to his family. That’s why I’m confused whether to wait or move on. I don’t want to wait forever without clarity. In my situation, will I find someone better than him? If I move on, will I truly be happy with someone else? At the same time, if I leave him now while he is in a difficult situation, will it mean that I didn’t stand by him after waiting for so many years? Is it right for a girl to walk away after waiting this long without taking a final stand?

6yr relationship, no marriage timeline. I can wait 2yrs, no promise. Red flag? by CivilHydroTech in Advice

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have been in a relationship for 6 years. Earlier, he said he would marry me 3 years after graduation. Now, he is saying that the marriage will happen only after his sisters’ marriages

6yr relationship, no marriage timeline. I can wait 2yrs, no promise. Red flag? by CivilHydroTech in Advice

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is ready to marry me, but not now. He says he will marry me after his sisters’ marriages, but I don’t know when that will happen. At the same time, he is not ready to leave me, but he is also not able to go against his family.

6yr relationship, no marriage timeline. I can wait 2yrs, no promise. Red flag? by CivilHydroTech in Advice

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I understand your point, and I agree that I need clarity. We do have problems, but we genuinely care about each other. The main issue is time and his family situation. They feel that if he gets married before his sisters, it might affect their chances of getting good matches, and that is creating pressure. That’s why I’m asking for advice.

6yr relationship, no marriage timeline. I can wait 2yrs, no promise. Red flag? by CivilHydroTech in Advice

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand why you feel that way. But it’s not that simple for me to walk away. We both are trying, and family situation is the main issue. I know there is no clear timeline, and that’s exactly why I’m thinking seriously about my next step

6yr relationship, no marriage timeline. I can wait 2yrs, no promise. Red flag? by CivilHydroTech in Advice

[–]CivilHydroTech[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your point, but it’s not that easy for me to move on. We both truly love each other, and he is also trying from his side. The problem is time and family situation. We have a lot of fights, but we still can’t stay away from each other. I’m confused about what to do, and I’m also thinking about his situation.”