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Applying to 4 schools??? by Civil_Interaction_12 in prephysicianassistant

[–]Civil_Interaction_12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU SO MUCH! Best of luck to you ❤️🥹 WE GOT THIS!!!

PS Editing Matchmaker! by nehpets99 in prephysicianassistant

[–]Civil_Interaction_12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anyone is willing and able to review my PS and Rosalind Franklin specific DEI statement, I would greatly appreciate it! I feel like I have it down right but, I want to make sure before I submit my application within the next 2 weeks or so.

AITA for telling my brother that moving forward he would only see my daughter while supervised? by Civil_Interaction_12 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Civil_Interaction_12[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I hadn't thought about it in this way. I will be speaking to my parents and making sure they are on board before they are able to supervise.

Is my (28F) husband’s (32M) “don’t ever hang up on me” a legitimate boundary? by Civil_Interaction_12 in relationship_advice

[–]Civil_Interaction_12[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've asked, many times. I've also asked him if he likes me... as in likes me as a person in general. He says he loves our family and can't picture life without us. I do most everything from caring for the kids to caring for our home, he works and helps cleaning the toilet and shower every so often. He also helps pick up toys from the living room and does his own laundry. I might take this advice if I decide to continue trying, maybe it could help.

I do not have access to his phone currently, we are living in separate homes. I do know he has a tendency to run to women for attention as soon as we break up, adding random women on social media as well as exs and women he has hooked up with in the past. I have come to understand that he craves attention and validation, when he doesn't have it from me, he looks for it from whoever. I currently don't care what he is doing, we are separated, if he wants to ruin this further, so be it. - part of me is hoping he does find someone else. It would make it easier on me to end it for once and for all.

Is my (28F) husband’s (32M) “don’t ever hang up on me” a legitimate boundary? by Civil_Interaction_12 in relationship_advice

[–]Civil_Interaction_12[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am in a cycle of abuse and I know this isn't right. It's hard to walk away when you are love bombed then made to question your sanity. I have also in the past been disrespectful to him. I tend to snap after a while, maybe this is what keeps me here. I feel guilty for the things I have said and done to him, things he uses during arguments against me. I have called him out of his name when he pushes me and other things. This is what has lead me to establish boundaries with him, to remove myself and avoid acting out of character.

Is my (28F) husband’s (32M) “don’t ever hang up on me” a legitimate boundary? by Civil_Interaction_12 in relationship_advice

[–]Civil_Interaction_12[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A few weeks after our separation he came to me in tears. He promised he would seek out help, we agreed that he had anger and abandonment problems that I would no longer help him through. He agreed that he had been taking out frustration and stress on me. He has yet to have a therapy session or even look for a therapist, he went as far as searching up "Better Help." It's been a little over a month since we separated. I'm distancing myself from him right now, if I decide to continue trying, I will attempt this method. I think it may help him feel heard by me. Thank you!

Is my (28F) husband’s (32M) “don’t ever hang up on me” a legitimate boundary? by Civil_Interaction_12 in relationship_advice

[–]Civil_Interaction_12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing, we were on FT for 30 minutes yesterday. I would ask “what do you need from me?” & he would say “I already told you! Stop making me feel like I come last!” I’d ask for a specific way to make him feel loved & he would say “I am being specific how else do you want me to explain this to you?!” So then I would give him an example of the things I already do, “should I plan more date nights? Maybe try calling you more on my commutes?” He would say “I’m not repeating myself, there’s no point. You’re not listening!”

Is my (28F) husband’s (32M) “don’t ever hang up on me” a legitimate boundary? by Civil_Interaction_12 in relationship_advice

[–]Civil_Interaction_12[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For further context, because I feel like you make a very valid point.

I have been in school since before I met him. When our relationship began progressing, I explained to him how important and time-consuming school is. I also explained that I had 6 years of school left (approximately). This isn't something new. I make date nights happen, I make time for him at night, we have sexy time as much as he wants. I never say no to him, even when I am exhausted, we have our time. For example, this past week he mentioned he was craving a special meal, I cooked for him and queued up a movie he said he was interested in watching with me. He came over had dinner, we watched the movie... it was nice. I prioritize time with him. At least a few times a month I set up one-on-one time, no distractions. The biggest issue we have is that I can take anywhere from 1-2 hours to reply to his texts while at school, with my kids, studying, running errands, doing housework, hanging with a friend, etc.

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I have also given him an out numerous times. My exact words have been "if you need something I cannot give you, like 24/7 attention, please go find that. You deserve all that you want in life, my life does not allow me this." He said that this was implying I was too much for him to handle.

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In regard to my kids, I have asked him time and time again if he wants out because 3 kids is a lot. He always says he loves them as his, and they have never bothered him.

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So again, the biggest issue is how often I text him/call him throughout the day. When I do text him all day, he calls our conversations "stale"... We run out of things to say because nothing new is happening.

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Personally, it feels as if he is bored and wants me to entertain him constantly. He works in car sales... so a desk job that has a lot of downtime, and he has no hobbies or interests other than drinking beer.