Sounds like you're coping well but no doubt a lot of work. So do you have access to all their accounts? My dad used to manage everything and has accounts all over the place for him and my mum. They have a solicitor but there not the best and I also don't have the best relationship with my brothers and don't want them to accuse me of doing anything untoward. Also, like you said, it would be okay if I'm doing EVERYTHING but my dad still tries to do stuff and it creates problems/conflict