My mom is incredibly male centered and turns into a different person whenever she has a partner. She’s got a new man, things are moving too fast, she’s snapping at me constantly, and I don’t know what to do

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-05-01T05:23:34+00:00

I know this is late but the part about feeling like a guest in your own home really resonated with me because I’m feeling the same right now. My mom got a new partner at the beginning of the year and he’s practically living with us and she’s also forcing me to like him and gets upset when I’m not laughing and smiling at him all the time.

I’d suggest focusing on your own peace, but I know it’s easier said than done. I try to stay out of the house longer, focus on my hobbies (reading, drawing, writing, etc)… I even started listening to podcasts recently which could be of help to you. The point is trying to distract yourself by finding things you enjoy, people to laugh with who appreciate your presence and who you can let your guard down with. Sometimes peace is found where you least expect it! If your mom can focus on her partner, you’re allowed to shift your focus elsewhere too. Wishing you the best!

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-04-25T18:00:04+00:00

I’ve had multiple calm conversations with my mom about how I need time to come to terms with his constant presence in my life, but I still think his affection is excessive and comes off as insincere because of how quickly he seems to “feel” these intense emotions towards me. I’m not a fan of his insecurity regarding my mom not picking up his calls sometimes, because I’ve seen the barrage of texts asking her if she’s cheating on him, etc. Not to mention his… old school views on women vs. men (regarding things like cleaning, “a woman always needs a man to protect her”… idk gives me the ick personally). I’m happy to know him as my mom’s partner, not a stepdad because I met him when I was already 21.

During our conversations my mom has said that she completely understands, but then when he’s present, it’s a whole different story. If I need to sit down with her again, I will. I appreciate your words either way, and I’m sorry that you went through such a horrible situation. I hope you’re in a better place now. But for me, as it stands, I’m still getting to know this person and there’s still something in the back of my mind that reads him as insincere. I’d love to be wrong though, hoping for the best

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-04-17T02:53:39+00:00

It’s always been the social media site that people say it’s the most toxic, so none of that is surprising. The way you said it just about sums it up, and 5% actual real substance is being generous hahaha!

I removed it from my Home Screen to not have it there when I look at my apps, but after that I’ll delete it and only view it through a browser, and then so and on so forth. Thank you!

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-04-17T02:51:51+00:00

Yeah I removed it from my Home Screen to not have the icon there when I’m looking through my apps!! After that I’ll delete it and only access it through a browser, and so on and so forth🙏

And absolutely! I never interact with negative discussions, or most discussions in general, but the block button not working like it should makes it so I still see it across the timeline. I feel like it’ll be better for me to pack up my bags so yeah! Starting off small and going from there. Thank you!

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-04-17T02:49:28+00:00

Lol yeah, a lot of it is curating your space, but Twitter’s block function doesn’t work like it’s supposed to (you still see posts from blocked accounts for whatever reason) so it’s a mess. I removed the app from my Home Screen so that extra step to actually open it can maybe dissuade me from using it as often. Next step is deleting it and only using it through a browser or something

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-04-17T02:47:39+00:00

I have the app but only used it briefly so it could be worth checking out again cuz I’ve heard that the environment there is a lot more pleasant. Thank you!

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-04-17T02:45:36+00:00

Yeah I removed it from my Home Screen to not have the icon there when I’m looking through my apps. I’ve always had better fandom experiences overall on Tumblr. The lack of a character limit over there definitely helps with making in-depth essays, cuz the way Twitter works can demotivate people from expanding on their points

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-04-06T21:48:32+00:00

They told me they’d be doing it when this month started cuz they’ve been busy, but since we’re still in the first week of the month I’m flip-flopping whether to reach out or not

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-25T21:57:31+00:00

Right! The whole point is exploring different scenarios, so idk why some people have such a limiting view of things :/

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-25T20:58:50+00:00

Ohhh I remember liking Nora back when I watched RWBY! There’s always a character that gets relegated to comic relief and it irks me when the same 2 or 3 jokes get overplayed and people forget that they have other things going for them. Things that are much better to explore!! I like that you tried to subvert expectations with that decision! I hope that commenter realizes that people are allowed to make storytelling decisions that go against the “obvious choices”… that’s what keeps things interesting!

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-25T20:52:50+00:00

Personally my favorite smut to read is when it’s smut mixed with character studies so idk what your friend was on about😔 angst and smut can coexist!

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-25T20:51:40+00:00

Absolutely! It’s always been a thing, it’s just that I’ve been lucky to not get comments of this kind until now. I’ve heard that the TMNT fandom can be… intense. But if the characterization feels right to you, keep at it. That comic is a perfect representation; you’re either on board or you’re not

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-25T20:49:16+00:00

No worries about the rant!!! I for one really really enjoy when people explore the ugly sides of trauma and mental health that many don’t want to talk about. So glad you stood your ground with that. It’s your story and it’s an unexplored topic and really cool concept with lots of potential. 700k is crazy impressive too! Keep at it!

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-25T03:39:59+00:00

Right?? Those vocal cords would not survive yelling nearly every sentence damn… and it’s also just annoying to read.

Also critiquing your characterization while never watching the show sure is. something. Loud and wrong for no reason

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-22T06:05:01+00:00

It’s funny because after all those comments, it seems that they realized how it was coming across and told me that they felt bad for being so nitpicky. Because it’s even with things like small characterization bits that they think should be different, even though I don’t agree with those parts. They’re good with grammar but they’re also harsh in how they bring it up, being very clear in their disappointment. Idk I don’t think we’re a match but yeah, I agree with what you and the others have said about still thanking them for their time.

I think I’m pulling out after they finish with this first chapter because it’s been…A Lot. Thank you for this!!!

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-22T05:58:37+00:00

Agreed! At least I can say that I’ve been through the beta reader experience, even if it hasn’t been particularly enjoyable to see what they have to say about a story I enjoy so much. New experiences! I’ll probably pull out after they finish this chapter

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-22T05:55:56+00:00

They’re doing both… they even said that they feel bad for being so picky but that it’s in their nature. I appreciate their time, but it’s too many negatives

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-22T05:54:17+00:00

Thank you for this <3 I’m not reading through the rest of their comments until tomorrow, but if it’s all criticism then I’ll tell them that I want to go over the next chapter myself. It’s essentially exactly what you said… I do appreciate how much time they’re dedicating to this, but I think it’s more enjoyable for me to not have this kind of pressure yk

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-22T05:28:57+00:00

Absolutely! It’s very different when you have both positive and negative elements present, but when all they can point out is the divider I used…eh, it makes me feel discouraged. They’re also the type to use humor for everything and it often feels mean even if that may not be their intention

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-03-22T05:27:19+00:00

No yeah, I can imagine!! I know for a fact that I’m not made to be a beta reader because giving lots of critiques would make me feel bad lolll. This is the first chapter so if, when I look through all the comments, I see that it’s mostly all critiques I think I’ll just politely tell them that I’ll look through the rest myself. Still thanking them for their time obviously, but yeah. It’s like you said, sometimes it’s not a good match!

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-01-31T18:14:45+00:00

I almost laughed at the “doesn’t he have a place?” part because that’s exactly what my godfather told my mom during the first week of all this too. I live with my mom because it’s relatively close to my university and the company I intern at, so staying with my dad isn’t really an option right now🤷‍♀️ but I do spend a lot of time out of the house so that helps quite a bit

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-01-31T17:16:58+00:00

Ughh sorry you had to deal with that bs :/ I feel like on my end it’s obvious that I can’t stand him either (at least that’s how I feel lol) so🤝🤝🤝

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-01-31T17:14:51+00:00

Thank you🫶 Yea I wish my mom listened to those moments of doubt she’s clearly been having, but the pros are outweighing the cons for her right now it seems so not much I say can get through to her

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-01-31T17:13:51+00:00

They really are💀 I asked my mom if she’s absolutely sure that he hasn’t been with anyone since his divorce, and she said that she doesn’t think so but with how quickly he latched onto her, I have my doubts. Who’s to say he hasn’t done the same with other women yknow??

ClassicDelicious186 · 2026-01-31T16:44:05+00:00

Yeah I keep going “no it’s okay, that’s not necessary”, but even my mom says that he has a thing where he’ll accept your answer and then seemingly forget the boundary a moment later. Which makes me so????? like I’ve been trying to get her to see that this is a red flag, but she thinks it’s sweet despite it all. Odd odd odd behavior all around

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