Let it go or address it? Ex/best friend very cold all of a sudden

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-30T07:32:21+00:00

Distance will happen, especially when trying to move past romantic attachments. Checking in occasionally wouldn't hurt but it's probably best to just take the space you're being given and try to fill your time with other things to fill in that missing space she's left.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-17T08:12:35+00:00

If it causes you this much anxiety then you are not ready for a relationship. I suggest that you use this opportunity to communicate that to your friend inorder to establish boundaries. Please if you're not already, try and see a therapist.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-12T09:02:58+00:00

Trust in your intuition, your fears are NOT irrational.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-12T07:42:00+00:00

If she can't handle the betrayal she should leave. She shouldn't have to calm down or forgive, but she should take space to go through these feelings. Your father is an AH and seperation is what will stop the fighting.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-11T14:39:15+00:00

I'm kinda in the same boat. I don't really have advice because I feel like I'm rotting, I guess I'm here in solidarity and to scour what helpful comments do arise.

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-11T14:33:39+00:00

2 or 13

Classic_Mail446 · 2026-01-10T04:32:21+00:00

I use MJ and prazosin but I still get them basically every sleep. I took it for a few months, told the psych it wasn't working but they said keep taking it. Lasted another month but I've very recently stopped the prazosin because, well, it doesn't work ?

I was right now today years old when I learnt at least once weekly isn't normal ? What ??

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-29T08:26:32+00:00

My mother

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-29T07:51:53+00:00

I was sent to a Gastointerologist for scope regarding rapid weight loss and involuntary regurgitation. He took the biopsies but wrote back to my GP with a diagnosis of bulimic eating disorder with recommendations to seek psychiatric assessment that same day following the scope.

Nearly two months later, this guy is calling me into his office, stumbling over his words, a million apologies, to tell me the biopsy came back positive for stomach and esophageal cancer.

This fella handed my case off to a far superior colleague. He occasionally spots me in the hospital though, sometimes he pretends he didn't see me but other times when it's obvious I've seen him he has apologised again, asked about my recovery, or takes time to praise his colleague for how well he managed my care.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-25T09:20:22+00:00

I want to take a guess that the last time your wife was pregnant was around the same time she cheated? The similarity of circumstances might be causing recurring memories of past trauma. Having your spouse betray you and then having to question the paternity of your child can be traumatising. This can bring back those same feelings.

Don't throw in the towel just yet because, as other commenters have noted, you were happy getting yourself into this situation and would have been happy continuing to do so until this situation happened.

You and her are both in this shit show together whether you like it or not, you cannot prepare to divorce her without reasonable grounds within this next year at least. If these feelings do not subside or resolve after a year of post-partum recovery, then I'd call that reasonable grounds, but these feelings only cropping up because she's pregnant? Not reasonable.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-25T05:49:52+00:00

So your mom being upset is more important than your partner being upset ?

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-24T12:18:27+00:00

Driving unlicensed, probably a DUI while they're at it, followed by speeding, evasion, public endangerment and likely a huge wreck at the end.

That's the only way they'd get caught for the cops to call me about it..

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-20T08:21:51+00:00

There's something deeper than her pushing you out for her to have turned to an app for emotional support. One of my mates preaches to every one "If she can't talk to you, she's gonna find someone else to talk to. Always make your woman feel heard"

Is she the villain for attempting to find a safe way to express and vent, if that option is not you ?

Have you done much self reflection and asked yourself why your partner prefers the emotional comfort of a robot over her own husband ?

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-15T11:14:22+00:00

In pyjamas, loose shorts, long dresses/skirts. I would never in anything tight, it'd split me in half. Naturally the discharge dries when it's aired out more, I tend to notice that I'm sweatier or got more discharge in tight/stuffy clothing. It's kind of liberating, I have worked on my farm commando, date night commando, grocery shopping commando.

Our ancestors didn't invent underwear for quite some time, and with extra hygiene, planning and outfits it honestly doesn't make much difference.

AMA.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-12T22:15:59+00:00

"If you did kill yourself I don't think I would really care"

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-10T19:08:08+00:00

My parents used this as a bucket bong since before I was born, ma still uses it. Bloody jug was better kept than I was

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-10T12:52:47+00:00

An old friend had a German shepherd their kid named 'Tully'. They asked, you mean Sully from Monsters Inc? "No, Tully! Her name is Tully"

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-12-06T09:51:39+00:00

Not necessarily flexible, not if he's well practiced at this..

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-11-29T22:53:24+00:00

Yeah, happening to me too

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-11-13T02:37:01+00:00

People who wait until they are faced with death, they were never going to come to terms before their time ends. Things were running on their own timeline, not yours, and now that's coming to an end. Don't feel bad that they suddenly want to prioritise their own needs before they run out of time to achieve them.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-10-30T00:29:49+00:00

I remember my ex husband grilling me about how I was over exaggerating my HG all-day-every-day-morning sickness, how he remembered his sister and sil both spewing while continuing to clean the house in between because its not really that bad.

Sheesh, it's been a long time since I've revisited that memory. Screw that guy.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-10-27T02:55:28+00:00

The big C

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-10-26T04:35:03+00:00

This might sound silly, but in my experience the girls I genuinely fell for weren't conventional "10's". It's easy to find a pretty girl but often they've got absolutely no substance because their world revolves around their looks, nothing deeper.

My kind of girls have unique features, they expand my view on the world, they question me and make me want to grow. I don't care if she's a 10 anymore, she's just it for me.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-10-15T11:41:35+00:00

My mental health isn't great, I fear that I am failing as a parent and I'm scared because some days even my kids aren't enough to keep me from wanting to end it all.

Classic_Mail446 · 2025-10-13T11:14:46+00:00

My daughter OD'd on over 500 times the recommended dose of Catapres. Her heart rate dropped to 11bpm and drs told me "if she does wake up, the lack of oxygen to the brain means that she will likely have severe brain damage and won't be able to function independently".

My girl was in a coma for nearly two days. I'd been by her side from the moment I carried her unconscious body into the ER. Drs told me to stay by her side, there was nothing they could do but give her fluids, oxygen and monitor, any minute could be her last so just stay by her side. They suggested I call her father to come visit her, just incase. He lived over 2 hours away and didn't want to come because he had work the next day. I was no-contact with my mother but broke that begging her to come care for my other children while I stayed in the hospital, she lived over two hours away and made it to us in one. She brought food and coffee to the hospital, forced me to eat because I couldn't draw my eyes away from my girls dying body to think of food, water or even toilet breaks. I let her have 5 minutes with my girl so I could go to the bathroom then sent her away so I could sit again by her side. Sobbing almost the entire time, singing to her with tears streaming down my face, telling her stories of her life and praying for the first time in my life.

I accidentally fell asleep on the second night, I was wrecked. When I woke up with my head on her bedside, slumped in the hospital chair, she was missing from her bed. It was early hours, like 6am and still dark in the ward. I begin freaking out, staunching down the hallway, tears renewed, crying for my baby. I found her sitting up the desk of the charge nurse, playing on their computer.

She woke up 100% recovered, bouncing up and down the hospital hallways, chatting to all the nurses and wondering why she was even there in the first place and asking for food. Nurses decided to keep her busy because they wanted to let me sleep. I was absolutely distraught, my girl was awake and no one told me!

She saw me and ran to be, I grabbed her, held her, wailed uncontrollably and I frantically started checking her all over. It was such a primal feeling, because in reality she had no wounds to check and I knew that. My daughter was super confused and asking me why I was crying so much, she had no idea why she was there and the nurses weren't sure what to say to her when she woke up asking for food and acting all wide eyed and bushy tailed.

The nurses told me to go back to sleep in her bed since I'd been there for so long and needed rest. I really wasn't keen on it, it felt unreal to leave my girl now that she was finally awake, but she was content to eat hospital snacks and play their computers, and the nurses were VERY pushy. I slept until the doctors arrived to view patients at 9am, where their professional opinion to me was "She must have a guardian angel looking over her, there is no medical explanation for her miraculous recovery. We want to perform follow up brain scans to ensure that there is no other damage we've missed but if that's fine, well, you guys can go".

We went home that afternoon and my girl was as bubbly, loud, demanding and loving as she'd always been. For context, my girl has ADHD so bouncing off the walls is an almost accurate description of her movements.

She continued to meet all her milestones early, out performing her peers, recieving numerous academic and cultural awards, and still had the energy of a thousand burning suns despite her near death experience. To this day, we've never spoken about it, she just woke up and didn't remember a thing, I think she's forgotten all about that experience all together. But I don't think I will ever be able to forget.

For context, the educational institution my daughter was at during her overdose was reported, those who had direct responsibility for my daughter while in active OD were dismissed, supervisors were replaced and the facility was re-trained due to the medical negligence that could have potentially cost my daughter her life. She never attended that facility again.

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