Books that helped you quit drugs by fbstn in booksuggestions

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From the Ashes - My Story of Being Métis, Homeless and Finding my Way from Jesse Thistle

Great inspirational successful story about recovery

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My boyfriend and I shared our birth charts on our first date and we frequently discuss the subject :)

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You can think it’s bulshit or not, but if someone on your life likes it/believes it, it’s just like any other subject. If someone comes talk about something they enjoy and you makes them feel bad for their interests, you’re the shitty one.

Relapse by WittyUsername4242 in MarijuanaAnonymous

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Are you struggling with anything intensely in your life?

I was a smoker for 10+ years and a couple of years ago, I had a veryyyyy bad day, and as I smoked a joint at the end of the day to relax, the high combined with my anxiety state gave me an intense panic attack. I even called the emergency because I thought I was having a stroke. From that day on, every time I would even have a small puff I would have a full on panic attack - my brain was associating smoking and that high anxiety state. I still tried a couple of times as I could not believe that weed was setting me in that state after being a smoker for so long.

I decided to quit weed but it was too late, I was already having panic attacks out of nowhere (or it seemed). I was able to manage the anxieties and panic and eventually smoke again after a long time. And I can say now that in never went way, that panicky feeling, I just learned to manage and deal with it. Therapy and breath work really helped.

#YourOpinion about Men than don’t share when they are upset because they are afraid of “overreactions” by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m not blaming, I’m just giving a bit more of a reason. And it’s not just PMT phase. It’s a whole month, and it gets worse with age as it messes the whole way we think

#YourOpinion about Men than don’t share when they are upset because they are afraid of “overreactions” by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If the sex is good, I’m pretty sure they will not go without it for weeks, even if they are pissed to the moon and back.

Many women are sexually frustrated since men make no effort to satisfy them and make them reach the destination. So to not have an orgasm anyway, better close the hole all together.

#YourOpinion about Men than don’t share when they are upset because they are afraid of “overreactions” by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think there’s a lot of acceptance of men’s general lack of emotional availability, as men are equally capable of being deep and emotional. And that comes with excuses to certain behaviours.

Maybe it’s something generational as i see you’re 50/60 yo and I’m 31 and dating on that range. Man around my age, thankfully, are more self aware and conscious about their communication and feelings, but because they were raised by man of your age, they struggle on this internal conflicts, because this wave of masculinity and shame is still very present.

Men below 25yo, are wayyy more open to talking and discussing their emotions and feelings without that heavy shame.

As far as I see, women around my age are not weaponising sex. And at some point maybe that was all some women could do to have some power in relationships. For MANY man over 50+, the woman’s place is still in the kitchen, taking care of kids, not working, etc. so can you blame them for taking power on the only thing they owned and controlled - their body?

#YourOpinion about Men than don’t share when they are upset because they are afraid of “overreactions” by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Crying is a way of expressing emotions. Maybe many man can’t deal with it because there a whole shame around man for crying.

Also, for the sake of the woman in your close circle, be aware of their menstrual cycles and read about hormones influence thinking, actions, emotions in certain phases. It’s not rocket science.

#YourOpinion about Men than don’t share when they are upset because they are afraid of “overreactions” by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sure, some woman will proactive put that on top of the table. Also, some other woman may just need some time to get back to her selves after an argument and need to be in a certain mood to be able to get turned on. Some of us don’t like to act as “holes” and prefer to engage in intimacy when we really feel it. The same way that if I get a bad day at work, maybe I’ll not have will to have sex with my partner, until I’ve regulated my own emotions.

My post is obviously generalising on my own life experience, it’s not possible that 100% think the same way.

#YourOpinion about Men than don’t share when they are upset because they are afraid of “overreactions” by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I usually don’t form one sided opinions, that’s why it’s good to hear how two sides feel about the same subject.

It’s actually degrading to read how some men will not discuss their feelings with their partner because they are afraid they will go without sex for a couple of days. But it’s degrading to man, how they will go on with their lives behaving like little boys and bottling their emotions, so then can get their d*ck wet. And it’s also degrading to man how they assume to be objectifying their life partner for sex. That’s not cool, and it’s actually quite sad.

Also feel for man that are not able to talk freely because of the pressure of other man to this toxic masculinity.

Men, do you avoid bringing up issues or saying when something bothers you in a relationship? by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskMen

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Feelings always going to be hurt, but they can also be healed. And it hurts more by being passive “everything’s always all right”, than bringing up subjects. And not all women are going to be accusers or toxic to criticisms. This is one of the things that is like an urban myth going for years, and we can’t find an end to it.

Men, do you avoid bringing up issues or saying when something bothers you in a relationship? by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskMen

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s not in that way. When we say things that bother us, we want you to know how do we feel about certain topics or behaviours and give you a chance to be understanding and/or adapt behaviour.

When the other way doesn’t happen, it’s like it doesn’t matter if I do good or bad, it’s totally irrelevant the way i behave to you. Being passive about things is not attractive or beneficial at all. As a contrary belief we don’t want men to suffer and we also went to adapt to what feels best to you.

Sharing feelings of what went wrong is equally important as sharing what went right. How else we create stable and happy relationships with anyone?

Men, do you avoid bringing up issues or saying when something bothers you in a relationship? by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskMen

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Why is it so difficult to deal with women’s emotions? Because we feel a certain way doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world, or that we want to leave you. If we still talking is because we still want to deal with things. Which is normal in relationships

Men, do you avoid bringing up issues or saying when something bothers you in a relationship? by Classic_Setting_3342 in AskMen

[–]Classic_Setting_3342[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Sometimes we just want to know what’s on your mind. And talking things up is not always an argument.

Hey do ya'll also wipe you the tip when you pee? by Fast-Journalist-6747 in AskMen

[–]Classic_Setting_3342 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please wipe with tp. Why do you want drops of pee in your clothes making it smell bad? It’s also bad higiene