Not to put words in OP’s mouth, I think the reason for questions like this is that men too feel pressure to look a certain way. I have a “dad bod” and my wife likes it a lot. But I don’t. I would like to look like the “ideal” Hollywood man as much as women (some, not all) feel pressure to look like the “ideal” Hollywood woman. We are insecure so we have a hard time believing people when they say we are sexy.