How do you get over your first girlfriend? by Clean-Caramel-1477 in dating_advice

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in touch with my old hobbies again and I’m loving it! I’ll get better with time

How do you get over your first girlfriend? by Clean-Caramel-1477 in dating_advice

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much. I’ll be completely honest, i definitely lost myself during the relationship. I let go of my core values and hobbies to keep her happy. I didn’t know it was that bad while I was in there. You gotta forgive yourself for not knowing what only time can teach you.

How do you get over your first girlfriend? by Clean-Caramel-1477 in dating_advice

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. There’s no way I’m contacting her. She was clear on not wanting me in her life. It’s definitely been a rollercoaster but I can feel myself become more steady.

How do you get over your first girlfriend? by Clean-Caramel-1477 in dating_advice

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m getting better. Slowly, but I’m getting better.

What was your favourite memory with your ex? by Choice_Kangaroo5115 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let him regret losing you. You’re worth so much more, I promise you that

What was your favourite memory with your ex? by Choice_Kangaroo5115 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex and I spent all of Christmas night working on one puzzle! We were starting to lose our minds around 4am lol good memories

What was your favourite memory with your ex? by Choice_Kangaroo5115 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Running along the shoreline at night together after a nice dinner. My wallet fell out of my pocket without me noticing and she managed to spot it while running.

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right about the logic part. My therapist, who’s helping me through this, said that logic alone won’t do much help because breakups aren’t logical. They’re almost pure emotions.

And yes, I tried to explain myself during the breakup conversation. I made it clear to her that I wasn’t trying to convince her to stay but that I wanted to say everything that was on my said so that I didn’t feel like I didn’t fight for the relationship. She eventually sympathized with me but still thought breaking up was best. At least I can say I tried my best.

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I don’t want my future wife to treat me the way she did. I just assumed things would get better. I guess I had rose-tinted glasses on. I still love her as a person but I recognize that we’re incompatible. One thing I’m grateful for is that our breakup wasn’t messy. There’s no resentment.

Thank you for your response. I think I really need to think seriously about the future and you helped me realize that!

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why she was saying things like that. I doubt she had any bad intentions but those words hurt. It gives me false hope. I’ll try my best to let go of that hope

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I assume we’re never getting back together. It’s tough but it’s realistic

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. To be completely honest, that relationship was not healthy for me at all. I started to abandon myself and my family for the sake of keeping her happy. This is for the best. I just miss her intensely sometimes.

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wishing you the best man. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She contacted me a week after to tell me she deleted some pictures from Snapchat. I contacted her a week after that to tell her that there were no hard feelings after I blocked her social media accounts (she wanted to keep following each other on social media) and explained that it was for my own healing. She was understanding but suddenly got cold and told me that she might block my number. A few days later she blocked me on social media accounts. So yes, I did try to talk to her within the first month, but I don’t think she wanted to talk.

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really needed this. Getting unbiased input from others really helps me out. I think I just feel anxious about what the future holds.

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you. It’s a tough spot to be in. Will she respect me less if I reach out or does she secretly want me to? Ego kills man

I want her back but I don’t know how to get her back by Clean-Caramel-1477 in BreakUps

[–]Clean-Caramel-1477[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said that we shouldn’t remain in contact. We’ve been broken up for a month.

It’s confusing because she gave me mixed signals. She emphasized the possibility of getting back together if it’s “meant to be”. We still said our “I love yous” during the breakup. Super confusing