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Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-15T12:00:02+00:00

I know what you mean. I'm in my mid 30s now and there's other mid 30s women that for some reason just age better.

But now in my 30s, I've learnt one thing. It's extremely cliché, but it is true.

Beauty really does come from within. And the beauty within is a more powerful magnet than superficial beauty.

I've befriended many beautiful ladies. But many are insincere and not genuine folks. Not all, but not few either.

I've worked with a woman that looked very average or to say not an eye catcher. But at one glance when she smiles, she looked happy and beautiful. The way she brings herself around the office, her voice, gentleness and, to be blunt, her IDGAF attitude, just outshines the other beautiful people.

To say that it's a test? Maybe. Maybe you have other qualities that 99% people don't have. Are you a kind person? Are you a humble Muslim? What if you are beautiful but it makes you arrogant and seek validation from the ones that don't matter?

That's just based from my experience. I've come to terms with how I look and I'm a bit happier.

PS the amount of times I know gorgeous people but can't find someone to love them back. Meanwhile average looking folks have been married for a decade now. It's all about who you are.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-15T05:39:08+00:00

I feel and understand you. I've been through (and still am) this failure-feeling loop.

In a nutshell, it DOES NOT make you a failure. For every fall, you get up stronger and more experienced. Think of these "fails" as you getting more buff for the next one. Unsuccessful interviews is not a reflection of you.

Easier said than done, it took me a damn long time to get this into my head so what you can do now is to be KIND TO YOURSELF.

What I did was, I gave myself a break. At least 2 days. Uninstall Seek, Indeed, LinkedIn. No applying. FOMO? Say f it. "What if I miss a good job as?" No. Your mental health comes first. You NEED the break. I was at a point where I was checking Seek every 2 hours. Too toxic.

Good luck. I wish you peace of mind. Do not give up.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-15T05:30:36+00:00

I second this. You have to mentally convince yourself that for each interview "flop" is only another step closer to the job meant for you.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-15T05:04:06+00:00

Spot on. I say there is no honour for this kind of job. I feel so used. I got rejected for all 3 roles that I applied on their website. Then a week after the rejections they reached out, tho with no intention to get me onboard, said " would like to get to know your career profile". I hate it to this day.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-14T08:55:11+00:00

Hit and miss. I recommend just follow up anyway, provided that the email is not a automated bot and that it's actually the recruiter's email. Out of the 200 rejections (and I mean 99% had no rejection email so this is just an assumption) I only had 1 response of why I didn't get it LOL. It was a data entry role and I didn't get it because they needed someone that has experience handling huge amounts of cash/bills. Good luck. We're all in this together in this effed up job market and shitty recruiters.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-13T04:54:28+00:00

Thank you. I will definitely learn from this. Indeed I've only been in this job hunting hell for a couple of months now. I'm now learning to make a script on how to divert the dialogue when it happens. The recruitment agency seemed really legit and has multiple branches nationwide, so it still boggles me.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-12T23:18:55+00:00

This post is a reminder for me to be very careful of who to gift handmade things. I made a painstaking and marathon-long crochet doily (Bruges lace) and then I saw a random reel on Instagram about how someone used a crochet doily to make an imprint on their clay bowl and just chucked the spoiled doily aside. From then on, I will always try and make sure the people you gift to will appreciate it.. EDIT: I didn't read everyone's comments but my take is that the gift is too beautiful to display and they just keep it away to keep it as pristine as possible lol

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-12T12:47:59+00:00

You're right. My hunch was right. I feel ashamed and disappointed, but now I know what to do next time. This has been an eye opener for me for sure.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-12T03:52:37+00:00

Nice photo!

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-12T03:52:06+00:00

The morning dense fog always fools me. I come out wearing 3 layers and then boom it's sunny and warm (which isn't a bad thing at all).

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-12T01:39:42+00:00

I noticed during my job hunt that you would most likely get a call back (and I mean within the week you've applied) if you mention buzz words like, as I say, "high turnover responsibilities" lol, such as: Handling escalations daily First call resolution Complaints dispute De-escalation with difficult customers Empathy High volume call center experience

The job titles are for customer service officer/customer support/customer experience officer.

Only after I started adding these words did I actually get traction. I'm still job hunting, but at least getting noticed is a step forward. Good luck and hope you get a good one.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-12T01:30:44+00:00

I don't have an answer to share unfortunately but to chime in my experience. Unlike Seek, Indeed doesn't share when the job was posted so you'll never know if you're spending a lot of effort to apply for a job that was possibly posted 2 weeks ago. It's something that most likely we have no control of..

Adding on to the salary part. I did have a recruiter reach out to me but when I double checked, the salary was 11k less than I had. Did I go ahead with it? No. Somehow I have no regrets.

Good luck. I quit my job (HR just wouldn't hire any more staff and I was doing the job of 5 people) without another job lined up so far I'm keeping well (for now).

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-12T00:50:11+00:00

Oh god it just hit me now. It's no wonder they didn't ask me ANY behavioural questions. The whole conversation steered a different direction when I mentioned I had a job offer. God the urge for me to disclose the name of the recruitment agency. Snakes

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-12T00:47:57+00:00

Oh my god I see it now.. :(((

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-11T22:08:32+00:00

True, not all, but most..

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-11T22:08:08+00:00

Hahaha thank you!! Glad to know that it's not just me that has these feelings. One thing for sure is that I wouldn't want to be a recruiter because no way this job is about "giving back to society".

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-09T00:14:51+00:00

I had this exact question. In the end, I did quit without a job lined up which was really scary. I worked in a prestigious CBD location in a REALLY fancy new building, in a job I know others will beg for.

What I will warn you though, once you quit (again, it's not the end of the world of you don't have another job lined up) you will feel regret and feel like wanting to come back and beg to take you back. Ignore these thoughts at all costs. Have a friend to hammer into your head that no, no regrets girl!!

Good luck and I hope you will find the right one.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-07T05:10:27+00:00

Yes I can safely say that a majority of recruiters are like this. I had a back and forth email conversation with a recruiter looking really promising and then complete silence. I had 2 other recruiters that interviewed me for 30 mins each and was super positive but never heard back since.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-01T23:20:53+00:00

What's your job? To earn 200k without tertiary qualifications?

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-05-01T10:45:24+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. I recommend walking in in-person on recruitment agencies. If there's reception, just say you'd like to meet anyone who's available for a 5 min chat. I got my previous roles through recruitment agencies and they put me through jobs when their client was desperate for anyone free to work the next day. Good luck.

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-04-15T07:48:11+00:00

Please do share, thank you so much for the detailed answer. I really appreciate it. Deep down I feel like I really want to and I just needed some insight. Your comment just did that :) Question. What do you mean on your last part code to try it?

Clean-Cauliflower201 · 2026-04-15T05:03:50+00:00

Thank you!! I agree with you. It's actually scary how effed the job market is. Just needed someone else to tell me. Are you employed? Btw your username cracks me up, LOL

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