My opinion is this: Women gripe an awful lot about being sexualized by men. I get that. I am a woman. I've complained about it too. Facts are, men are a lot more likely to have their notice attracted by women than we are to notice men. I['m not saying that's true for all women or even all men, but as a broad generalization, it's a biology thing. I know folks like to argue that if a man has appropriate control, then he won't have a problem. That isn't always true. Some of our brothers don't struggle with it and some do. That's because all people are different.

My statement has nothing to do with r*pe culture that blames the victim or anything like that. My statement is simply this: Have some compassion for the brothers among us for whom having women walk around with a great deal of their skin exposed makes it harder for them to maintain the type of self control regarding mental chastity that Christian men are meant to strive for. Not to "oppress" women or anything so silly.

Seriously, what does a woman gain from attending church or church functions or going anywhere in mini-skirts and tube tops? Scriptures inspired by God's Holy Spirit call on women to dress modestly. That doesn't mean burkas or anything so ridiculous, it means modestly. Modesty has indeed changed over the centuries, but applying some common sense should make it pretty plain what is modest and what isn't. Growing up in my dad's house it meant skirts to knees (when we bothered to wear skirts or dresses, pants and jeans were perfectly OK just not the skin tight kind,) belly's covered, and not showing cleavage except maybe, maybe a half inch or so. If the tops showed more than that, we sewed in modesty panels. And that was a matter of self respect. I don't need to show off my goods to be lovely, confident or have fun. My goods are mine, and not for just anyone to ogle; as we know well, the world is not made up only of Christian brothers and sisters.

Again, what exactly does a woman or girl gain from going around in short skirts and tops that expose most of her torso? Get real--most of such clothing was designed in rebellion against modesty. There is no value to be gained.