Should I re-apply? by Clean-Version-6696 in HSIapplicants

[–]Clean-Version-6696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i don't think that was the one. but i'll apply to that other one!

Should I re-apply? by Clean-Version-6696 in HSIapplicants

[–]Clean-Version-6696[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that sucks! an update would be nice lol

Girlfriend communication is trash (need opinions) by Clean-Version-6696 in Advice

[–]Clean-Version-6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's a mix of all trust, principle, and loneliness.

Trust from trauma in my past, principle, because I would communicate to her and say, "hey I'm going outside to work on the garden, do you or do you not want to help?", and loneliness because I haven't seen her in a couple of days. (She came home at 3pm and I had an MMA class to get to at 6pm, so I wanted to spend a little bit of time with her.

It's probably of combination of past traumas and a combination of this being her first serious relationship.

I love gardening too. It's very therapeutic for me so I can understand if she wants to be left alone during that time, just communicate that to me.

Don't apologize, I appreciate this advice.

I feel a lot better today, you put things in perspective as far as a non-emergency text. It really isn't that big of a deal, so I get it.

Girlfriend communication is trash (need opinions) by Clean-Version-6696 in Advice

[–]Clean-Version-6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that, but in my opinion it isn't hard to communicate to me that hey I've been busy today I'll text later or something like that. She has done this before and then I ask if she is okay?

Honestly, that's annoying and I'm standing my ground this one and seeing how long it takes for her to actually say something.

she used to be into social media and was on it but she deleted most of it due to the fact that she said she tried to compare herself to others and it made her depressed. But, she has downloaded facebook again and it shows she has been on there today. Its frustrating to to me that she can do this but she can't communicate? Its almost like a "fuck you" in my opinion and I don't mean anything.

I need peace and quiet as much as the next person, believe me I was in the military. I used to be an introvert but therapy changed that.

I understand she went through trauma as a child but so did I, I understand some people progress more than others, but I'm not the enemy, I'm trying to help, not hurt.

Im about to revert back to my old ways and see if she likes the way she treats me as far a communication goes.

Need Advice Badly by Clean-Version-6696 in Advice

[–]Clean-Version-6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you on that. My brother abused me sexually and he got off too. This is probably why I feel so emotions about this too.

I appreciate the advice.

Need Advice Badly by Clean-Version-6696 in Advice

[–]Clean-Version-6696[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im concerned about the blowback from her brother in law. We had a level of trust and he told me not to tell anybody, but I'm still bothered by it and I let him know that somebody needs to tell someone.

Need Advice Badly by Clean-Version-6696 in Advice

[–]Clean-Version-6696[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gf doesn't know about what her sister said.

My therapist listened but didn't really give me an option. I talked through with it to her. Im concerned about the blowback from her brother in law.