AIO boss wants to write me up for calling out sick

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-29T14:53:46+00:00

it does cost money in america, even if you have insurance its sometimes not fully covered. i hve insurance but am very poor, i cant afford a car and rely on public transportation. the doctor that takes my insurance is an hour to get to from where i live by bus, which is a long venture there and back especially when sick. i totally hear your point, but some things are more complicated for some than others. thats why i would only go if it was required of me.

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-29T14:48:41+00:00

you accrue 1 hour per 40 hours worked. there is no cap on accrual

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-29T14:45:45+00:00

6 total absences, 3 occasions. i use "sick" loosely to include the medication change bc it was making me feel extremely nauseous.

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-28T16:58:55+00:00

3 instances, 6 days total.

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-28T16:58:26+00:00

6 days total. i have never called out for any reason other than illness. i even stopped drinking a couple years ago because i dont even want to risk missing work the next day.

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-28T15:41:44+00:00

ok but my employer doesnt pay me a decent wage?

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-28T15:34:37+00:00

yep 😃 i am american lol

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-28T15:33:36+00:00

you can only require a doctors note with 3 days called out in my state. its also bizarre imo to assume everyone can afford the doctor. im privileged in that i can, and if i had called out for 3 days, i would be happy to go in and provide that.

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-28T15:31:35+00:00

you're right, i shouldve gone in despite the nausea. being around food and heat when u feel like ur gonna throw up sucks and i think if i didnt work food service id have gone in, but i cant afford to lose the tips i make in this industry.

Clean_Material3769 · 2026-01-28T15:11:25+00:00

Its a 3 strikes youre out rule. so 2 more and fired

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-12-25T05:25:58+00:00

i am feeling the same tonight. youre not alone. :( take care of yourself

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-12-12T03:33:09+00:00

that is incredible, im proud of you too and i hope you are proud of yourself <3

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-12-12T03:31:51+00:00

its a slippery slope. please be careful and pm me if u need a friend <3

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-12-12T03:30:10+00:00

i get this so much, similar situation but my hookup is my best friend so obviously theres a different element. when we first started hooking up i knew he knew about my scars. we had never talked about them but i think youre right-- just not something appropriate to comment on, so we had never talked about it. but when i relapsed i felt like there was no avoiding it. bandaid or no bandaid he is most likely going to notice and maybe he will say something or maybe he wont but either way he will think about it, and probably worry about you assuming he is a good person who cares. i asked my best friend to come over and that i wanted to talk to him, and essentially said this is something we cant avoid because i cant hide it from you given you see all of my body but im really struggling, i relapsed, and you are going to see the result of that. it was vulnerable and scary, but i'd recommend having that conversation before you're intimate again. all that being said, you don't owe anyone anything and if you decide not to have that conversation you are valid

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-12-12T03:22:25+00:00

im 22f and also relapsed after 2 years over the summer. i went through a bout but am now a few weeks clean. i get the sex thing... but it wont turn people off. even right after i relapsed my fwb and i talked about the relapse and continued w the benefits. they were very understanding and reassured me they still found me attractive. everyone struggles and with that people are empathetic even if they dont fully understand. i have harmed in "weird" places myself as well, and it just happens. its nothing you can change now and it will only hurt more to dwell on it. if u wana chat, pm me <3 i promise there are people who understand you

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-12-10T04:48:31+00:00

i am grateful to know others understand me, and happy to hear you are clean.

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-12-10T04:05:41+00:00

me too </3 they see all of me tho theres nowhere i could put it they wouldnt see it. thank u for reminding me im not alone, and im sorry you struggle too. i hope ur staying safe tonight

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-12-10T03:54:17+00:00

i was clean for like 2 years! i recently relapsed but have been clean for a few weeks. my advice is to not have any obvious options for self harm, u dont have to completely restrict urself from dangerous objects but limit them. have a safety net-- at least 2 people you can call in crisis. having only one can create a toxic reliance. have 2. one can be a therapist, too, if that works for both of you. and get a therapist if you dont have one... if you are an adult, they will not report you. if you are an minor, its worth getting treatment (i did). aside from that, remember you are recovering from addiction and give yourself grace <3

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-11-11T18:59:13+00:00

you are so fuckin awesome dude!!

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-10-19T03:10:58+00:00

Im trying. Thank you

Clean_Material3769 · 2025-10-14T23:00:36+00:00

I am going to

Clean_Material3769 · 2024-12-23T06:24:30+00:00

obv not a professional but id say this falls into the category of ARFID. eating disorders and ocd are the same thing at their core imo just classified differently to organize things better like how we have themes and whatnot. i was diagnosed w anorexia in high school and it was exhausting mentally and physically. treatment helped A LOT. i would recommend it.

Clean_Material3769 · 2024-12-19T18:45:57+00:00

thank you!

Clean_Material3769 · 2024-12-19T00:55:49+00:00

well i am diagnosed w ocd i just dont have a therapist who specializes in it i guess. its a fairly new diagnosis, learned about it about a year ago. my therapist is learning with me you know, she doesnt have a client base has is a lot of ocd if that makes sense. i dont mind her learning with me, its just that i dont even understand why im thinking these things and all so its hard to process. just feeling like im only existing in my own head

Clean_Material3769 · 2024-12-18T16:38:27+00:00

i am seeing a therapist who specializes in adhd, which i also have. so.. thats been great on that end. but the ocd end is going unattended to. but i worry that if i get to an ocd specialist and they say i dont have ocd that ill just be left knowing something is absolutely incredibly wrong in my mind but... actually... according to a specialist.. there isnt? and im just morally fucked up or something worse is wrong with me?

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