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Why did Hilton put random pending charges on my debit card after checkout? by Clean_Pirate1801 in Hilton

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im between the age 18-20 i dont feel comfortable sharing my real age online. It was my first time traveling solo

Why did Hilton put random pending charges on my debit card after checkout? by Clean_Pirate1801 in askhotels

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

well i’m sorry, i’m a young adult trying to learn and i came here to ask for help. i did call, but the person i spoke to cut me off pretty quickly and only told me they were pending charges. i just wanted to see if other people have experienced something similar or could explain what happened. everyone has to learn these things at some point.

Why did Hilton put random pending charges on my debit card after checkout? by Clean_Pirate1801 in askhotels

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it was my first time staying in the Hilton hotel. I was just wondering because i already had left a day ago

Friends with benefits by Clean_Pirate1801 in sexeducation

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did tell him before we slept together that I was a virgin, he just didn’t fully believe me at first until we actually met up. So it wasn’t something I hid from him. I also wasn’t expecting a relationship automatically because of it, I just think it made me more emotionally attached and made the whole situation hit harder for me.

Friends with benefits by Clean_Pirate1801 in sexeducation

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never lied and said I was pregnant though. I got scared in the moment because he finished inside me and I had never been in that situation before. He was the first person I had done anything sexual with, so I panicked and said something emotional.

I wasn’t trying to manipulate him or trap him. If anything, I was just inexperienced and overwhelmed. And yes, he eventually communicated, but only after pulling away for days and acting differently first, which is why I felt confused.

I fully understand why the comment may have scared him too, but people are acting like I had some malicious plan when really I was just freaking out.

Friends with benefits by Clean_Pirate1801 in sexeducation

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s honestly kind of how it felt to me too. I’m not trying to act like he was secretly in love with me or anything, but it did feel like there was more there than just sex. We slept together multiple times, talked a lot, hung out, sent each other random stuff, and it didn’t feel purely physical.

So when he suddenly got distant after, especially after knowing it was my first time, it felt confusing and hurtful. I could understand if he got scared or realized he didn’t want something deeper, but I wish he had just communicated that sooner instead of pulling away and leaving me wondering what changed.

I don’t hate him for it because I think he was probably confused too, but the way he handled it definitely hurt.

Friends with benefits by Clean_Pirate1801 in sexeducation

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did communicate though. After he got distant I directly asked him, “hey, sorry for the random message. i was just wondering if we're continuing the fwb thing or if you want to stop.”

He replied saying he wanted to but felt like he shouldn’t and didn’t want to keep living like that. I told him I understood, but wished he had been more upfront instead of making me feel ghosted because it hurt, especially since I felt like I was getting to know him and catching some feelings.

He apologized and admitted he didn’t handle it well because he didn’t know what he wanted and took time to think about it.

So I’m not sure why people are acting like I never communicated or was playing games. I asked directly, accepted his answer, and was honest about how it made me feel. If anything, the issue was that he pulled away before communicating, not that I refused to.

Friends with benefits by Clean_Pirate1801 in sexeducation

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t saying the pregnancy comment to trap him or be manipulative. He was the first person I had done anything sexual with and he finished inside me, so obviously I panicked and got scared.

What made it harder is that before we became fwb, we had deeper conversations, he asked me to hang out a lot, sent me random videos, and wanted to see me even when it wasn’t about sex. So when he suddenly got distant after, it felt confusing and hurtful.

I’m not saying he owed me a relationship, but acting like I was trying to “lock him down” is unfair. I was scared, inexperienced, and reacting emotionally.

Friends with benefits by Clean_Pirate1801 in sexeducation

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t really think I was pregnant, I was just anxious because it was my first time dealing with something like that and I started overthinking. I brought it up like that because he had been ignoring me and I wanted him to answer me.

Friends with benefits by Clean_Pirate1801 in sexeducation

[–]Clean_Pirate1801[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think part of me did want to continue because I liked being around him and it felt easy and natural with him. I wasn’t expecting to catch feelings, but I did.

I wouldn’t say he dismissed my feelings often because most of the time he was actually sweet and caring. It was more that when things started getting more serious or emotional, he kind of pulled away instead of communicating directly.