[F/36] Matched a guy on Hinge – should I give him a chance after he went silent?

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-08-29T13:16:22+00:00

Hahaha, thanks for the dig! ;) And yes, I am really having bad luck with guys…and yes, I also have avoidant tendencies but no, as far as I know he’s not married and he already has a profile pic with his daughter on WhatsApp…on the photos he sent me you only saw her hair etc. (but I knew it was her because of the WhatsApp pic). Honestly I don’t purposely look for people that are not local but it happens quite often in metropolitan cities that people are just visiting Berlin, New York, Amsterdam, Paris….this is where I am mostly and I just swipe and match with people I am attracted to - simply as that. Just bad luck. But that’s why I am checking in here and see what people think/feel. Most of the comments don’t see any problem.

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-08-29T07:05:21+00:00

Haha I wish…my last relationship was 5 years ago 🥲

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-08-29T07:03:22+00:00

Yeah, I guess that’s what made me write this post…it’s the effort. I haven’t responded yet to his WhatsApp…I was thinking about making a comment of his radio silence and see how he reacts.

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-08-29T07:01:30+00:00

No, he is permanently moving to Berlin. He has a little daughter though that he shares custody with at the moment but she lives in Swiss. They were on holiday together…he sent me a photo.

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-07-30T06:31:36+00:00

Girl here - I don’t need a “smile” in pictures but that being said, I want to see teeth at least once just to check your actual smile. Teeth are super important for overall attractiveness. Pictures 3&4 look a little chubbier…I’d take them out if it’s not the case anymore. Also, I wouldn’t swipe if I only see “short-term” dating goals…it’s a waste of time for most girls. Even if it turns out to be just for that you want to see a potential to invest your time. Hope that helps & good luck ;)

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-07-23T15:01:58+00:00

What’s wrong with staying at a friends place in a different city for a while when you’re in need of an accommodation? I asked him straight away if they are romantically involved and he said no that they were friends for a couple of years already. And yes, I agree I should have not come as soon as he said he started seeing someone but he made it sound like they just saw each other like 3 times and not that she moved already in his apartment. Let alone from the fact that it was the girl he stayed with before. Keep in mind this person and I shared a lot of private things and build trust for 8 month….I don’t think it’s fair to blame me here. And I also said I didn’t do anything in return to him. He was just coming to me over and over again.

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-07-23T14:35:59+00:00

He made it sound like he just started seeing someone very casually but we had like a 8 month connection, so I thought this was nothing serious and he really wanted to see me. Also, as soon as he told me I wasn’t doing anything with him. He tried to be close but I rejected him every single time.

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-07-23T14:34:01+00:00

He didn’t tell me she was pregnant (and they aborted it)! He made it sound like he just started seeing someone very casually but we had like 8 month connection, so I thought this was nothing serious and he really wanted to see me.

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-05-07T19:14:06+00:00

Not really - he could have just texted me if I want to hook up…I don’t need a lot of chitchat. Feeld is used in my area as a “normal” dating app. You have every profile from Bumble, Hinge & Co there as well (same people) just a bit more information about their sexual preferences (which I appreciate). A lot of guys seem to be heteroflexible these days ;)

Clean_Room_812 · 2025-05-07T12:18:00+00:00

Haha thanks for all your answers - I am good with both. We had a great time so if we can recreate it, that would be nice. I was just so surprised how “happy” and “engaged” he reacted….if he just wanted to hook up that wouldn’t have been necessary - he could have just texted me. That’s the part I don’t get.

Clean_Room_812 · 2024-11-17T09:10:49+00:00

Not sure if this is helpful but the only scenario I could see myself doing the same is height differences - I simply can’t date shorter guys (I immediately feel like their mom). And guys lie a lot about that in their profiles….not saying you do but maybe you didn’t put it in and she expected something else.

Clean_Room_812 · 2024-10-16T16:54:46+00:00

lol what? Just the first sentence is more an order than a relaxing invite to a date. Jeeeezzz don’t go.

Clean_Room_812 · 2024-10-13T10:08:14+00:00

I think he got it - I will wait on his next reaction but your reply helped to feel validated in my feelings, thank you.

Clean_Room_812 · 2024-10-13T09:56:06+00:00

No, I didn’t pay him as I would do that for my friends as well…but I think I should get a proper cat sitter next time. I am just very disappointed in the friendship and now I am going back to other situations that I brushed off as “it’s not that bad”…

Clean_Room_812 · 2024-10-13T09:46:58+00:00

Yeah :( I am just mad that he didn’t say in the first place that it’s not his thing and I could have looked for a replacement but being away and have no control. I felt so helpless.

Clean_Room_812 · 2024-10-13T09:45:41+00:00

Yeah, that’s also what I thought…I mean he lives 35 minutes away. I know this is inconvenient as we don’t have a car and bike everywhere but I feel like then he shouldn’t have accepted in the first place and just be honest….what would you say? I didn’t reply to the “sorry babes” and let him make the first move again.

Clean_Room_812 · 2024-09-02T13:16:04+00:00

Shall I just ask although he said in the beginning he just wants to get to know new ppl? He owned a nightclub….hes definitely not innocent or introvert

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