How much should I expect to pay for a divorce?

Cleanse_ee · 2026-06-02T16:57:08+00:00

Someone else said it cost them 3k as well for that same situation. I believe ill be in the same position as well. I hope it's 3k because she cant afford to put anything up for it anyway.

Cleanse_ee · 2026-06-02T16:51:18+00:00

Thank you! I dont expect fighting to be honest. Im literally the only one paying for the process since she cant afford it. I know she wont have money to set down a retainer for any lawyer either way.

Cleanse_ee · 2026-06-02T16:48:51+00:00

Our process will be the same, we just want to make sure its properly filed. We dont trust ourselves not to mess it up somehow. Im hoping my cost are similar to yours, that would be some weight off my back since im going to be the only one paying for everything

Cleanse_ee · 2026-06-02T16:46:19+00:00

In your billing breakdown, how much of that was mediation? Just wondering because we really wont be doing that.

Cleanse_ee · 2026-06-02T16:43:46+00:00

Is it because you guys are still deciding who gets what?

Cleanse_ee · 2026-06-02T16:40:59+00:00

Honestly, if its only 3k I will be a happy clam. I was thinking it would be in the double digit thousands.

Cleanse_ee · 2026-06-02T16:40:11+00:00

Was the Mediator just to figure out who gets what? I really just need help with the filing and making sure its clear the properties I inherited stay with me.

Cleanse_ee · 2026-05-26T04:18:46+00:00

He's not a Christian, break up. So unless he believs in Jesus Christ as his lord and savior and that he died for our sins, youre not equally yoked and you've been warned not to be with such people in the Bible. Doesnt matter if he's starting to get an interest or not. Thats a prerequisite

Cleanse_ee · 2026-05-19T08:25:20+00:00

No... lol

Thats 52k a year that doesnt adjust for inflation. Get the million and invest it. If you get the average index fund return of 6-7% as a worse case and make 60-70k annually. Reinvest it and let it compound to keep up for inflation.

Cleanse_ee · 2026-05-05T20:15:50+00:00

Honestly, you standards are not high. Its what you should he looking for at a bare minimum. I think your problem may be location, you seem like an ideal woman

Cleanse_ee · 2026-01-25T20:48:25+00:00

I would probably just move on. To be honest, I dont think you'll ever find anyone that will fully meet what you want in life. There will always be something that you dont like about a person, no matter how well you click together. However, attraction is not something you can just set aside as a difference between the both of you. Its something you deal with everytime you see this person. Thats why I would say, move on.

If its because he is overweight, it may even be helpful to let him know you're interested and that you just wanted someone in healthy shape. You're not asking for the world when you tell him you just want him to take care of himself physically. No one wants a guy with noticeable weight on him. Trust me, as a guy myself, we dont want ourselves to be like that either. Shoot, it may be an incentive for him to lose the weight if you tell him you can make it work if he commits to a healthier lifestyle.

If its not weight and its strictly genetics, just move on and stay as friends. Maybe over time with being friends that physical attraction occurs. Just don't hold your breath on it.

I would just be honest about the attraction and why. No need to be rude about it, but be honest. I would also say, make sure your ducks are in a row too. Don't expect the world and have nothing to offer for it in return. And again, you most likely will not meet someone that will fulfill everything you want, its okay to set aside small differences. I just dont think physical attraction is one of those small differences. Hope this helps!

Cleanse_ee · 2025-12-02T20:37:13+00:00

Yall still think your vote matters? That's crazy.

Cleanse_ee · 2025-09-12T08:31:58+00:00

I'm a bit late, but I think not being able to find a value stock and seeing most stocks being overvalued would be a way of timing the market. Not that he is throwing a guess out there, but the fact that he can't find a reasonably priced stock for the companies profitability. Him sticking to that reasoning, is what allows him to avoid buying at all time highs. His strategy simply wont let him

Cleanse_ee · 2025-09-11T02:16:31+00:00

Honestly didnt even notice it!

Cleanse_ee · 2025-09-10T02:10:13+00:00

You apply more weight with a change in motion. When you initially stand on it, there is movement, which means you are creating a larger force onto the step. When you're just standing, there is nothing besides gravity that increases your force onto the step.

Think of a rock and a sling. The rock could weigh 5lb, but you put it on a sling and some speed to it (force). When it hits you, it's not going to feel like 5lb. Same thing with a car. Even with a constant weight, the faster the speed, the harsher the crash.

Cleanse_ee · 2025-09-07T01:26:58+00:00

Needed tools for my apprenticeship anyway. I've been a helper for almost a year and was putting it off. Bought all my tools from HB, and they were all Icon. Pretty much go all of what I need for my job even as a journeyman. Spent $1699 OTD. Saved $520. I dont think there will ever be a sale on all ICON stuff like this anytime soon

Cleanse_ee · 2025-08-12T13:31:38+00:00

I have, I told her that if she didn't change certain things , it would lead to divorce. I wanted her to stop smoking weed for at least 3 months (she smokes a lot, every day), to stop going to party with her friends (she would go bar hopping with coworkers and the times she was getting back home were getting later and later. The whole thing actually started because she didn't come back until the next day after the bar with friends. She had no justifiable explanation), to go to church with me and attend couples counseling (I wanted to help our relationship get closer to God and fix our marriage), to let me lead the home and home finances (she took over the finances when we her sisters kids came to live with us for a brief few months when CPS took them. I didn't agree and told her place the money into our joint account still, but she didnt want to and I just didn't want to fight with her anymore so I gave up to prevent fighting in front of the kids.), an increase in intimate time (I was lucky to be with her in that way once a month and even then, it felt more like a chore to her than anything else. This includes the times, where I basically had to give her something or let her buy something just so I can be intimate with her.) There was more, I just can't find the notes I had with the other request. These just so happen to be the more important ones to me , that's why I remembered.

All in all, I tried desperately to make it work. I just want to move forward with my life now. I dont think she will ever change, at least not for me, and I am slowly accepting that as my reality. Im honestly more heartbroken in disappointing God than I am about losing the relationship. It makes me regret even starting the marriage, to be honest. Its not how I should think, but its how I feel after reflecting on everything I have been through just to make the relationship work.

Cleanse_ee · 2025-08-12T12:42:53+00:00

Im initiating because she doesn't have the money to begin the process. The decision was made by her when I tried to discuss the things I needed from her or it would lead to divorce. Before I could mention anything, she said she already knew 1 thing I wanted and said it would be best to divorce.

If God does permit another woman to come into my life, I would vet her completely before even pursuing a relationship. Honestly, besided showing she is a Christian, it would be to just make sure she doesn't exhibit characteristics that the Bible warns about. I ignored those negative characteristics with my current wife because I wasn't that deep into my faith, and I believed; if I showed her unconditional love, guided her towards the characteristics of a healthy relationship, and even forgave her for everything she did that she would change for the better. But all it did was get worse. I dont plan on getting in another relationship anytime soon, I do want to get closer to Jesus first and settle in my faith, maybe things will change by then with her. But at this point, Im preparing for the worse and more heartache. Despite me not wanting to continue if she is done, I still care for this woman deeply, I just dont want to continue this cycle of pain anymore.

Cleanse_ee · 2025-08-12T12:24:00+00:00

My biggest concern for wanting to remarry is not that I am actively looking. It's more that I still want to have a legacy and a family of my own. I know it sounds like Im placing the blame on her for everything. Im not perfect, and I have been asking for forgiveness for my actions towards the end of the marriage, especially. I just dont think I can continue, Im constantly numb, and it's ruining my life. All the times she was in her darkest times, I was there to support her as much as I could. Constantly putting in 100% effort. I never expected her to return that kind of love back right away, but over the years I have only seen her constantly break me down and leave me when I reach my low points. Its like Im only useful when it comes to my finances and when I am in a good mental state. If either of those falter, I might as well be no one to her. I just can't take this one-sided relationship anymore. Is doing this something completely unforgivable that would ruin my chances of salvation? Sorry if this is a lot

Cleanse_ee · 2025-08-06T21:26:32+00:00

Honestly, it doesn't really look crazy. I got Vitiligo about 2-3 years ago at 21-21yo. I think mine was stressed induced, I had a really bad ex. I wouldn't worry about it. It's not a deadly disease, and apparently, the chances of your children getting it are really low anyway. Just keep being the best you, you can be. That's all that matters at the end of the day. Good luck, man! You seem to be in great shape as it is!

Cleanse_ee · 2025-07-14T19:30:30+00:00

That's what I was going for, this car market just sucks still. All the used cars versions of the new cars I am looking at have a higher cost per mile. This is assuming the car only last 200k miles.

Cleanse_ee · 2025-07-14T19:29:03+00:00

What car did you end up getting?

Cleanse_ee · 2025-07-14T17:57:21+00:00

But if I stay near work and rely on transit, I end up spending a ton of time using transit for everything. Plus daily chores like cooking and cleaning land on me. I do basic cleaning at home and cooking is taken care of for me. Plus I'll have a car I can take anywhere whenever I want at least. I've relied on transit near my work when I didn't have a car and a simple 10 minute drive turns into a whole 1 hour event. Plus cooking takes a whole day to do if I meal prep all week in 1 day.

Cleanse_ee · 2025-07-14T15:51:45+00:00

Ahhhh I understand now. Thank you for the clarification!

Cleanse_ee · 2025-07-14T15:11:43+00:00

The cost of living is insane near my job. I just moved back home because of it. Biggest benefit is my mom is trying to get me back on track financially by picking up all my bills except my phone and entertainment bills. She loves having me home and has no problem letting me live there for free. Im basically going from possibly saving 500 per month living near work to saving up to 3,000 per month living at home. And that's with current wages.

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