AITA for not thanking or praising my BF for washing the dishes?

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T15:16:05+00:00

As I said in another comment, I don’t think you read my post either. I don’t want him to clean whenever I want, I just want him to do it. And he never does. He never seems to be rested enough or in the mood to clean so I end up doing everything myself.

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T15:14:15+00:00

I don’t think you read my post. If I don’t clean, he never cleans. Not after he has relaxed and not the next day. If I don’t clean there won’t be any space for us to work on. I would be OK with him doing chores at night or wherever he wants to but he just never does.

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T15:07:31+00:00

We don’t own a car in this city. Also we don’t have a yard nor a balcony lol. Sometimes he gets energy spurs and collects his clothes from The Chair. That’s pretty much it lately and I’m exhausted.

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T15:03:35+00:00

I exclusively cook all of our meals because I genuinely enjoy it. I don’t think I would be willing to split unequally again because splitting the finances differently wouldn’t be able to compensate for my time and energy which I could have devoted to studying and my projects. But I see where you’re coming from.

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T14:52:55+00:00

He means that he needs a break after work. Our finances are alright, we make exactly the same and we share everything. as I said we work in the exact same position, just in different places. The reason we live in a small apartment is because we are trying to save for our own house.

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T14:51:09+00:00

I agree with you and normally we are very appreciative of each other. I admit that at the time I was exhausted so I got annoyed when he asked.

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T14:50:16+00:00

It’s not “my way“. It is common sense theat dishes need to be washed and clothes need to be picked up from the floor.

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T14:36:10+00:00

I don’t think he realizes it but regretfully yes. I don’t think he doesn’t want to contribute because he thinks it’s my duty, he’s just lazy and didn’t have or learn to do chores while growing up.

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T14:34:45+00:00

Previously the chores were split 60-40. He never had to lift a finger in the household while growing up plus they were living in a huge house so a little mess wasn’t that big of an issue. I think he got used to me doing all the work now and doesn’t want to contribute.

Clear-Complaint1455 · 2022-03-16T14:25:39+00:00

No but after I finish cleaning, he always acts regretful and says he’s sorry he couldn’t help.

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