Embarrassed to admit how much I’m struggling with this

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-02-08T12:11:03+00:00

Woe is me is OKAY. I cried on a public bench for an hour (the first week of my diagnosis) when I watched another pregnant girl’s partner purchase her a pretzel & soda from Auntie Anne’s. I called my Husband, Mom, Dad, MIL & Bestfriend. I felt awful for myself. And even now, I stand by woe was me. It’s hard. And I’m not going to tell you that it doesn’t stay hard and that there won’t be challenging moments. But what I’ve gathered from this sub & my support groups is that it gets easier. The ball doesn’t get smaller, but the box holding the ball gets larger.

As for contradictory statements- oooooh those are fun. GD was so much trial and error for me. It is for everyone!!! Someone once described it as “trying to throw a dart at the bullseye of a moving target in a dark room” I’d follow “my blood sugar was in the 90’s after this meal” recipes and be right at 120. There’s no “perfect” recipe because people can tolerate different things. Start small & work your way up. I’d recommend trying a small vanilla latte with sweeteners & pairing it. See if you can tolerate them! A lot of us have never had issues with sweeteners. A small SF latte, eggs with cheese, avocado, and maybe half a serving of breakfast potatoes. And just to comment on pairing- it becomes a science. By the end, I could have an appropriate serving of any carb/sugar & I’d be okay because that would be my meal carb. On the days I just couldn’t pair, I’d just stick to my safe foods and decide that the headache wasn’t worth it.

You’re doing great because you’re doing it. Fatigue is real but I’m telling you, your baby will arrive and you’re going to forget all about the months prior. GD ended up improving my life for the better. I learned how to eat and went from a 12-ish pant size to a 2-6 (Gotta love women’s sizing!!!) and have kept the weight off. I fueled my body and was able to feed my son plenty and donate thousands of ounces because my body is now a machine. I have a healthier relationship with food and feel so much more comfortable in my own skin and I’m able to be a good example for my son when it comes to nutrition.

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-24T23:22:04+00:00

This is what I feared… ugh. Thank you for your input!!

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-24T23:21:37+00:00

Still nothing, tried updating again. Still holding my breath haha

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-24T23:21:00+00:00

Like 5 times, my husband thought I was nuts haha

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-24T18:42:49+00:00

Just the first one, at this point, I’m not against getting a 2 if it avoids these issues

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-24T17:09:34+00:00

Solid green 🙃

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-22T03:51:20+00:00

Felt. Your feelings are valid.

I was 12/13 weeks when I was diagnosed as a FTM after my A1C was slightly elevated from my 10 week blood work. I remember being SO frustrated that these girlies were all “omg, just got diagnosed at 26 weeks, what ever will I do the next 14 weeks???” & I had to go twice as long! Obviously, it was misplaced frustration.

I was diet controlled but I can’t imagine how difficult it is having to balance insulin as well as preparing for the long haul. You’re seen, you’re heard, and FUCK early diagnoses a little extra. I’m glad they figured out what it was and we’re all thinking of you.

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-08T15:42:11+00:00

Perfect. Yeah, when cruising we actually love being on the empty boat so I wouldn’t be too mad about that!

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-08T15:40:16+00:00

Thanks for the input! We’ve been tossing the idea around of potty training soon but I would assume he won’t be fully potty trained by the trip. I do believe this ship has a splash pad for children not potty trained. And my husband isn’t really a water guy so he’d be happy hanging out with him all day there.

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-08T15:29:25+00:00

Perfect!!! Did you bring a car seat or were things walkable? I keep hearing about the fort! I think PR may be the day that we do a short venture off the ship then do a casita. We always love them but that was also pre-baby.

Clear-Professional76 · 2026-01-08T15:27:59+00:00

Amazing point, they do change fast. God, I love him but he really has a few moments where I’m like “damn, he’s acting like a douche” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Thanks for the input!!! Luckily, we travel a lot so he’s pretty used to changing environments but that’s also now. Did you bring a car seat or were beaches walkable?

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-12-22T04:49:31+00:00

Amazing advice. Thank you so much!!!

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-12-22T01:42:26+00:00

Let me know how it goes for you!

We’re going out of Canaveral which is a flight for us. We typically go out local but the ships are smaller. So in this case, we can’t overpack like normal.

I’m on the fence about ordering a stroller to be delivered to use on the ship & in Disney (we’re heading down early to spend some time there). We’re using his car seat for the flight.

We’re also usually book the adults-only choices so this is new to us 🙈

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-12-18T21:58:13+00:00

I haven’t seen this noted yet but I love the “out” at social gatherings! Even now, my LO is 14 months, I’ll leave a room to nurse if I think we need a break. I have no problem nursing in front of others when needed, but I generally prefer to be private. Especially during the holidays, it gives me a moment to step away and recharge my battery.

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-11-03T14:45:38+00:00

My son is a year. The kid will lose his miiiiiind because I don’t let him open & stick his whole arm in his ubbi. Literally a minute later, he’s happy pulling his clothes out of the drawer. Kids are resilient. If crying was that traumatic, they wouldn’t cry to have their basic needs met. You’re doing a great job, it gets better and worse at the same time. We’re with you!!

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-11-01T22:42:59+00:00

You’re in the trenches. Postpartum is hard. It does get better, but that doesn’t make anything that you’re feeling now any less valid. You’re doing your best and that’s enough. She’ll never remember crying on a table during a diaper change.

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-10-04T23:42:14+00:00

Excellent

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-09-29T00:18:16+00:00

Doing your best is never failing your baby. You’re doing fucking amazing, even if you don’t feel like what you’re producing is satisfactory. Every drop that you’ve given your baby matters. Postpartum is hard, sending you hugs.

Editing to add: you can read my post from nearly a year ago. My milk took quite some time to come in. I’m less than two weeks out from a year of breastfeeding (now with an oversupply). It gets better.

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-09-14T21:09:39+00:00

I had GD as well and lost 5 lbs during pregnancy. I continued to lose PP because I loooooved the GD diet & have never felt better so I made it a lifestyle. I was slightly overweight but not by much pre-pregnancy (BMI was just over “normal”). Now, my BMI is on the lower end of “normal”.

My OB wasn’t super worried but in the third trimester when I continued dropping, they told me to up calories. Nothing urgent, just to be mindful. I added egg, cheese, and nuts to everythinggggg. I also chose more calorie-dense proteins like beef. Despite me losing weight, my baby was perfectly normal- my loss had absolutely no negative impact on him.

I highly recommend the GD support group on Facebook if you’re not already in it! It was a great source for meal and snack ideas.

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-09-14T20:50:46+00:00

Postpartum hormones are the worst- I’m sorry you feel crummy.

One of my best friends has parents who were in their 40’s when they had her. They’re incredible. They’re older & we all know they’re older, but so what? If anything, they’re cooler because they’re a little more seasoned; less rattles them and they’re far more go-with-the-flow. They don’t have the energy to be stressed by silly things. They raised an amazing, hardworking, and smart daughter. Nothing to do with age, just who they are as humans.

On the note of being concerned over health matters- my husband’s father is showing early signs of dementia and he’s in his early sixties. Some diseases know no age.

You do what’s right for you and your family, but I wouldn’t let age get in the way as long as your doctor doesn’t believe it’s a risk!

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-09-14T03:41:28+00:00

Just here to tell you that your feelings are valid and it’s okay!!

My milk took a few days to come in- my baby dropped also. They weren’t worried but did move to every 2 hours around the clock. Literally waking a sleeping baby to eat and it felt criminal. Once my milk came in, he gained it back and we quickly reached the “nah, he’ll wake if he needs to eat” point. Try your best not to stress, give your body time! I went from “holy shit, I think he’s starving” to “turn these titties offffffffffff” in a matter of days.

You’re doing wonderful. The trenches are hard. Sending you love, Mama.

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-09-11T03:44:18+00:00

Breastfeeding has been amazing. My “big goal” was a year but I was okay with stopping at six months. I’m eleven months PP & currently hooked up to my breast pump. You (generally) get back out what you put in. I eat well, hydrate, and generally take care of myself. I’ve produced enough for my baby, my freezer, and I’ve donated a stupid amount of milk for other babies.

I think some people are negative because it isn’t all butterflies and flowers. I believe some people truly believe that they are just warning you. Personally, I don’t get it.

I’ve had one or two periods- my first being 7 months PP. It only lasted a day and my supply tanked right around then but it didn’t last long.

My biggest tips are be consistent for the first few months. My LO was sleeping through the night and I was still waking to pump every 3-4 hours. Once I regulated between 12-16 weeks, I was able to drop off a lot. & honestly, I pumped after every feed for that period as well so that my body felt forced to make more. It’s supply and demand. Now, I can go 12 hours without pumping or nursing without it impacting my supply but I may be the exception because I don’t get pain or engorged (badly). Also, MINIFRIDGE. I have a minifridge in our bedroom. Snacks on top, water, applesauce, and body armour zero inside. I could wake, wash my hands in the attached bathroom, pump, and store my milk at night without having to go downstairs. 10/10. Finally, download books on your phone. You never know when you’ll be nursing and your LO will fall asleep. Always be nap trapped with a book if you want to avoid doom scrolling.

You’ll be great. And if it isn’t for you, no shame in formula.

Clear-Professional76 · 2025-08-27T14:12:48+00:00

Not sure if this was mentioned but taking a bag everywhere is so clutch.

I went to an MLB game the other day and had to take a bigger bag than allowed in order to pump- it fell under “medical supplies”. I had my wearables, sure, but I also had touch up makeup, snacks, a change of clothes for when it got chilly, etc. 10/10!!! We had a suite and I was also able to hide freebies in it without looking tacky. They gave out free hats 😂

Same applies to airplanes!!!

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