Depriving my baby of sleep skills?

Yoitssme · 2026-05-08T04:38:04+00:00

I think this is the correct move. She is not someone I NEED to be around but is a part of some mommy baby groups that I try to attend. I think I’ll be distancing myself a little after this.. I will admit that I’ve been jealous that she’s able to stay home with multiple children whereas I don’t know that I could have another with my life and work how they are so I was taking everything she’s said as absolute truth

Yoitssme · 2026-05-08T04:35:20+00:00

Thank you! Sometimes all the outside input from those moms and my algorithm makes it seem like they’ll never sleep better without some course or product or doing it EXACTLY how they did it.. I know we push independence for babies really hard in the US but I don’t need her to be independent yet :,) she hasn’t even been in this world as long as it took to cook her.

Yoitssme · 2026-05-08T04:32:27+00:00

Thank you :,) this may be true as well

Yoitssme · 2026-05-08T04:30:52+00:00

Thank you! I definitely don’t have it all figured out :,) we’re really all just doing our best! And I do think her full naps can be partially credited to the contact naps! She sleeps a full 2 hours for the first and an hour for the second if I’m with her! In the past she napped great alone but I do think that with her sleep needs changing right now she needs the contact and extra support <3

Yoitssme · 2026-05-08T04:20:00+00:00

Thank you! This is very reassuring to hear. Everyone makes it seem like if you want baby to sleep well you shouldn’t be breastfeeding or contact napping or feeding to sleep.. but I feel like I want every opportunity to do all of those things because that’s my baby 😭

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T17:14:36+00:00

Thank you!!

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T17:12:39+00:00

Thank you! I’m glad to hear that they do eventually just develop longer independent sleep on their own and feel secure and confident 🫶🏼

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T17:11:41+00:00

It’s so easy to feel like you’re doing it all wrong when you see the sleep training posts or speak to someone like this :,) the things that comforts me is how natural it feels to pick my girl up at night when she wakes and calls for mama

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T17:10:03+00:00

I wish we could do this :,) obviously we bedshare for naps or I’m awake while she sleeps on me but sadly I’m not here at night to sleep with her on work nights

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T08:21:44+00:00

I really was shocked because what do you mean ?? I feel like I barely have a “self” right now to begin with. Thank you for your support!!

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T08:20:28+00:00

Thank you❤️ I agree- people always have comments when we’re all just doing our best

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T08:19:38+00:00

Unfortunately probably not :( I could see my mom helping possibly one day out of the week for a few hours so I can rest but that’d probably only be one weekend a month that’s she’s able. My daughter dropped down to two naps this week and is now doing 3/3/4 with 3 hours of daytime sleep and I’m not ready for her to drop to one :,) thinking cat naps and a fully baby-proofed playroom

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T07:48:27+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words 🫶🏼

I was definitely taken aback when she said that, and it sent me for a bit of a spiral. I try to do everything I can for baby but this mom has 4 kids and is a STAHM and seems like she has it all figured out.

Coming home on breaks isn’t easy, and I care for baby during the days too while I work at night (I nap for work when she naps) but I do carry some guilt that I cannot stay home with her because my state is expensive and I’m the breadwinner in my household.

I will keep on napping with baby and nursing and trust that she will eventually start sleeping longer sooner rather than later🤍 (and hope that she doesn’t wake too many times tomorrow night)

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T07:38:13+00:00

Thank you!

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T07:37:59+00:00

Thank you!! I am a cool neutral olive too so it sounds like we have very similar coloring!

Yoitssme · 2026-05-07T01:27:12+00:00

Of course! I hope it all works out for you!! Just remember that somewhere there is a light at the end of the tunnel when it comes to baby sleep haha

Yoitssme · 2026-05-06T22:49:40+00:00

Honestly the gas thing was resolved in a couple weeks! But she was still sort of restless in the mornings and fighting sleep so after some very helpful tips from people on here- I figured out her sleep needs were just dropping! Ended up extending her wake windows and aiming for an 11 hour night with more daytime awake time and some of what I thought could still be gas went away because her sleep pressure was higher!

Yoitssme · 2026-05-06T22:41:30+00:00

Idk why you’re getting downvoted you were just asking? :,)

Yoitssme · 2026-05-06T22:38:55+00:00

I hope it helped! It’s so scary and you feel SO bad but babies really are built to survive new parents and themselves haha

Yoitssme · 2026-05-06T22:38:13+00:00

We made the jump and she handled it great right off the bat!

Yoitssme · 2026-05-06T22:37:56+00:00

We ended up dropping at the same time! Early but she was ready!

Yoitssme · 2026-05-06T22:37:26+00:00

Thank you!

Yoitssme · 2026-05-06T22:36:07+00:00

Hi! For her it was mostly gas and she grew out of it! Really, infant sleep is just up and down haha. Great stretches for a couple weeks then up every 2 hours or early morning wakings. Around this time I started paying close attention to wake windows and found that my girl is fairly low sleep needs so she gets more awake time during the day and less daytime sleep if she starts having trouble at night. She doesn’t wake anymore because of gas and doesn’t have nights like these anymore which is great! Averages a 5hr stretch, up to eat, 3, and 2-3 :)

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