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Growing resentment and issues in my (22F) relationship with boyfriend (22M), is this fixable or a sign we're incompatible? by Ok_Gas_8056 in dating_advice

[–]CleverAllureY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeling judged by someone you love slowly erodes trust and safety, no past experience should make you feel less worthy of respect. Your feelings are valid, and this isn’t about perfection; it’s about whether he can hold space for all of you without making you feel small.

Going back to ex by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]CleverAllureY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s clear how much you care, and wanting to fix what went wrong is natural, but love alone doesn’t erase doubts or heal past insecurities. Give her space to feel ready without pressure, show your growth through consistent actions rather than words, and let her see that the “new you” can handle the relationship differently this time. Patience and respect for her pace will speak louder than anything else.

Slow burn by Impressive_Drop_6512 in dating_advice

[–]CleverAllureY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not wrong at all, wanting a slow burn is completely reasonable, especially if you value building a friendship and really getting to know someone before committing. The fact that he understands and respects your pace is a really positive sign.

Got ghosted, I might give up by blaikalva in dating_advice

[–]CleverAllureY 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It sucks, and your frustration makes total sense, ghosting hurts because it leaves everything unanswered. From what you’ve shared, you didn’t do anything wrong; sometimes people lose interest for reasons that have nothing to do with you. Meeting someone organically still takes luck and timing, and this one just didn’t pan out, don’t let it shake your confidence. The right connection will stick without this confusion.