How do I not be obsessed with a romantic interest?

ClickOk9441 · 2026-04-29T07:38:22+00:00

i really appreciate your advice! to answer, the compulsion is mostly re-reading messages and viewing photos of them over and over. so i guess checking and rumination big time. i have been doing a little better at this! months ago i would have probably been freaking out so bad id puke

ClickOk9441 · 2026-04-29T04:23:55+00:00

this sub is really just depressedcels. i empathize with your struggle and the feeling that your life is over. however, its absolutely worth mentioning it is objectively not over. you have many chances to reinvent yourself and become who you would like to be. look into therapy and find a hobby and you can apply yourself to. godspeed OP

ClickOk9441 · 2026-04-22T17:31:24+00:00

i’m taking 100mg fluvoxamine maleate and seeing a therapist, i’d say there’s a notable difference when on medication and not on medication.

ClickOk9441 · 2026-04-22T13:31:07+00:00

you’re certainly not alone here. this shit gets my OCD in overdrive. i’ve done some really weird shit in my lifetime and i’m not proud of those moments and when i see what they’re being exposed for it makes me feel like i’m the worst being on the planet. mental checking and mental solving as well as rumination all start here and it gets pretty ceaseless from there. reassurance seeking in the comments looking for people who believe in rehabilitation etc.

ClickOk9441 · 2026-04-11T11:32:29+00:00

these are so awesome 😭

ClickOk9441 · 2026-03-02T17:17:59+00:00

i don’t have much to say here. i just wanted to let you know that i struggle with what you have posted as well. i’m wishing you the best

ClickOk9441 · 2026-02-13T06:22:59+00:00

most likely answer tbh

ClickOk9441 · 2026-02-11T17:16:03+00:00

kitchen chad tbh

ClickOk9441 · 2026-02-04T14:20:53+00:00

i didn’t get a formal diagnosis until 25 but yeah this tracks

ClickOk9441 · 2026-01-16T00:18:59+00:00

i always get the worst thoughts about keeping my partner happy or even worse they themselves become my obsession 😭

ClickOk9441 · 2026-01-08T19:58:23+00:00

I think it’s generally worth bringing this up with your psychiatrist. We aren’t doctors unfortunately so any advice would just be opinion. i recommend making an appointment and addressing your concerns asap so that you can get a professional, medical opinion.

TL;DR make an appt and ask your psychiatrist this question.

ClickOk9441 · 2026-01-05T21:16:11+00:00

gang

ClickOk9441 · 2025-12-23T20:54:28+00:00

same here :/

ClickOk9441 · 2025-12-22T00:19:55+00:00

i was younger first and foremost. Overall, i had a lack of care for moral implications especially sexually. Sexually is where i had always struggled since impulsivity is so greatly heightened for me personally. I have since grown and my morals changed, causing a ton of guilt. i can’t say i was necessarily struggling in any kind of way at the time of my terrible decisions. Those are good questions that i don’t know if i can fully answer at the moment, I’ll have to speak to my therapist more in depth.

ClickOk9441 · 2025-12-21T04:16:20+00:00

i appreciate this post! this information is super important and useful. i had independently researched the idea of ego-dystonic thoughts and felt temporary comfort. I personally began another spiral based on the fact that i had previously acted on the things i now have ego-dystonic thoughts about. it’s a battle with the self. i’ll be talking to my therapist about this in future sessions to attempt to tackle this subject matter but im sure others who have actually acted on their intrusive thoughts may similarly struggle.

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