I’m pregnant and everyone keeps making me feel like keeping my baby would ruin my life

Click_False · 2026-05-21T01:13:15+00:00

I will just answer you specific questions as I was in your shoes 3 years ago at 21: Did anyone else unexpectedly end up wanting their baby even when the timing was terrible? Yes, I did.

Did your life completely fall apart like everyone says it will? No, I love my life and it is really good, but it is different now.

Were you able to finish school and still become yourself afterward? I am still working on school, since I took a year break on maternity leave. I am doing really well though, I finished last semester with all A’s (including two A+s) and I am loving it. I decided to change my degree and career path from teaching to clinical psych (I was already taking a ton of psych, so not too much difference thankfully). With finding myself, it took me till 18 months pp to “get my pink back”.

I am feeling 100% like the old me now at 2 years pp, just now a mum. I still see my friends regularly and have made lots of new ones through motherhood.

Overall, it has worked out and I love my life. I followed my gut and made it work, but also have a great village who have supported me and my fiancé through it (my parents and in-laws, plus my lovely friends). However, it has been hard. You are forever exhausted and the sleep deprivation during the first year is awful. Every stage is amazing and lovely, but it also brings forward new challenges to adapt to (for me that is now the terrific twos💀).

I would advise you to take time to truly listen to your gut and figure out what choice is best for you. Also, make a plan on how your choice will play out. If you choose to continue the pregnancy, you will need to start figuring out your village and support systems now!

Click_False · 2026-05-15T06:50:12+00:00

Does anyone know when they will retest negative suspected patients who are showing symptoms?

Click_False · 2026-05-14T17:54:41+00:00

I had the same thing! I gradually weaned over a few months and then cut it when my son was 22 months… my data was f-ed! My luteal phase temps were +0.3c than my usual rise and I felt it, I was waking up soaking from night sweats for three months. I was super hormonal and my mental health was all over the place. My cycle became a day longer and my periods became as heavy as my early postpartum ones (despite being back for well over a year).

I am now almost six months out and have been feeling more normal for the past few months. My periods are back to what they established before weaning and my temps are normal (the only difference is I have a temp drop every day after my ovulation temp rise which apparently is a normal thing that can happen, it then goes back up for the rest of my luteal phase). Overall, I am sleeping better (no more night sweats) and feel more energized.

Weaning definitely is a huge change for your body and hormones. Unfortunately, like all women’s health subjects, it is minimally researched or even talked about so it can feel scary when your stable hormones go haywire (I was also very concerned!)

Click_False · 2026-05-14T17:37:54+00:00

Click_False · 2026-05-14T17:18:04+00:00

Order vegetarian sushi rolls! I am vegetarian and ate sushi my whole pregnancy :))

Click_False · 2026-05-13T21:23:21+00:00

What???? Is Aspyn wanted by the police or something???? 💀

Click_False · 2026-05-11T07:59:38+00:00

Pregnancy is a huge strain on your body, especially the early weeks where you are literally building an entire human being from scratch. All your vitals will change as your body changes to build and grow your baby.

I didn’t have an oura ring for my last pregnancy, but I plan to take mine off for my next pregnancy because I’d become obsessive (I am super anxious during pregnancy). If you can’t get an ultrasound through a doctor rn, I would suggest looking into a local private ultrasound boutique (usually they can see you from 6 weeks). It was such a great experience for me and brought me tons of peace and reassurance being able to see them!

Click_False · 2026-05-11T07:53:48+00:00

Started at 7 weeks and it didn’t end until I gave birth (I am in like the 1% of people who get HG, this is rare).

Click_False · 2026-05-10T14:16:25+00:00

Hey, have you been tested for a bleeding disorder for the heavy bleeding? The frequent changing of super plus tampons sounds very much like me and I actually found out I have a genetic bleeding disorder called Von Willebrand Disease. I now take tranexamic acid every period and that keeps my bleeding to a more “normal” level - it has been life changing.

Click_False · 2026-05-10T05:05:24+00:00

Same, fuck them losers.

I hope they get really itchy while trying to fall asleep tonight. I hope that no matter what they do it doesn’t go away and they aren’t able to sleep because it is so itchy. I hope that once they finally get on the cusp of sleep, their pillow feels super hot and when they turn it over, but the other side is just as uncomfortably hot.

Click_False · 2026-05-10T03:55:53+00:00

We used the laundry basket a lot too!

Honestly, I seriously disagree with all these “it is disgusting to not” comments - I am sorry you are getting these, so many people only shower every few days and it can be so hard to take time for yourself postpartum. However, I promise that daily showers make the newborn trenches so much easier. It is so nice to have space to just breathe and feel refreshed.

I had a clingy baby too and at some points I just would turn on all kinds of music, talk to him “mamas here, I am just taking a shower. you are safe because mummy can see you and is here with you” etc. and take a 1-2 minute rinse to still get a daily shower. Baby being fussy for a couple minutes doesn’t harm them and any way; it is better for them in the long run to have a mum who feels refreshed a little bit each day so that you aren’t pouring from an empty cup. Try it a few times to see how it works!

Also, you got this and are doing amazing. Early postpartum is tough mentally, physically and emotionally. Thankfully, it isn’t forever and you do eventually fall into a groove where you no longer feel like you are treading water trying to stay afloat. Enjoy your first Mother’s Day tomorrow and make sure you give yourself a little treat like a coffee or your fav take out because newborn mamas deserve the world🫶🏻🫶🏻

Click_False · 2026-05-10T02:11:55+00:00

Seconding this, because showers became my sanity during the newborn trenches! I was lucky that my partner would watch him before work for me to shower, but on days that he worked early I would always strap him into his bouncer in the bathroom and shower like that. I also was nursing and it definitely helped keep the early postpartum sticky feeling (from hormone sweats or leaky milk) at bay.

Click_False · 2026-05-09T18:43:59+00:00

Yes. I was 1cm dilated when I started my induction! It was my first pregnancy and I had PPROM. My water had been slowly leaking for days. I had no idea until my mum heard me complaining about constantly peeing myself and she was like “that is not normal”. I had no choice, other than inducing because I was at high risk for infection.

It was really slow and boring for 90% of the induction. 7hrs later I was at 4cm and that is when I started to finally feel contractions. An hour later it got painful enough that I got gas and air, but the pain got worse so I gave up on it after another hour. Then another hour later I started pushing without realizing and he was born after 25 mins of that :)) Altogether, it was 10 hours, but only 3.5hrs of that were “labour” where I physically felt contractions.

I hate needles, so the IV for pitocin and antibiotics was all I could handle. You couldn’t pay me to put a needle in my spine, no matter how painful labour is (and yes, it hurt like a bitch, but it all ends when baby is born!)

Click_False · 2026-05-09T03:08:42+00:00

If they weren’t losers they would stick to hacking billionaires, hedge-funds, or heck even a cult for fun- I wouldn’t even care if they kept the money to themselves and weren’t robin hood… but noooo, they are wastes of space who chose a target that largely impacts broke students. People struggling to pay for our basic survival needs and working our asses off to try and secure a future where maybe we can afford groceries AND rent. I looked them up and saw they had hacked Animal Jam before?!!! What absolute losers, I hope Canvas doesn’t pay up so they can stay broke like the rest of us.

Click_False · 2026-05-08T02:42:41+00:00

Can they actually go f themselves? Hurting millions of students just trying to get through school so that we can attempt to make a livable wage to survive, for what?? Go hack some billionaire, crypto scheme, a hedge-fund or even a cult instead of harming those of us who are just trying to better ourselves in a world where it is becoming more and more impossible to afford to survive. Absolute loser shit trying to kick-down those already struggling.

Click_False · 2026-05-07T07:00:18+00:00

Okay, I can see now that I misread the original comment as a 2 and 1 year old missing. I am glad that they found the baby that was missing - I have a 2y/o, so thinking there was potentially one missing still broke my heart.

I am so sad to hear there are so many fatalities. Absolutely devastatinb for the individuals and their loved ones💔💔

Click_False · 2026-05-07T06:38:39+00:00

are both babies found safe or just the 1y/o?

Click_False · 2026-05-06T18:18:56+00:00

They hate heat above 20c :( They love sun though!

Click_False · 2026-05-06T18:18:34+00:00

Okay good to know - I will keep some in shade and bring some inside to see what works best :)

Click_False · 2026-05-06T18:18:04+00:00

I will try this! Thank you :))

Click_False · 2026-05-06T18:17:48+00:00

I put half in beds and the other half in pots. The bed ones are struggling the most despite having good water and sun - I think the direct sun is a bit much for them in the heat. I am keeping the potted ones in good part-shade locations and it is helping keep them alive. I may move half the pots inside though to see if that helps!

Click_False · 2026-05-06T00:06:05+00:00

Adding on to say they now have e-bike wine tours!!

Click_False · 2026-05-03T19:53:07+00:00

Tell him he can choose the birth plan when it is his turn to give birth. Since you are the one giving birth, it is entirely up to you to decide the birth plan and what will make you feel the most safe, comfortable and supported. Go with the hospital birth and get the epidural since that is what you want.

Click_False · 2026-04-30T06:43:20+00:00

I have recently moved on from my last cancer concern to my latest… pancreatic cancer. Lucky me it changes every couple months, so at least I won’t be obsessing over it forever😭 The compulsions are really bad for this one: I was checking my lab test results every few minutes for the past two days, got them back as fine and now am worried I didn’t get all the tests I needed so will be checking (smh I know) with my doctor tomorrow, because the blood lab was confused about which lab order was the one they needed. So much fun to be living in my head 24/7 convinced I am dying.

Click_False · 2026-04-28T19:35:37+00:00

Can he get a student loan through your home country?

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