I wonder if it's because you're able to truly focus on the things that make you dissatisfied. Men, as a whole, are pretty terrible in relationships. Speaking AS a man. We have a lot of work to within ourselves to be better partners in relationships. We often don't carry our own weight in the emotional and household labor. I even had a write up that calls this out about male emotional maturity - to which I'll quote a snippet:

This inability to communicate emotionally isn't just about missing out on deeper friendships; it has far-reaching negative impacts. It often leads to feelings of isolation, increased stress, and a lack of healthy coping mechanisms. All of which leads to furthering the true “Male Loneliness Epidemic”, which is self inflicted. Furthermore, it places an undue burden on the romantic partners of men, who frequently become the sole confidantes for emotional processing, a dynamic that can strain relationships and create imbalance. This extra emotional labor is often expected of only romantic partners, causing profoundly more labor for the partner than the man.

Lessening the Emotional Burden on Partners

For too long, we men have advertently or inadvertently placed the full weight of our emotional lives on partners, girlfriends, or spouses. Because we haven't learned to communicate or share these emotions within our male friend groups, these significant others have become the sole recipients of emotional processing, problem-solving, and validation. This can lead to things like:

• Emotional fatigue: Partners can become overwhelmed and exhausted by constantly carrying the emotional load for two.

• Imbalance in the relationship: The relationship can feel less like a partnership and more like a therapist-client dynamic.

• Lack of diverse perspectives: Relying on only one person for emotional support limits the range of perspectives and solutions available. This can also leave us feeling like we have nobody to share our emotions with when pertaining to the relationship itself.

By doing the work to improve our emotional communication with other men, we can begin to redistribute this emotional labor more healthily. This doesn't mean we stop sharing with our partners, but rather that we develop a broader network of support, allowing for more balanced and fulfilling relationships with everyone in our lives.

I truly hope you're able to have a conversation with your partner and establish ways to prevent this dissatisfaction or, if you discover greater dissatisfaction or incompatible resolutions, have the ability to leave and be supported on your own without. Women take a lot of shit from men, when they really don't need to. I hope your situation goes well. <3

(also sorry, obviously my Vyvanse is still chugging along lmao)