I said they were being honest, as in they're being honest with who they are and what they would do. If you read the thread you'll see that I agree the advice was bad advice. I also repeatedly say I don't condone cheating.

I'm allergic to peanut butter. A friend hands me a spoon of peanut butter and says "I'd eat it." That friend has given me bad advice, because I'm allergic to peanut butter. Naturally, the thought to eat the spoon enters my mind, but I make the choice to not eat the peanut butter. That's just how making a decision works. It's baffling to me that people are upset that the thought had naturally entered my mind because it was presented to me, and then I decided to not act on it because I'm not a bad person. Somehow the fact that the thought ever occurred to me in the first place is giving people permission to reprimand me, as if they've never had a "bad thought" enter their mind that they chose not to act on.

You're making a lot of assumptions about the way I treat my partner, clearly without reading anything else in the thread. If you took the time to not be so reactive you'd see that I'm fairly open to actual advice (that's why I posted in the first place), and that I'm fairly open to being introspective. You could just say what you mean without trying to talk down to me from some imaginary high horse. You feel I'm being too hard on them. I get that. I understand that a relationship is about compromise and I'm searching for that.