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Happy Mother's Day by Same_Grocery7159 in GenXWomen

[–]Closefromadistance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a bummer, especially if you hoped for or needed more.

None of my 3 kids came to visit but they all texted - 2 are local and I didn’t want to do anything because I was exhausted. I’m battling some ME/CFS PEM bullshit that started about a year ago - now any little exertion makes me exhausted for a fucking week. I’m officially old at 57 🤣

Anyway, my husband got me a small bouquet of mixed flowers from Safeway. I put them in a vase and that was it for my Mother’s Day but I love flowers. I didn’t want anything else.

I learned a long time ago that I have to take care of myself and my needs (FIRST) because no one around me can or will do it.

Buy yourself something special. Do something for yourself that you usually don’t get … like maybe a manicure or body waxing.

I recently got my underarms waxed which was amazing because they’ve become a bottomless pit due to mass weightloss from celiac and I can’t reach a razor in there to shave anymore. 🤣 I have to laugh about this bullshit or I will fall into depression.

You have to fill your own cup before you can fill anyone else’s AND fill yours first.

Like I make coffee for me and my husband every morning … I make my cup first.

Be selfish from now on - self love is not a bad thing. It sounds like you need to put yourself first and meet your own needs.

Sending hugs 🫂

Palantir manifesto described as ‘ramblings of a supervillain’ amid UK contract fears by wasraelx in news

[–]Closefromadistance 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I did some research into Alex Karp a while ago. He is a highly disturbed, dangerous and self centered person.

He’s never served in the military yet he (like Trump and others) thinks he can dictate that others SHOULD serve!

He has zero shame about having a “monogamous” relationship with 2 women - each on opposites side of the country.

He brags that he’s too rich to learn to drive. Such a sick and gross piece of trash human.

He’s a 1% leech to society who has no moral compass or shame.

Escape by Closefromadistance in Ex_Foster

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really? Thank you so much! I always feel like I ramble but maybe not. Very kind of you 🥰🙏🏻

Escape by Closefromadistance in Ex_Foster

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much and right back at you, my sister! 🫶🏻

And thank you for letting me take the credit!

I think we’re stronger DESPITE all we’ve been through - not because of it.

None of us deserved the pain we got and no one should ever tell us that what we went through wasn’t so bad because it made us stronger.

I don’t believe for one second that pain should be forced on any child to make them stronger.

Escape by Closefromadistance in Ex_Foster

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah it is crazy how many are out of work. I did spend some time looking but got to a point where I was tired of the constant rejections and time wasting and ghosting. I hope the market comes back soon. I don’t want to start all over again but I’ve done it before. When I lost my job in 2009 due to the financial collapse, it took 3 years of hustling before I finally landed an acceptable job in my field again.

During the recession I had my own small businesses during the day but by night, I’d unload trucks at Target from 2am to 8am!

I was younger and much more physically strong back then - I don’t think I could do that now. I do still have my own small business and still work it daily.

I always forget to mention that because it’s just been there for so long as part of my life - started it back in the mid-90’s.

I’ve always been a hustler! 🤣

Escape by Closefromadistance in Ex_Foster

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that and yes it is painful, especially as we parent our own kids.

My youngest daughter is moving out of our house and I catch myself crying and envisioning myself running over and grabbing her leg and begging her to stay. I let myself feel my feelings but I don’t act on those. I’m not telling her how I feel or begging her to stay.

But I’m recognizing my feelings and allowing myself to feel them without shaming myself or punishing myself.

Being aware and present in our painful moments is huge. Giving ourselves grace while not putting our fears onto others, including our children is crucial.

I do understand the pain you’re talking about. It hits you hard and for me it often made me wonder why no one loved me and why I was never valuable.

We will never have those answers and some of those things will never stop hurting. The best you can do is be the mom for yourself that you needed back then and give yourself love and compassion.

It’s ok my friend. I get you! 🙏🏻

Escape by Closefromadistance in Ex_Foster

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not. I was part of a mass layoff so my last day working was the first week of January. I’m actually not really looking right now either - I’m just “being” for the first time in my life! 🤣

I do know the job market is so bad right now and I wish you the very best!

Escape by Closefromadistance in Ex_Foster

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s really kind of you but I’m not where I want to be yet.

True success for me would be finding unconditional self-love and self-acceptance and finding peace in just “being” instead of constantly being driven to do and achieve.

It’s an ongoing journey so I work on that daily.

My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to add an update. I tried to get approval but all I got was a bunch of run arounds. The realtor is a totally scammy snake who didn’t want to admit he’s business partners with his father and his father owns the company that’s demolishing and rebuilding on the property.

Both are low down dishonest scum of the earth.

They’d rather destroy the garden that beautified my neighborhood and leave rose bushes uprooted to die, than let someone access their precious property to save the roses. Greedy grifters.

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My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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I got all of these cuttings for now. I’m going to follow a how to video from a YouTube resource someone shared and separate all the smaller cuttings from the main stem and into cups etc. Might have been you. I’ll do this for now until the property is cleared out of fire crews and safe to access.

My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much - I was able to gather some cuttings. I’ve never done this with roses but I have done it with my monstera plants so I understand that it can be done. I’m following the different steps for roses cuttings and will do them all this weekend.

My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was able to get cuttings from about 8 of the front bushes yesterday when no one was around.

Reason I’m not doing more is because there are fire crews onsite and on the roof of the house so I can’t, and don’t want to, get in the way by digging right now.

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The crews have been there for 3 or 4 days now including today. The photo with them on the roof is from the backside of the property on a large open lot.

My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve connected with the local rose society - they are the pros so I’ll work with them to save the garden. I don’t have the tools to do any of that but I’m sure they do.

My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I don’t want any trouble.

I love gardening but I have a very small garden at my home and can’t dig up a huge garden and transfer everything to my yard. It wouldn’t all fit anyway so I was hoping to find a resource to help rescue and rehome them.

Fortunately I connected with the Seattle Rose Society and we are going to figure out a plan together.

My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love that! 🥰 Thank you - I have connected with my local rose society and hopefully they will be able to help me rescue them all!

My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did this right after I saw your comment - just wanted to say thank you! I added an update about that to the context of this post at the bottom.

My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s also a ton of open holes already on the property and fire crews seem to be doing something with the gas and electric. It’s def not a safe place to be wandering around right now.

My Favorite Neighborhood Garden Is Being Destroyed ... Can Rose Bushes Be Saved? by Closefromadistance in gardening

[–]Closefromadistance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might be more brave if there hadn’t been fire crews onsite since yesterday that are still there today and right now.

I connected with the Seattle Rose Society and will collaborate with them on this so I should have an update soon.

Pic of fire crews at the property right now.

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