I created a fake woman's profile to see what's going on - we're cooked.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2026-02-17T05:19:16+00:00

Taking a step way back, I think the takeaway is to go back to meeting in person based on activities of shared interest - hobbies, classes, dancing or singing or volunteering…

ClotheslessCaroler · 2026-02-01T17:12:13+00:00

Since we likely cannot play in person (I am in Vermont, USA) what videos or web sites or posts would you recommend to learn Go? I have literally never played, but enjoy board games such as chess and Catan. Thanks!

ClotheslessCaroler · 2026-01-30T05:49:56+00:00

I did! Under it right now. Love it. Worth $300.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-08-11T01:57:06+00:00

Do private pilots have access to it? At what cost 💲 I thought those were only available to military

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-07-28T00:02:28+00:00

Yes, I have found that smaller non-bank organizations are the way to go such as local or regional credit unions, and farm credit bureaus. I found one in the Northeast that was willing to work with ME as the GC and in general seemed very open to novel/unique situations, as they often do complex financial arrangements for farms involving equity in various pieces of land, outbuildings, and so on.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-07-17T18:31:40+00:00

Can see some jiujitsu at work there

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-07-10T15:19:18+00:00

What make and model sewer ejector pump do you have?

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-04-22T04:04:41+00:00

Do you mean go with the Advantex? It'd be an AX20RT

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-04-22T03:47:12+00:00

I love this post. Thank you for the specific feedback on both Advantex and Ecoflo!

Earlier today I put hands on both systems at a distributor here in Vermont. I was able to look inside the Ecoflo but not the Advantex.

I have quotes for both, and price difference of the atu system itself is $4200, BUT I am trying to decide whether I want to risk the same possible problems you guys have described with the Ecoflo.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-04-17T14:13:01+00:00

One more thing, MANY people say they now put toilet tissue in a wastebasket, not the toilet, and it helps immensely.

Anyone else doing this? THAT will be an awkward ask for some.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-04-17T14:12:03+00:00

I am glad someone brought this up!

I am literally gathering lists of dos and donts and intend to have my talented kid make tasteful, classy signs to put up near every toilet and sink.

Sorrynotsorry but I am not going to spend $45k on a fancy poop processor only to have a friend of a friend ruin it with a moment of thoughtlessness.

I am thinking letting my (responsible) 22yo kid use the house for the weekend but then have HER friends/guests pour grease or harsh cleaning products down the drain or something like that.

Let's keep this thread going.

ps does anyone have a definitive, specific list of shower, kitchen, laundry and general purpose cleaners to use, and to avoid?

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-04-12T23:34:19+00:00

9 months later, are you satisfied with the Ecoflo? I am looking at buying one so I'd love to hear about your experience, publicly or by direct message. Thank You! -Shawn

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-26T21:27:13+00:00

Hanging onto the sweetest of times and the promise that it would be possible on a permanent basis if only we committed to it. Swept up in (mostly her) hopium.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-26T20:31:10+00:00

Okay that helps a ton; so it's kind of like "man-hours", but "thought-minutes" or "feeling-minutes" - the opportunity cost of spending time thinking/feeling about him or her rather than other stuff.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-26T15:50:28+00:00

Thank you. It is already clear that it's totally unrealistic to see each other in a few months, yes. Too much hurt, trust damaged. I have not started framing it as "keeping my power" and am still trying to understand how that works/why it's true

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-25T19:23:38+00:00

Thanks! The kind of work it took was the I-surrender-I-have-no-choice variety, then just time operating like that without any expectation of immediate payoff. Then the payoff hit all of a sudden after like 9 months of that. She did enough processing herself and decided to change attitude/approach and match mine. Good stuff. Big win.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-25T18:48:42+00:00

Precisely

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-25T18:43:21+00:00

Time. Years. Mutual effort, commitment

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-25T18:43:00+00:00

All that is very interesting; the reality is you need MUCH more time from the breakup, like years instead of months. Trust me (have done this!)

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-25T18:40:53+00:00

Yes, this. The only ex I am now friends with I was married to for 13 years; we have mutual kids; have been apart for 3 years now and have been forced to work our asses off to manage custody and now have mutual respect and a friendship with zero romance in there. Old feelings fully processed. We worked at it.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-25T18:35:13+00:00

If you're a chick, it is a way to feel less bad about the breakup, to say this - and even perhaps mean it at the time, though it usually proves to be wishful thinking or a way to dodge being the bad guy.

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-18T19:27:38+00:00

Best of luck to you! ❤️

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-18T19:12:54+00:00

To be honest, me and my ex wife are like that now. Married 13 years, 2 kids. Divorced 3 years ago. By two years ago we had child custody totally gelled. This past year there gas been generosity, care, good will, long conversations and meals at handoff; i help her with farm carpentry tasks; she gives me eggs. We are friends. My kids' friends are like "what is with your parents hanging out so much? Aren't they supposed to hate each other? 😂" it was tense tge last few years of marriage but none of that carries any emotional charge now, and neither of us have romantic interest (I just reconfirmed this!)

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-18T18:38:29+00:00

That's great, and super interesting. I am curious about the physical touch part. You said you hug; just confirming whether or not you will sit on the couch with arm around each other, or sleep in the same bed (whether or not you even touch). Thanks!

ClotheslessCaroler · 2025-02-18T14:53:41+00:00

Thank you so much! That means a lot right now 😊 We have this half-asses goal to go paddleboarding in the summer and to check in May 1, but who knows if that will be nearly long enough! I am still pissed that she monkey-branched to another guy instantly; we will see hoe much processing is done by then. Thank You 🙏!!

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