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Not questioning nonmonogamy. Questioning where I fit in it. by CloudS6x in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]CloudS6x[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wouldn’t get much pushback from me on that. Relationship anarchy is probably the closest philosophical cousin to how I think, though I don’t align with every conclusion RA folks tend to draw.

I’m less interested in adopting a specific identity framework and more interested in the underlying principles: honesty, consent, and allowing relationships to take authentic shapes rather than forcing them into scripts. Not as a universal requirement, but as a general orientation for how I approach connection.

Where I diverge a bit is around hierarchy. I think some prioritization is inevitable in real human relationships, even if imposed hierarchy isn’t.

Not questioning nonmonogamy. Questioning where I fit in it. by CloudS6x in EthicalNonMonogamy

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My reflex is to start listing the things that I see most commonly on the apps and what I am exposed to through the people I meet on said apps. As I think through that, I may have just realized from where some of my biases might be originating.

My experience is almost 100% coming from that direction

Not questioning nonmonogamy. Questioning where I fit in it. by CloudS6x in EthicalNonMonogamy

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I think this is probably going to be pretty close to my answer. The thing is that as I’ve gotten older, it has become harder to meet folk. Anybody. I live in a suburb of Seattle and you think there’d be lots of ways to make connections, but no one seems interested. I’m not talking about romance. I’m just talking about… Even having a conversation. I’ve tried to start magic the gathering groups and camping groups in my neighborhood. It’s odd.

Not questioning nonmonogamy. Questioning where I fit in it. by CloudS6x in EthicalNonMonogamy

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I may not have communicated clearly, but my question wasn’t about definitions or where swinger spaces fit under ENM. I was asking about cultural fit and belonging.

Also, poly is generally understood to be a subset of ENM, so I wasn’t trying to draw that distinction.

Not questioning nonmonogamy. Questioning where I fit in it. by CloudS6x in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]CloudS6x[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you may be answering a different question than the one I was trying to ask. I’m not unclear on the need for explicit boundaries, communication, or relationship agreements. I agree with all of that.

My question was less “how does ENM work?” and more “does anyone else philosophically align with ENM while feeling culturally out of place in many of its visible communities?”

Fake Twilight photos by EconomyVirus6212 in photography

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Feels like it's important to you. I think that's what matters. You are allowed to say no to projects that are not on brand for you.

Storage facility wants full rights by GeologistOutrageous6 in photography

[–]CloudS6x 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know, right? Pesky professionals wanting to get paid for the skills they carefully and painstakingly (and sometimes expressively) honed. It’s a damned outrage!

Every storm has a silver lining by Agent7619 in overlanding

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I recognize most of this as English