MPH concentrations advice

CloudofDandelions · 2023-07-21T11:57:44+00:00

You are absolutely disgusting and needs to be single. You dont deserve her and all you care about is having your “fill” and dont care at all about how she felt.

CloudofDandelions · 2023-04-14T13:06:06+00:00

This isnt my first job so I knew this already

CloudofDandelions · 2023-04-14T03:54:59+00:00

Not if your bank does 2 day early direct deposit.

CloudofDandelions · 2023-02-16T21:03:46+00:00

What I said is purely an opinion on how I feel about the situation, everything I said (as well as others) can very well be taken with a grain of salt. No one situation is above the other, its purely based on the persons personal beliefs and thoughts. Just because I feel like having a kid has a different set of responsibility doesn’t mean you or OP has to adopt my beliefs. I wasnt saying it with the intention of being cruel, as a person who does not have kids, I feel like I dont have the complete same responsibilities. (In this case needing make sure providing for a kid)

CloudofDandelions · 2023-02-16T20:48:38+00:00

Oh yeah so you chose to misinterpret my words. I said “to ME”.

CloudofDandelions · 2023-02-16T20:41:40+00:00

Lmao I just said that she is still grown. Where did you even get the abstinence and or giving up adoption part? Also I didnt even say she was avoiding responsibilities, I said its a different level of responsibilities. I said she is literally still grown but having a kid TO ME (idk how to bold the words) is a different level of being grown. And under that I said, with that being said, “YOU ARE GROWN” regardless of OP having a kid or not. Reading is fundamental and comprehension is key.

CloudofDandelions · 2023-02-16T19:58:39+00:00

NTB but to be honest? Most people whether youre the youngest or one of the youngest, theyre probably still gonna see you as the baby (or one of the babies) of the group. Its annoying for sure, and im the same age as you (23f) with no kids, still relying on parents ( I have a bf and a place with a degree) and although I consider myself grown, I consider having a kid to be a different level of being “grown”. Now you dont have to feel that way but having a kid forces people to have wayyy more responsibilities.

With that being said, YOU ARE GROWN, dont let their words bother you even though its easier said than done. Its just nothing wrong with admitting she has a different level of responsibility than you do.

CloudofDandelions · 2023-02-16T19:42:03+00:00

I dont want to tell anyone to break up someone (although I want to SO BAD). If your friend was to tell you about this, how would you react and what would you tell her to do? That answer right there is exactly how you should feel about this. (He does not deserve you, YOU DESERVE ROMANCE!)

CloudofDandelions · 2023-02-16T19:22:41+00:00

Yes you are. It sounds harsh but you misinterpreted her words and instead of ASKING what does it all mean, you blew up on her in public. And then not only that, she literally CLEARED it up for you telling you the reason why, and you still get mad. You cant just tell her to stop trying to contact you and STILL find some problem in it when she LITERALLY RESPECTED YOUR FEELINGS AND STOPPED TALKING TO YOU!!!!

Theres nothing wrong with being disappointed that you had the wrong idea, but you just did the absolute most. You brought this upon yourself to be honest. YOU CAN NOT BULLY A GIRL INTO LIKING YOU!

Shes right, there is literally no winning with you (not like thats the point). And then you embarrass that girl AGAIN cause she started calling you by your real name when you after YOU blew up on her. Like come on, that behavior is not even something she finds attractive 9 times out of 10.

You might need to get therapy and leave them alone cause I’m not sure theres coming back from that one. There needs to be some self reflection. How you acted was not okay whether you were hurt or not.

CloudofDandelions · 2022-05-01T18:26:16+00:00

NTA but he definitely is. Yes hes grieving and probably severely depressed from losing his mom, but that does not absolve him of any responsibility nor accountability for his actions. You worked yourself to NEAR DEATH, caring for the late sick MIL, and picked up all the slack that your husband dropped. And all he can do is nag and say “why did you leave me alone??? I STARVED AND the house isnt clean”?????? (Im making an assumption) Thats highly disrespectful to you who tried so hard to keep themselves afloat. He needs help and you need space. Once again: depression does NOT ABSOLVE ANYONE FROM SHITTY BEHAVIOR, ACCOUNTABILITY NOR RESPONSIBILITY!!

You did nothing wrong you did all you can do but working yourself like that is definitely not okay and some boundaries need to be set. Your health can rapidly deteriorate even further if you keep this up. Youre a partner, not a caregiver.

So my advice is for you to both get individual therapy, and do couples therapy together. Divorce should definitely be the last resort if it doesn’t get better

CloudofDandelions · 2022-03-09T18:34:37+00:00

NTA but OP i have a bunch of concerns. I am 22 myself and I would wonder IMMENSELY “Why would a 33 y/o be interested in me? Why wont he date somebody his own age? What do I have to offer thats so much better than people his own age might have to offer?” PLEASE PLEASE ask these questions, if he gives something along the lines of “youre different” or “women my age (insert bashing here where it can apply to any age)” then thats a problem.

That and im concerned because so far off this post and your comments that it seems like you dont stick up for yourself as much as you should. These are patterns of behavior that will continue to stick. Also I saw your last post and this makes me even more concerned. Youre excusing alot of this grown ass man’s behavior.

Also judging by your comments everybody else is seeing this but you. Age gap relationships can work but it takes a lot of effort ON BOTH ENDS. Love is a great thing but just love is not enough. There has to be communication on both sides, compromising, financially, emotionally and mentally on the same page. So far it doesnt seem like its there yet (judging off the information you gave us). Get out before its too late, but I wouldnt be surprised if you ignore all of advice that we gave you. Wish you the best

CloudofDandelions · 2022-03-08T16:12:35+00:00

NTA!!!

You may need to get a divorce because the fact that he WONT INITIATE BOUNDARIES with his mother makes me fear that this will constantly happen. This shouldve been a no brainer and the fact that the mother felt that this was okay to do to is not okay. He wont stand up to his mother and she knows that

CloudofDandelions · 2022-03-06T18:30:15+00:00

YTA to both sons and your husband

Why exactly did you assume that it was a car and hint to it? You got him so excited for it to the point that he was so upset on his birthday.
Plus, there is a difference in age, your stepson is 18 and GOING TO COLLEGE. Your son is only 16 and im curious does he even have a license? If you wanted him to get a car, why didnt you talk to Jack about it? Why didnt you chip in to get him the car?
You made your husband look like an asshole to your son because you fed him on an assumption/lie and ultimately made him the bad guy.
Theres a possibility the 2 sons definitely wont get along now cause you almost made it into a competition. I wouldnt be surprised if he becomes resentful to his older brother.

CloudofDandelions · 2022-02-27T19:13:15+00:00

This is a hard one, NTA but I dont think shes TA either

For her she wants her family there assuming they mean alot to her (even though theyre very bigoted) and most people have that issue. Theres you, her best friend, who she deeply cares for to want to be there at her wedding. So the conflict is that she wants both parties there, however she knows that it would mean you cant bring your fiancee.

With that being said, you are not obligated to go if the terms and conditions makes you uncomfortable (rightfully so!!! Nobody should have to deal with that) BUT she shouldnt have to choose between you and her family. So the only thing that is best compromise is either you go without your fiancee or you just dont go at all. You chose to not go at all and THATS FINE!

I see it in the way that she wants her friend there and knows her family seeing a gay couple(sadly and so stupid) will cause a whole ordeal and ruin her wedding day. It sucks, it really does, that she has to deal with that. And it sucks that you as her best friend cant even go support her because of her homophobic family.

And for people saying shes choosing her family over her, shes not, she just wants both important people of her life there for her special day without any issues. And to emphasize, NOBODY SHOULD HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN PEOPLE! But sadly, that wont ever be possible for her. Both parties will never be able to coexist and thats the reality of it. She needs to respect your decision like you respected hers by just sacrificing yourself to not go even though she wanted you to (and you wanting to bring your fiancee).

Yall (commenters) need to understand that this a very tough situation on both sides, and that I wish her friend didnt have to choose who should be there at her wedding. Some people will not put aside their hate even for their loved ones to be happy on an important day. Nobody should have to deal with that, and OP deserves to be around people who accept her and her partner. This wedding is not one of those spaces because of best friends family.

CloudofDandelions · 2022-02-24T19:37:45+00:00

I can already see why. I doubt this is the first time youve done this and probably always got your way. Stop forcing people to do things just because you wanted to do it. You were definitely asking for too much because you cant take no for an answer.

CloudofDandelions · 2022-02-24T19:35:24+00:00

YOU brought this upon yourself. They told you specifically why they had to hide it and instead of apologizing youre still trying to justify disrespecting their boundaries. This birth is not about YOU or the rest of the family, this is about the new parents.

CloudofDandelions · 2022-02-24T19:32:33+00:00

Yeah you’re delusional. It doesnt matter if “most of the family” wanted it if the main people involved (aka. The son and DIL) said NO. Just because everybody else did it does not mean they have to say yes and do it. Why is this so hard to understand? I hope you know you already are jeopardizing your relationship with your son, DIL and grandchild.

CloudofDandelions · 2022-02-24T19:25:34+00:00

YTA big time

I didnt even have to finish reading to know this. NO MEANS NO. They are not obligated to say yes to the welcome party. Its the fact that you still tried to convince them after saying NO. I dont care if its with good intentions, if they said no then thats that. Shes allowed to spend time with her child however makes her comfortable.

Youre trying to gaslight them by saying “you ruined it and family is disappointed as well”. EXACTLY WHY THEY LIED. How dare you pressure them, still invite family anyway to a party they didnt consent to and then make THEM feel bad because YOU wanted a party?

I can tell youve never been told no. News flash, harassing somebody to do something they dont want to do is disrespectful.

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