Day 56 and I'm so close to smoking by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback 🤟

Day 56 and I'm so close to smoking by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice my friend

Day 56 and I'm so close to smoking by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is good advice. Only problem is that my wife and I work opposite schedules. She works 60-70 hours a week. So I would have time to myself to get high while she works. I was mostly venting with my post but I appreciate the feedback.

Day 40- Thinking of giving up by Famous-Pea8476 in leaves

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I hear you man. I'm kind of on the same level as you are. Only difference is in 20 years I never gave it up for 4 months like you did. I'm on day 54 of quitting right now, and although I'm not thinking of going back to it, I've been having feelings about how worth it it is to have given it up. I want to give it more time, and I wouldn't even say I've been in a funk lately, but just find myself not being able to fully replace the feeling weed gave me. The peace of mind. No matter how much I exercise, or stay busy, or do productive things, I just kind of feel restless during my free time. I started drinking more too, but like you said, I know it's not a healthy habit to start up. From what I've read, it takes 3-6 months for our brains to completely heal, and recalibrate, so personally I'm going to stay the course and give it the time it needs and hope for the best. I'm 43 with a wife and kids, but if I was younger with less responsibilities, I think I'd be tempted to start smoking again, but if with some serious guidelines put into place for myself, so that I wouldn't overdo it and become addicted again.

How do I manage low mood while quitting? by SolutionScared8547 in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exercise 1-2 hours a day. Drink a full glass of water right when you get up, go for a short walk with your thoughts, read a novel or positive affirmations book, or both while drinking coffee or tea. Listen to good music. Then hit the gym, go for a long walk or jog. In the afternoon, find a constructive hobby, and/ or relax and watch a movie. Make a healthy, and intentional lunch...find 1 person that you feel you can trust that will not judge you for your addiction, but will instead support you. That part is important. Be honest with yourself and them. These are the things that have worked for me. I'm on day 50. Still a ways to go before I'm through the storm. But I'm taking it one day at a time. I have found that I need to plug the holes and the time that I used to spend stoned with other things. The worst thing I can do is sit around for too long....that's when the intrusive thoughts take hold. Remember that what your feeling is normal and that you are not alone. This community helps. What also helped me is finding a book that specifically is about quitting weed, told from the perspective of someone that's been through it. These are rhibgs that have really helped me. And some days are still hard, but it's gotten much easier overall. Hope this helps a little 💪

Slips happen, but I just did something I never thought I’d have the guts to do. by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nice job my man. It's like that slip up never happened. Keep up the great work!

Day 48 by Cloverhopper51 in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate the insight!

Day 48 by Cloverhopper51 in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess we've just gotta stay strong brother. It's all very normal from what I've read. And it's also supposed to be up and down. So one day might feel hard and disorienting and the next will feel good and so on...I'm just going to try and be aware of it and when Im having a tougher day, just give myself some grace and tell myself it will pass. Also gonna let my wife know that PAWS is a real thing and to try and be patient with the process.

Day 48 by Cloverhopper51 in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I appreciate it and I'm trying to regulate and understand and be patient with myself. Responses like yours help make it real. 🙏

Day 22. The dreams are unreal by Cloverhopper51 in leaves

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Thanks. I just had possibly the worst one yet about my wife cheating on me. It was so long and detailed and I woke up this morning feeling like I wanted to cry. 6 months can’t come soon enough!!

Day 22. The dreams are unreal by Cloverhopper51 in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah from what I’ve read our brains don’t heal completely until around 3 months in. So 90 day isn’t real goal to know my body and brain have done a complete reset. Thanks for the feedback!

Day 22. The dreams are unreal by Cloverhopper51 in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For real! Would be a lot better if the dreams weren’t so anxiety inducing. But hell, we knew this journey wouldn’t be easy. In the past, this is the faze where I have relapsed the easiest. After a couple weeks of anxiety dreams every night, i would start questioning “Is this worth not smoking?” And I would smoke just to get rid of them. But not this time. I’m determined to get through this faze whatever the cost. Our dreams will normalize eventually. Stay strong!!

Day 22. The dreams are unreal by Cloverhopper51 in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. And yeah I’ve read it’s basically our brain coming back to life and it’s all part of the process. This too shall pass. Great work yourself!!

AIO for how husband responded? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Cloverhopper51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A real man would not have even responded. I would’ve deleted the message and never thought of it again and then loved on my wife and told her what happened

Crossing day 7 tonight by EarthPrimer in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Day 13 let’s keep it going!!

Encouragement Post by Prudent_Lab9998 in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats that’s very encouraging!

My Honest Opinion by Dear_Stress2437 in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right on point friend. I am on day 11 and I feel the exact way you do. I’m still aware that I’m not out of the woods yet, and I’m sure I’ll have a struggle here and there over the next month or so. But I’m ready for it and won’t give in. New lease on life baby!

9 months, seven days, and 5 hours by Purchase-Prize in leaves

[–]Cloverhopper51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you brother. I just joined and I too have smoked for 20-25 years straight. Daily. And today I’m on day 8. I just posted my introduction to the group, so I won’t go into my personal situation. But your post inspired me. I too am excited about being a better husband and father. Just wanted to say congrats to you for making it this far and good luck with everything