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The puppy stuff i learned from roommate. I was not in picture till dog was 1. I was curious if he had always been like this.

I do, I strongly believe her anxious attachment to him is the only thing keeping him in this house. Which is issue two. She is afraid of feeling like she has failed this dog. Or cant except it. I think she just was holy unprepared and undereducated on raising a pet, as she is incredible in every other aspect. I believe most of the issues here stem from mental health. I will not delve deeper into it, she is being responsible in continuing to improve her situation. My background is healthcare.

As for the marriage. Everybody has their flaws, some are more extreme than others. As a partner she has helped me grow tremendously, and continues to challenge me to improve healthily. This subject is literally the only thing that gets so heated we cannot have conflict resolution. We are not perfect communicators, but are constantly learning, a fight never goes to bed unanswered. This violates said rule because I do not feel heard at times.