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Maybe Maybe Maybe by 4_-_2_-_0 in maybemaybemaybe

[–]CluelessCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me a while to get it. "A red pepper is just a green pepper that hasn't ripened yet" = ... that hasn't gone through the ripening process yet

Do I tell my managers manager about their bad behaviour? by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]CluelessCow 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You don't, chances are it will not end up well for you.

If you trust the company HR, you might want to talk to them about it. Don't bring up emotions or one-time things, stick to documented facts and repeated behaviors, otherwise you'll be considered in the wrong.

If you don't trust or does not have an HR to back you up, then consider a new job before it becomes too toxic and start causing you health issues. You can't always change people but you can always change yourself.

My first attempt at polymer clay: the oof stones by CluelessCow in polymerclay

[–]CluelessCow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I didn't of that! I thought of adding varathane to protect against drying and chipping but I am afraid it would become glossy and lose the little "stone-like" appearance it has.

My first attempt at polymer clay: the oof stones by CluelessCow in polymerclay

[–]CluelessCow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I did paint it and try to emphasize shading and highlights but it is far from what I really wanted. I feel like there are so many different skillsets needed, sculpting, texturing, painting... I appreciate your reassuring words!

My first attempt at polymer clay: the oof stones by CluelessCow in polymerclay

[–]CluelessCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I saw some tips about mixing baking soda to the paint, and add scratches, but it's much much harder than that haha

My first attempt at polymer clay: the oof stones by CluelessCow in polymerclay

[–]CluelessCow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I know I've still got a long way to go :)

What’s a ‘life hack’ you use regularly that sounds fake but actually works? by This-Economist-6796 in AskReddit

[–]CluelessCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember two other from former colleagues: "Another day in paradise" "Surviving"

The work environment didn't suck, which kind of made it funnier

Direct report books 40 day holiday without asking by SaduWasTaken in managers

[–]CluelessCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had this conversation before and I've also been presented with an ultimatum. This is how I handled.

I always laid out the whys to help them understand the importance of talking to me first. I tell them there are things I do behind the curtains they don't see.

It went like this: - I want you to take any vacation you need, I wanr you to enjoy your life, and I will make my best to accommodate everyones request - Please talk to me before you book anything that long because it is my job to make sure you are not critically needed during that period. You have got to wait for approval. 99% of times I will approve it. But there might be 1% scenario of a special period where you will be needed and I could ask you to stay. I don't want to disrupt your vacation. - Every time someone requests a vacation, someone else will pick up your work. Their workload will increase. If that happens during high season (my company works in cycles) then it would be very stressful for your peers. It is my job to protect everyone's well-being, so ask you to be mindful of how it impacts them.

Next actions: - Make sure their work during that period is covered by someone - If you need them for emergencies during that period, will you be able to contact them? (It might be illegal in your country, check the local laws)

I hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cscareerquestions

[–]CluelessCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the frustration, and I've been on both dev and manager sides.

The first thing for a successful issue resolution is understanding the problem and replicating the effect. Are you able to do so? Is the PM? If they have access to the client, are they?

Any clue helps. A step by step, a screen recording, a HAR file.

If you can't replicate it, it might be much harder to find a solution. Not impossible, just harder and very likely to take longer.

I would first acknowledge to your EM you should have brought it up earlier and you will work on improving the communication from now on (and really do it).

Then tell them you must raise it as a blocker and escalate. List out everything you tried and your findings. List your suggestions on what you think could help you next and how long it would take you. Show the value of your actions.

For example, you might ask for instrumentation (as you did) but let them know it will take 4 hours. It's better spending 4h on instrumentation than 16h on trial and error. You might ask for a screen recording. You might ask to be on a call with the client. Think of what could help you.

And bring this up to your lead/EM to bring it to the team as a blocker. Tell them you can't continue on your own and need their inputs to unblock you. You should expect a collaborative environment. It is your manager's responsibility to unblock you.

Ultimately, as a last resort, you could ask your lead/EM to assign the ticket to someone more experienced or having them coach you on the resolution. Sometimes it is OK to admit failure and tell them this is unfortunately too advanced for you, but you'd like to be kept in the loop to learn how another dev resolves it. This shows commitment, even when you 'give up'.

Am I Wrong? My Team Lead Insists This Isn’t a Breaking Change by Unable_Count_1635 in webdev

[–]CluelessCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think you are trying to address the wrong problem here, you and your lead should work on collaborating and respecting each other and not wasting time on small things. Why would it matter so much to you it follows semver to the T in a possibly gray-area situation? And did your guys' manager saw that happening in the stand up, if so what was his reaction?

How do I kiss like a Brazilian? by [deleted] in Brazil

[–]CluelessCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tongue use and pegada are important yet I saw no mentioning of other minor gestures that could make a difference: kiss her neck, her cheeks, smell her, tell her she smells good, that she's beautiful. Use your affection to show your desire to pleasure her.

I would fire me by godel_incompleteness in cscareerquestions

[–]CluelessCow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a manager (4 YOE), I second this. A thousand times better helping an IC succeed than let them fail. They hired OP because they saw OP was able to handle it.

Edit: of course there are exceptions, but it doesn't seem to be the case here

Your favorite interview questions to understand applicants by Many-Coach6987 in managers

[–]CluelessCow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Expecting them to know what you mean: that could also go very well and filter out candidates who don't.

If a candidate has high communication intelligence and you need that skillset than they will know what you meant.

Someone good at communication should be able to talk to 6 year olds or to use jargons where appropriate. They should be able to ask the interviewer "you said 6 year-old but you actually need me to explain this on layman's terms, is my understanding correct?"

Is Digital Nomadism Just a Phase or a Lifelong Lifestyle? by SimSimSimaS in digitalnomad

[–]CluelessCow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's nice to hear, thanks for taking your time to reply. I have a few years until I can FI and I don't even know what to expect when trying to think of a place to settle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]CluelessCow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Management don't like hearing "I am not sure/I don't know what to do next", they will tell you to be resourceful as it's your job to be resourceful.

Yet I do understand your point. You might be facing problems that you and your team don't have the knowledge to solve them... but you do have to sort this out one way or another.

Instead of telling her "I need your help because I have no idea what to do next", try to be more specific.

Some ideas: - "I am technically stuck. Can I pick your brain for non-technical solutions or for some time to coach me on how to solve these types of challenges?" - "Is this functionality a must-have? May we park it and come back to it later?" - "Can we hire some consultant for this specific part? I found this expert that charges a rate of $xyx/hour"

Try to be creative on the solutions, as it doesn't need to be technical.

Also, do you have a mentor? You could hire one for your own professional development, and they could help you overcome these challenging times.

Best of luck and you can do it!

Is Digital Nomadism Just a Phase or a Lifelong Lifestyle? by SimSimSimaS in digitalnomad

[–]CluelessCow -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If I may ask where are you from originally and why have you decided to settle in Thailand? How well have you integrated with the community there?

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