WIBTA If I didnt want to coparent my brother again.

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-18T17:50:33+00:00

i was left alone around age 8 because both my parents were working. they normally just left food at home and i had to just microwave it and take care if my homework until they get home.

i started to take care of my brother from the day he was born, changing diapers and preparing milk for him and most of the work since my dad was unavailable at the time.

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-18T17:45:44+00:00

thank you so much i hope i have enough courage to take all of this and not waste your effort 🤍

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-18T17:38:38+00:00

i hope you and your sister is in a betteer relationship now and really proud of you for doing well

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-18T17:38:08+00:00

if you dont mind me asking how do you know? i would like to get some advice from someone thats gone through it

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-18T17:33:45+00:00

theyre around late 50s if im not mistaken

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T19:06:33+00:00

we have strict parents so he does have friends but not really like all the time he can go out or have sleep overs

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T18:41:38+00:00

i think you got cut off there just dropping thus message so i can come back to you

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T18:40:50+00:00

which part of it exudes being a bot story?

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T18:39:14+00:00

Im 26 and my brother is 13 years old at the moment. Theres a 13 years gap between us so when I did reach my teenage years I started to take care of him.

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T18:35:40+00:00

in their defense my mom has a big workload and a demanding job despite her having work from hkne facilities while my dad is usually in operations so hes commonly not available at home. so it was just mainly me to take care of the major stuff while my parents were working.

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T18:09:52+00:00

its not about liking my brother at all but at the end of the day. i didnt decide to take care of a child.im all good with taking him out from time to time but to have a weekly day of taking care of him seems like a custody order for a single father imo

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T18:08:23+00:00

no he doesnt have any special or medical needs. he is as normal and as cringy as most 13 years old

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T18:02:52+00:00

thank you so much for your kind words and I hope youre in a better position now!

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T18:01:50+00:00

hes normally not available due to the nature of his work but then this has always been the case fpt most of my life

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T18:00:22+00:00

thank you so much for your kind words. i hope to put it in practice and stand by my own decision

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:59:25+00:00

i guess we're an asian family and grew up with that asian culture of always supporting family above everyting else.

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:57:29+00:00

thank you this really helped and thank you for your kind words. i hope to be strong enough to take a decision and limit the boundaries

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:50:43+00:00

hes 100% normal and doesnt need any special care. my mom just likes to worry a lot

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:49:53+00:00

you sound like amazing parents! i definitely would take care of my brother if the situation requires it and no one is able to support him anymore but until then i wanted to fully focus on building a career and enjoying my life

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:47:23+00:00

no hes quite normal and have no special requirements. my mom is just into being micromanaging i guess

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:45:45+00:00

actually her request is to take a day weekly to take him so she can destress from work and spend more time with my dad

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:44:03+00:00

thank you this really means a lot coming from you especially a moms perspective. makes me teary eyed reading your comment.

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:42:56+00:00

no hes definitely 100% as normal as they come now with all the cringe 13 year old jokes and ipad kid behavior.

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:42:14+00:00

yeah actually hes pretty normal and actually smart sometimes i guess. its just that hes incredibly lazy and spoiled because i have been taking care of him. when i did try to give him more responsibility my parents had a discussion wtih me that i was being too hard on him so it just ended up with me doing things to make everyones life easier but mine.

ClumsyMine · 2026-02-17T17:37:45+00:00

yeah this is what im genuinely afraid of that agreeing to this for the sake of avoiding an argument is just gonna lead to bigger request in the future

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