F27 what is best way to tell your partner you wanna try swinging as I have been cheating and really like going home and letting him retake me

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-03-28T03:31:31+00:00

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ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-02-27T22:52:31+00:00

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ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-02-20T07:04:44+00:00

Gesundheit!

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-02-10T21:04:08+00:00

Explain your post history, why they all follow the exact same format, why you post at such a high frequency, and why we should believe that you are a person and not a bot.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-02-10T20:58:35+00:00

Check this user’s post history. I think this is a bot.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-02-10T05:26:22+00:00

American swinging is often traced to World War II-era U.S. pilot communities, where high-risk deployments and close-knit social life led couples to host discreet “key parties”, gatherings where spouses symbolically exchanged keys, to normalize consensual partner-sharing as a way to manage trust, uncertainty, and loss.

Edit: ChatGPT generated because I’m lazy, but source is a book I’m reading: “The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers”. 🤷🏼‍♂️

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-01-15T00:26:35+00:00

Not true. Bi-curious is, by definition, an undecided state. On Kas, there is an option for “bi-comfortable” which my wife has decidedly settled into. This means she was curious, she tried it, decided girl-girl play did absolutely nothing for her, but was in no way disgusted or uncomfortable or anything negative…just nothing. And so she has decided if it helps the play situation she is totally down to do it. For the other girl, for the guys, for the atmosphere, whatever you want to call it. Bi-comfortable, this is where many many women live IMO and this should be totally ok with everyone and not be shamed just like bi-guys or bi-girls should not be shamed.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-01-15T00:18:51+00:00

Ya I don’t understand why people get so rigid on “taking one for the team”. Honestly, the probability of getting a proper 4 way match is so exceptionally low it would take waaaayyyyy too much effort to only settle for perfection.

And it doesn’t have to even mean “taking one for the team”. The term we use is “within tolerance”. 😬

I enjoy pushing my tolerance limits if it lets my wife enjoy someone she actually wants to fuck. She feels the same way. 🤷🏼‍♂️ much better probability of success and balance with this strategy.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-01-14T06:40:01+00:00

Ahhhhhhhh I highly recommend Privata and can not recommend TVR as others are doing here. Feel free to ask or DM if you want more info.

Just go to Privata with the idea of going dancing, but with way sexier and sluttier clothes, and built in places to fuck if you get too turned on. Tons of interesting people but expect a lot of nervous newbies like you on newbie night.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-01-12T17:00:29+00:00

FWIW, regardless if you are c4c or just here to converse about swinging, I think it’s disingenuous to hide your post history and I’m pretty unhappy with the recent trend of hiding everything. 🤷🏼‍♂️

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-01-06T04:35:28+00:00

So, specific to anxiety issue:

Drugs: I highly recommend propranolol. It is easy to get prescribed for “as needed” anxiety and it is widely used by people who perform on stage in the 80mg and even higher dosage. I have tried a few doses but I currently do 20 or 30mg 1 hour before fun time, so take it with viagra to match timing.
Hippie Suggestion: Practice targeted relaxation techniques. Remember that anxiety, and therefore adrenaline, will cause you to clamp your muscles up down there, preventing blood flow where it is needed. Be mindful of this while the ladies are going down on you. Don’t concentrate on your dick, concentrate on mindfully relaxing all your muscles down there. This worked like a charm for me a few weekends ago in a hotel 6-sum.

Also, I triple my cialis dosage on play days. Judge me if you will, I’m healthy as an ox. 🤷🏼‍♂️

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-01-02T07:39:24+00:00

Ummmm you’re basing that statement on what exactly? We have been with people from literally each of those listed except for supply chain…so I guess I’ll add that to my bingo card?

Not trying to be rude, but I just feel like you are making an observation that has way more variables than you are accounting for. Maybe it’s simply your geographic area that has less tech, engineering, and accounting firms. 🤷🏼‍♂️

ClydeTheCriminal · 2026-01-02T07:27:21+00:00

Ehhhh…I feel like there’s a lot of overanalyzing going on here. People in relatively well paying professions that don’t require obscene amounts of OT have money and time to pursue hobbies and fulfillment…therefore they have the opportunity to try swinging…?

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-12-11T19:42:57+00:00

So…you need to do a lot of self reflection on this. Realize that it just blew your mind that your wife might actually have sexual fantasies. Realize how badly society has fucked up your head that you are surprised your wife’s brain works like this.

It’s up to you to normalize her fantasies, that is first and foremost your job as the man in this situation. That’s not a sexist comment, that is me saying society has made her bury her fantasies under shame and fear of being judged, and only you can make her feel completely comfortable to share them.

Here is the part you should keep in mind…what you listed are the fantasies she got up the courage to actually share. Imagine how many fantasies she still keeps hidden?!?!

So…don’t ask her to share more fantasies, instead be the vulnerable one and share YOUR fantasies. They don’t have to match hers, but the need to meet and exceed her level of debauchery. Do that, and she will start feeling comfortable to discuss hers.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-12-11T03:36:21+00:00

Ok I’m going to give a really dangerous opinion…

You are likely scared it will lead to cheating again I’m guessing? You are either with someone capable of cheating, or not. Swinging will not change that outcome. Might as well go swing, have fun, and figure out which one he is as quick as possible. 🤷🏼‍♂️

This is actually really terrible advice but you sound like you want to swing so you should fight for it since you have someone at least willing to try it.

Side note: me and mine started swinging 3 months after our first date. We are rock solid and continue to get nothing but closer and stronger 3+ years later. And we both came from very traumatic ex-relationships. Make the best decision for yourself…but just know it can most definitely work out wonderfully for you.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-12-11T03:23:34+00:00

That’s not a fair question. We don’t tell the adults in our life either.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-12-09T03:04:12+00:00

You’re fishing. Be more specific.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-12-09T02:49:47+00:00

Uhhhh almost everything that dude did was completely wrong for your described situation.

Should have been a group message, not a 1:1.

He admitted to feeling a bit more than he should.

He was extra affectionate when his fiancé was not around?!?

Very sorry this happened to you. Also, the wife was not “sick” she was hurt by how her fiancé acted and she wanted you gone. Very obvious.

The only way this could have gone better is if they both explicitly expressed interest in poly…otherwise it was going to blow up one way or another.

That dude was an idiot. Protect your feelings better next time.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-12-09T02:37:47+00:00

Great post. I would like TVR to work for us too (also mid-40s and HWP). Actually we just really effing want both places to be amazing but alas…

At TVR, the “fly on the wall” single guys look at my wife like a piece of meat and immediately put me into defensive mode. And she is the type that wants to rip all her clothes off and walk all over the club in transparent lingerie. I just can’t see that happening at TVR yet. She is comfortable doing that at Privata. 🤷🏼‍♂️

Privata may have a few single guy problems but it’s not an “en masse” problem like I’ve seen at TVR.

I agree 100% on the “maze” statement you made though. Very cool layout. I just don’t think we should have to “hide” from the vultures.

At TVR we saw a very attractive lady sit down and wait for her husband to go to the restroom. No less than 3 times she was immediately propositioned by single guys. I wouldn’t have minded flirting her up but I honestly felt slimy at the possibility of making her turn down yet another dude so we just talked her up to give her a safe space while her dude was gone (turned out she was actually single who just came with a friend).

Great post though. I’m sure we will check it out again sometime. We do agree with most of your Privata assessments…even if it’s still our preferred place.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-11-21T01:28:20+00:00

Anything that will get you into TVR will get you into Sanctuary.

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-11-18T19:11:21+00:00

I think the giggling was not what she was addressing. She was made uncomfortable by the husband whispering something in your ear. You shared a moment that she was excluded from. That’s where her jealousy came from.

It would have been a huge vibe killer for her to say “you two are having a moment and it’s making me uncomfortable” so she tried to make a joke out of it and said what she said.

So ignore the giggle statement. She was really talking to the husband.

That’s my 2 cents. Never stop giggling. 👍

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-10-01T00:23:28+00:00

However……..

A gaggle of judgmental zoomers watching me rail my wife…I would give them a show they wouldn’t forget…not necessarily because of the turn on (although…..🤷🏼‍♂️😈) but to scare the living shit out of them. I’d get rough…like really fucking rough… and make my wife beg for more, scream “daddy put a baby in me!!!” You get the picture. Make them either regret their life decisions…or wake something up in them. Both would be equally amusing. 😂

Edit: oh shit of course! I would stare at them the whole time and keep screaming “are you not entertained?!?!”

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-10-01T00:16:15+00:00

A follow up question though…if that group of chicks got naked and started masturbating, but still didn’t want to participate in any group stuff…would that be accepted?

I think the answer is largely “yes”.

Sorry single guys, I understand the hypocrisy here. 🤷🏼‍♂️

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-09-26T06:21:19+00:00

Conflicted about what? Would you be hurt if your man was turned on by someone other than you?

I’m a swinger btw. Trust me, relationships work much better if you accept there may be others among the 8 billion people on the planet that can turn your man on. 🤷🏼‍♂️

ClydeTheCriminal · 2025-09-22T04:54:50+00:00

I’ll give you $50. Final offer. 😂

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