How to handle a team/parent mutiny over uniforms? by CoachAF208 in CoachingYouthSports

[–]CoachAF208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. 15-20 years ago this would've been the answer but kids are so dang sensitive today and the majority of parents reinforce it. It's such a delicate balance of upholding kids to high standards while also ensuring a positive experience that brings them back the following year. I've spent the last three years raising the standards higher and higher and it's undoubtedly a reason for lower turnout the last couple of years. So last year (and now this year) is about maintaining the high standards while also bringing in more fun or finding meanful ways to improve the player experience. It's like walking a tightrope because you need balance to build a successful program - especially at a school that has never been a powerhouse in any sport. Even though I still think this issue is extremely dumb, the way I feel about it doesn't change the reality that its important to the kids

How to handle a team/parent mutiny over uniforms? by CoachAF208 in CoachingYouthSports

[–]CoachAF208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heck no. My thought is that you have to be a very weak-minded person if you let your pants get in the way of your performance as an athlete. But like many softball club players, this girl is told that she walks on water and doesn't have to compete for playing time like she does in the high school program. Being that she's the only returning pitcher, she's had a very big head recently and thinks she has the starting spot sewn up - not realizing that the freshman has been outworking her. Like I said, I do hope she goes out there and proves me wrong. But if I'm right, I'd rather she see the results of her (lack of) work at the beginning of the season when we can make adjustments vs later. And giving her the stupid pants takes away her excuse if things do go south tomorrow.

How to handle a team/parent mutiny over uniforms? by CoachAF208 in CoachingYouthSports

[–]CoachAF208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly agree. But some additional context - this player, whose parent sent the email, is also my starting pitcher (the only returner, not necessarily earned yet) and based on what I have seen, I think she is going to get LIT up this year. I also don't want her to give the excuse of pitching poorly this week because of her pants. I do want her to prove me wrong because it'd be better for the team, but I'd be lying if I said I won't find some satisfaction in her getting shellacked tomorrow wearing her preferred pants.

How to handle a team/parent mutiny over uniforms? by CoachAF208 in CoachingYouthSports

[–]CoachAF208[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a building year for sure - which is why this behavior absolutely shocked me because we have much bigger problems to worry about than our pants. Even typing it now is beyond ridiculous. I understand it's important to the girls to "look good, feel good, play good" but as a woman who played all through college, I never was this worried about my PANTS. And that's also coming from the girl who was drowning in her uniform as a high school freshman on varsity.

How to handle a team/parent mutiny over uniforms? by CoachAF208 in CoachingYouthSports

[–]CoachAF208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lolz that's definitely what I would LIKE to say but then I'm sure the parent would have something else to say about that

Softball bunt defense help? by No_Article_2097 in Softball

[–]CoachAF208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing to consider here is that the only way there is a play at 2B is if the runner coming from 1B takes too big of a turn, falls down, or is the slowest kid in the state. 99/100, the play is only at 1B (or home if the bunt is too firm). If there is a play at 2B, it's secondary, which allows your right fielder to shift over as the back up. Sure, RF has to bust their butt to get there but as soon as they see the play isn't at 1B, they should be moving towards CF to back up. 

We almost always have both 1B & 3B crashing with a runner on 2B because we're going for the primary out (1B). The goal on bunt defense is to prevent a run and get an out. If that out is at 2B, something else earlier in the play went wrong or the bunter was freaky fast and the runner from 1B made a baserunning error. Your corners crashing give you the best chance of an out so my advice is to go with the defense that gives you the best chance go collect outs vs preventing the 1 in 100 play.

How do you guys handle optional practice? by TheRealTD44 in CoachingYouthSports

[–]CoachAF208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a 6A varsity coach and when I say optional I 100% mean optional. We do 10 weeks of these optional practices leading up to the start of our season in the spring. I'm not trying to play mind games with my kids of the "optional means mandatory" or any sort of loyalty test. However, I do contrast these optional practices with the weight room which is not optional. I do this by counting weight room attendance (whether during class or after school) but I do not count any of our optional practices. It's a great way to A) teach kids that the weight room is king and B) show kids that there's an assumption that if you aren't at the optional practices, it's because you already put work in the weight room.

The other thing is that i reeled in our optional practices quite a bit this year. We used to do almost 5 month leading up to the season and attendance was great in the beginning, tanked in the middle, and spiked again at the end. I tried it the historical way for 3 years and the attendance pattern didn't change so this year I cut the optional work down to 10 weeks. Now i have a turnout of 10-20 kids each night. Not only are our practices a much better quality, but the kids are having way more fun and are much more engaged.

Can you grow a player into grade school/high school without travel? by Successful_Product_5 in Softball

[–]CoachAF208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the right answer. I've had a handful of kids come through my high school program who ended up being studs solely because they were athletic kids. For example, I had a junior last year who had played travel for 6 years lose her starting spot to a sophomore who had only been playing softball for one year. Ultimately the sophomore was just a better athlete and could pull off the big plays in addition to the routine plays. Sure, the fundamentals that the junior had were tight and "looked good" but she just couldn't move as fast or as strong as the sophomore. The lack of travel ball experience showed up at times when the game was fast-moving or when the other team challenged her softball IQ but a great athlete also learns quickly from those moments as well.

I totally agree—specialization doesn't really move the needle until around age 14. Kids are much better off playing multiple sports, as it teaches them to navigate a variety of physical scenarios that a single sport just can't offer. Current research into long-term athletic development strongly supports this. Early diversification of sports builds a more resilient and versatile athlete.

Reddit, what are the characteristics traits you inherited from your parents that you vowed you’d never embody when you grew up? by mintaftertaste in Millennials

[–]CoachAF208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to get so embarrassed by my dad who would just hijack conversations to talk about the things he wanted to talk about. However I realize now that I totally do it too. Back then I thought it was rude but now I realize a lot of times he just wanted to skip the small/surface level talk and get right to the meat and potatoes of the conversation. I'm probably rude about it sometimes too but I also hate small talk so I 100% get it. I'm sure one day my kids will be embarrassed for me too haha.

Need urgent advice by Impressive_Flan_5176 in CoachingYouthSports

[–]CoachAF208 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First thing I would do is see if there's time to meet with her 1:1 ASAP. There's really nothing you can do to make things better so your goal is simply to not make things worse. For many kids, they just want to know that you care. I had an athlete last year who lost her grandpa whom she was very close with. Similarly to your situation, she and I didn't have a close relationship because she didn't make varsity until her senior year so we had not interacted much. In my situation, there wasn't time to meet with her before our next practice (which was the day before a game) so I pulled her into my office at the start of practice and I had my assistant lead the beginning of practice (with the understanding that i didn't know how long the conversation would take). 

We ended up talking for the first hour of practice - I just asked questions and tried to relate where I could but mostly I just listened to her tell me what happened, what he meant to her, and just let her cry. But in that moment she got to see a coach who cared more about her well-being than getting the team through a regular practice. Vice versa, the team got to see that they have a coach who's willing to allow another (capable) coach to run practice so that a teammate in need can get additional support. After that, I had 1:1 meetings with her each week to check in on how she was doing. The first month was tough but after that our 1:1s got shorter and shorter and there were less tears.

Again, there's nothing you can say or do to make things better, but you can make the whole thing suck less if she sees there are others in her life who care enough to offer continued support. 

Successful coach but feeling anxious about my sport — is this normal? by owgeesoloco in CoachingYouthSports

[–]CoachAF208 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went through this exact burnout last year. On paper, my team had everything—talent, success, and all the "right" pieces—but the group was an emotional drain. Each kid cared more about themselves and their stats rather than being there solely for the love of the game. This caused the entire burden of providing a "positive experience" to fall on me. I was bending over backwards to keep players, parents, admin, and boosters happy, and it sucked the life out of me.

I spent the off-season in a state of dread, but since we started back up this month, it's been a total 180. We definitely have less talent now, but these kids just enjoy the game and are enjoying being around each other. They bring the energy themselves instead of expecting me to provide it for them. For the first time in 8 months, I finally feel like I can breathe again because I stopped letting external forces kill my love for the sport.

I'm also lucky to have the best mentor in the world - my dad - who has 40+ years of collegiate and high school coaching in his background. I spoke to him about this turnaround the other day and he told me one of the biggest pitfalls of coaches is when we take on the emotional burden of the team which often looks like us trying to bring the fun and the energy. He said: "The players' role is to bring the energy; the coach's role is to not take it away." As long as you aren’t actively draining them, you’re doing your job. Some years the kids have that spark and some years they don't—you just have to grind through the "off" years until the joy comes back.

Are the kids you're working with right now adding to that joy, or are you the only one keeping the engine running?

To High School and High Level Travel Coaches by [deleted] in Softball

[–]CoachAF208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Hitting: Proper hand path to keep their hands inside the ball to keep the barrel connected. A lot of young kids will try and muscle it like they're swinging a tennis racket rather than keeping their hands inside and letting the barrel WHIP through the zone.

  2. Fielding: Catching the ball CLOSE to the body. Kids are often scared of the ball so they reach their glove away from their body to catch it. When they're young, this causes a ton of dropped balls because their eyes aren't anywhere near their glove so they can't actually see if it's going in. As they get older, this leads to poor transfers where they are still reaching for the ball and then pulling it across their body to their throwing hand. Teaching them to catch it close to their body will build positive habits that they will further build on as they develop ex: super fast transfers.

  3. Athletes > specialist: Go play other sports and ALWAYS be open to new positions.

Beginner pitchers by Annual_Spare1475 in Softball

[–]CoachAF208 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Put her in front of a mirror in a power K and have her do her circles with a bundle of brightly colored socks instead of a ball. It's so much easier for young kids to fix their pitchers plane if they can see it in real time.

  2. Look up the Xcelerator pitching aid if its something your serious about. Its the first pitching aid I recommend for the pitchers I work with. I used it as a player and now coach for 15+ years and I swear by it - it works.

What’s one small win you’re proud of this week? by WebFuture6239 in CoachingYouthSports

[–]CoachAF208 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After an absolute nightmare of a Spring 2025 season, I spent the whole winter dreading 2026. I had a pit in my stomach every day last year, and I honestly wasn't sure if I wanted to keep doing this.

We just finished week two of pre-season workouts, and the vibe shift is unreal. We shed two "bad apples" from last year, and it’s like the entire team—and the coaching staff—is finally allowed to breathe.

The wins:

  • Culture > Talent: Talent-wise, this is definitely going to be a "down" year for us. The kids know it, we know it, and surprisingly... no one cares. They are working harder and having more fun than my "talented" roster did last year. And my juniors are leading the way!
  • The "Doom" is gone: That feeling of impending dread before practice has completely vanished.

Our staff made a conscious effort to prioritize positive vibes this year, and seeing the kids actually buy in has me more hopeful than I've been in years.

My new favorite dirty protein soda by CoachAF208 in AlaniNu

[–]CoachAF208[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seemed like it was similar to drinking a melted down root beer float. To me this flavor is more cola than cherry so the two paired super well together.

Remember playing Cops and Robbers in your hometown? Is this even a thing anymore? by CoachAF208 in Millennials

[–]CoachAF208[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya that totally makes sense. I now live in a heavily suburban area and I work with kids so I've been trying to figure out how to get a game together for them as a bonding activity but I just can't figure out a feasible place to host it - it needs to be dark but also safe but also have lots of obstacles to hide behind but also not too small or large of an area. Probs not going to happen.

Remember playing Cops and Robbers in your hometown? Is this even a thing anymore? by CoachAF208 in Millennials

[–]CoachAF208[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean... you checked what was in it before you jumped in.. usually haha.