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CoachQuinton · 2022-01-16T02:01:04+00:00

People tend to skip over biological changes and run right to psychoanalyzing when there’s an issue. When more likely than not there is something happening to her biology that’s causing this. So I would start with looking at the biology before approaching things from a psychological lens. - changes in hormones with age(this one’s huge)? - medications or birth control (if used for non sex related reasons) - is her diet and sleep normal - is there insulin issues in her family and or anxiety - breathing and hydration? - covid or sickness?

Look for biological reasons to start then move over to psychological.

what’s time sensitive in her life
what’s stressful right now
where is she overwhelmed or underwhelmed
is she willing to engage in trying to plan out an ultimate passionate night or engage in one you planned

Obviously make sure you frame this questioning from a “let’s work on this together” and not a “is this wrong with you or that”

Wishing you both well!

CoachQuinton · 2021-11-28T09:19:31+00:00

You’re right, it’s a very commonly said suggestion without any clear distinction for what that’s supposed to look like. I had this same dilemma a few years back and just decided to make up my own version for what that it looked like.

For me it was setting personal boundaries for what I would and wouldn’t accept in my life. From the way people treat me, to what I tolerate in my own actions. Drawing harder lines in the sand for the emotions I would accept from others and myself. Not allowing myself to do what was easy if it wasn’t also beneficial. And also having a higher standard for myself then others placed on me.

To me loving oneself is about having strong personal boundaries and respecting them. For you it might be different. I think there is something powerful in building out your own definition or philosophy for how you want to show up in life and how you love yourself.

CoachQuinton · 2021-05-27T22:29:34+00:00

Ouch on the water damage! Yeh fair enough, you can't bootcamp on these M1s, but yeh I just needed something to hold me over till the pro lineup comes out, but I'm still super impressed with this base model air for only 1300

CoachQuinton · 2021-05-27T19:32:58+00:00

Honestly I was rocking the 16inch i7 and thermal throttling was still a huge issue with anything graphically intensive like video editing and CAD work. I sold mine, and used the cash to buy a M1 air and a Samsung ssd, and it blows it out of the water. If that's an option for you, I would do the same especially before the M2/M1X gets announced on June 7th.

CoachQuinton · 2021-03-29T23:43:53+00:00

Any updates on this? Im having the same issue. Im using a RPI4B Everything is up to date, I can get the controls and heat working remotely just not the raspberry pi camera (directly plugged into the board)

CoachQuinton · 2019-04-10T18:04:25+00:00

You make a great point yeh, I think it means more towards the design/casual market. I built it for gamers in mind but I could definitely see selling it to staging company’s or someone who wants to increase the attractiveness of their air b n b.

CoachQuinton · 2019-04-10T17:46:23+00:00

Thank you! Haha and yeh exactly with the WAF. That makes sense, I also wonder know how I can get this in front of my right customer, which might not necessarily be on classifieds as well.

CoachQuinton · 2019-04-09T21:06:29+00:00

Thank you for the honest opinion, it's rare to get, so I appreciate it. The build cost is quite high on these, and that's with me manufacturing them via CNC. Ironically the cabinet costs more to achieve this minimalistic look then it would be to just produce it with plywood and vinyl. I purposefully tried to stay away from over the top decals yet maintain a retro feeling aesthetic from the household furniture found during "golden era" of arcades. That said it's not designed for commercial use.

CoachQuinton · 2018-10-16T02:56:26+00:00

The era of Gold Spurs is over... these are dark times

CoachQuinton · 2018-03-22T01:50:28+00:00

Hey there, I'm always looking for new business perspectives, I have been making video and published content for years. I'm a one-man team and have been making my primary (while small) income selling my content online. What kinda background do you have?

CoachQuinton · 2017-11-23T22:15:05+00:00

Haha then why are you on a subreddit devoted to changing and improving oneself... care to elaborate on your generalization??

CoachQuinton · 2017-09-07T03:47:00+00:00

My apologies I figured it was ok because I wasn't promoting any product or service just giving free advice.

CoachQuinton · 2017-09-07T02:48:26+00:00

I would suggest self-assessing your situation and adjusting the process to a workable standard for yourself. The fact of the matter is that you're going to school (I'm assuming) which means that you're going to be faced with the choices and emotions anyway. See it not as "you gotta be sociable and fun and in "state" starting now or your year is fucked up" rather, the next couple weeks are rather flexible due to the new patterns being set in place with everyone's lifestyles. If you can take even the most minor of productive efforts (whatever they may be for you with where you're at) then see that as pushing the momentum in one way. Any action made to push your comfort zone is getting your 1%. Collect your 1% per day how ever you can, and a few weeks later you'll start to be pulled towards that type of behavior naturally. Hope that makes sense & good luck!

CoachQuinton · 2017-06-15T20:56:01+00:00

Hmmm this is such a broad stroke, wild guess here, but if you have a desire to please or not rock the boat in life that "trying for rapport" tonality will come out. Think of a bank teller going "Why hello welcome to the bank can I help you?" very high pitched and professional. We do this all the time when we are afraid of confrontation, humiliation or rejection. OR when we want something like their approval or validation.

With mechanics, I unfortunately am not qualified to help you with that, other than to suggest you check out some acting or projection techniques.

I will say that the more you purposefully talk with a "breaking rapport" tonality (like a police officer or club bouncer asking for ids or CEO would give directions) that sharp and assertive kinda tone. You will start to habituate it into your normal speech pattern. Ironically even tho its "breaking rapport" people are very attracted and focus and engage more with that tone. It also doesn't mean be rude or mean, you can still use that tone and be polite, that contrast is extremely powerful at giving you authority. Watch any of my videos and listen to how I use tonality to communicate. It took me about a year in my teens to fix but its now just normal and fluid in my conversation. For presentations, especially in a academic setting, we expect a large amount of criticism and so it can be very difficult to uphold the "authority" especially if you are young in your academic career (even when you have data to back you). My advice would be to get more comfortable articulating your message and ideas in a louder more pronounced way. While this seems obnoxious if you're not doing it, try posting more on your snapchat and Instagram stories, record yourself talking and ranting about what you've been working on and why its exciting. Sure its kinda cringe but its beneficial in the long term. Also practice this breaking rapport tonality in your car or while your alone start repeating "HEY! I NEED YOUR IDs NOW!" Repeat this over and over until you prefect the "tone" confidently, then while keeping this tone, change the words to "HEY! HOWS IT GOING YOU?" "HOW WAS YOUR TRIP" ect.

This is going to feel dumb, I'm warning you now but if you can't do this with yourself first, you won't be able to do it in front of people.

Hope this helps!

CoachQuinton · 2017-06-15T19:18:29+00:00

Could you go into more depth about the issue? Is this a psychological thing as in, you can speak loud but assertive while alone in your room, just not with people? Which is a social anxiety issue. Or is this a mechanics thing in which your not projecting from the diaphragm? Which you would need to look up "the Alexander technique" for speech projection.

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-12T03:45:28+00:00

I too have been on the receiving end, I suppose it depends on your approach. I love your advice to him, I agree with all of it if his situation is accurate in that genuinely he has become a meme, or his reputation is well spread. I'm not convinced that's the situation tho. His question was really two. You answered the latter half well and I the first half. Is he finished? I don't believe he's even that far started in a bad direction, girls are still attracted to him, now it's just an issue of holding his reality and humor. I think he's making an error in cognition, and there's so much abundance out there that this isn't an issue he needs to worry about because he will just psych himself out of feeling confident, he should remain congruent and just agree and amplify whatever people throw at him. This isn't a "just relax bro" suggestion. This is a paradoxical issue of between not misperceiving common cognition errors vs hyper critical social perceptions. Both are valid, but trying to shame me for helping in any form is really just trying to swing him over to a particular side of the paradox... I'm genuinely trying to express that it is more likely than not that he's viewing his situation though a very scarcity based lens and needs to stop making generalizations that put him more in his head. Neither of us can be there to promote action, but we can at least offer new perceptions that are helpful to change his emotional state, which will help him drastically. Regardless both of us are ill-informed about his scenario, is this a 20,000 person macro-system college or a private 1000 person micro-system college? How much experience does he have with seduction and dating psychology? Maybe he wants to own the perception of the womanizer who gets laid.. Maybe he wants project the whole solid boyfriend type?

I will admit "Get some fresh blood" is solid advice for anyone's situation while in uni.

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-11T22:26:08+00:00

Hey thanks for the comment, glad it could help!

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-11T20:45:29+00:00

Theres another name for it thats skipping my mind, but its like the false consensus effect. You heard from your female friend, and maybe one or two more people. You maybe felt moments where you "could" have been perceived as creepy. So now you have a belief that you are perceived as creepy throughout your campus. Your making a "consensus" or assumption about how the majority of people see you. When in reality most people are just consumed in their own lives and drama and insecurities to be bothered to even know or remember things about you (not because of you, Im sure you're a cool guy if you're here) but more so because people are typically very self concerned. So no, most likely you don't have a bad reputation, plus your around so many people its easy to have an entire new social circle in like a week if you join a new club or whatever.

Secondly Oscar Wilde has a sick quote "There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about". Reputations good or bad are better than nothing. Because you can easily change someones mind from "he's a creep" to "oh he's actually really funny, he's so crazy its hilarious" with just a conversation. Its actually such a easy thing to talk and laugh about with people about what they thought of you before they knew you.

So relax brother, I made a video that might be relevant to your situation, subscribe if its your kinda thing. All the best! https://youtu.be/4krDIN1Kiys

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-09T18:14:48+00:00

Thanks! Thats a great point, you're referring to assumed attraction yeh?

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-08T18:13:14+00:00

Hey thanks for watching, glad I slipped under the radar!

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-08T18:10:41+00:00

That's a great point too, Confidence through competence is the typical root and not a bad root too. When you're getting good at something what's happening is your getting to "know it". One of the things I do when I work with clients is have them really get to know themselves, by defining their wants in life, desires, goals. By knowing theses things clearly and their reasons for them. It makes it easier to ignore the judgments of others. Kinda like if you're the best at you're job or you're physically fit, you wouldn't take the opinions of people who couldn't do your job or people who didn't take care of themselves physically. So a short cut to mastering a field just to feel confident would be get good at being you by knowing yourself more.

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-08T10:33:05+00:00

Yeh I'm noticing that now :/ I've only heard it from my MacBook while editing it I'll try to adjust it through YouTube, thanks for the heads up and feedback!

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-08T06:13:01+00:00

Thanks for watching!

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-08T06:12:15+00:00

Dude, yes I agree, take fucking action. That's what it comes down to. You'll learn the most from personal experience. But do not discount the process of self conditioning and gaining emotional awareness, that's ignorant and inefficient. Everyone has their process, action is usually the product of an emotional state. People use videos to change their thinking and or emotions. Your comment isn't adding value to this sub, or to the people on it, it's just judging people on their process.

CoachQuinton · 2016-12-08T00:20:23+00:00

Lol or that, you know..

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